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excuses needed

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albazavi · 26/08/2015 11:11

Hi all,

I'm after a strange bit of advice if anyone can help. I'm currently 8wks+6 (previous pg ended in mc). We have decided to keep this one a secret apart from close family until 12 weeks for obvious reasons.

Today I've been invited to a water sports activity day for my best friends birthday. Now this is not my normal idea of fun but I'd already confirmed that I was free. I'll be about 11 weeks when it is. I don't want to partake because of the risks (very nervous with this pg) and really don't want to be in a wetsuit at that point!

How do I come up for an excuse for not wanting to join in but also want to be there for the rest of the birthday (bbq etc) which I can get through without drinking? I can't just duck out on the day (not feeling well/ period) as she wants to book now.

I can't tell friend as although she's lovely- she knew last time and told everyone and told everyone about the mc which I didn't want! She's a very open person with emotions and doesn't get that some things are private.

Any help will be gratefully received.

Thanks x

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Topsy34 · 26/08/2015 11:13

Can you not just say you cant afford to join in on the activities, but would love to come to the rest of it. Maybe offer to come and watch them all get wet and take lots of photos

blondiejess1982 · 26/08/2015 11:17

I have been making up loads of excuses lately, I have shocked myself at my lies!! I would say that you are not feeling 100% and although you feel okay to come along you don't think going in water is a good idea, especially if it's a cold virus you are coming down with. Of course later you could be feeling much better and 'feel gutted' that you missed out on the water stuff x

blondiejess1982 · 26/08/2015 11:21

I just realised its pre booked! Say that you have something on that you forgot about in the morning but will be able to make it to the celebrations after ?

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albazavi · 26/08/2015 11:22

I like the photo taker idea- I could just say does she not mind me getting wet if I be in charge of photos. I was hoping to fake illness but it's too far away to say I'm feeling poorly now... good ideas though. I'm surprising myself and my easiness to lie as well! Feel awful about it though :(

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RockerMummy184 · 26/08/2015 11:37

Can you have a minor 'accident' which has resulted in a sore wrist/ankle/back and your 'physio' has advised no extreme sports for at least 6 weeks until the soft tissue damage is mended?

MrsPCR · 26/08/2015 11:39

You could have something like a really badly infected toenail and not sure it will be healed in time/Dr advised avoid swimming for 6 weeks? Just make sure you wear sensible closed in shoes on the day!!

PallasCat · 26/08/2015 11:41

Perforated eardrum/ear infection? That would totally rule out water activities. I take your point totally on wanting to be able to say now that you can't do it, rather than last minute. I'm no expert - I've never had a perforated eardrum (FX, touch wood, etc!) - but I know they take time to heal, so if you were 'diagnosed' around now, I reckon it would be feasible that you'd be warned off water activities for a month or so, and then as PP suggested you could volunteer to be there as a photographer so that you still get to participate in a way you're comfortable with.

CatBlaster · 26/08/2015 11:46

If you really want to go for it, in a week or so, you could say you have a vaginal infection causing you to have excessive bleeding and have been prescribed metronidazole (a big no no with booze). Double whammy!

But kind of tmi and gross, and I speak from experience on this one

LibrariesGaveUsP0wer · 26/08/2015 11:50

Do not say metronidazole! To anyone who has ever been pregnant, saying that is a big red flag. People think it works because most people are polite enough to dig. Two friends have done this on me and I've nodded and sympathised and waited for the announcement

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 26/08/2015 12:02

Hospital apt scheduled for you or a parent? I've had MRI's for a dodgy knee in the past

frangipani13 · 26/08/2015 12:08

Could you say you really want to come along but the activities aren't your bag (I'd rather boil my own head than do water sports). Keeps it simple? On the day pretend you have a massive hangover to avoid drinking.

Dollface136 · 26/08/2015 12:51

I've been using the "I have to babysit my niece" excuse a lot recently to avoid daytime drinking if that helps at all. Can't be drunk in charge of a wild 2 year old ;-)

As for the watersports I think the other posters have some great excuses covered.

Nousername2015 · 26/08/2015 13:21

UTI? That way doc would advise no water contact and antibiotics to treat could also take care of the no boozing?

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albazavi · 26/08/2015 13:28

Great ideas- fate may have just landed an excuse in my lap with my moving date being put back to that week. I will need to be in to sort things out and can join them later! If that doesn't work - one of your amazing suggestions might- uti might be a way to go- I suffer from them a lot anyway!

Frangipani13- completely agree with you about water sports. Why the hell I would want to spend my saturday afternoon in a wetsuit building a frigging raft and having to pay for the pleasure is beyond me!

Thanks all! MN to the rescue as always!

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