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urgent help with SPD please!

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RockerMummy184 · 23/08/2015 08:00

I know it's all my own fault and therefore I shouldn't moan, but oh my god, the pain!

Walked into the village and then to my mums house yesterday. Probably 2 miles in total, broken up with some sit downs in the park etc. but today I'm in so much pain I can't really do anything. I only just managed to get down the stairs.

I woke up in the night crying I felt like such a child and couldn't get comfortable no matter how many pillows I tried to wedge myself between.

I've taken codeine and paracetamol (I've only taken half a dose of codeine as it's my turn to get up with DS while DH lies in and didn't want to be groggy, so I can potentially take some more when he gets up), but it's barely taken the edge off.

I feel so guilty, DS has got Peppa on the TV and is playing with his cars all nicely on his own because I can't get down to play with him.

What else can I possibly do to improve the pain now?

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Skiptonlass · 23/08/2015 08:57

Rest. That's all you can do :(

When I have a day I have to walk on (not even far just to the bus stop and the midwife) it seems to inflame everything and it takes days to settle down. There's just nothing that fixes it. A good soak in the tub doesn't hurt, but really rest is theory.

Also a bit grim but I've found that sometimes I get minor relief from the joints cracking - I lie on my side with a pillow between my knees and squeeze my knees together hard, and do my kegels. Sometimes I get a Big Crunch which helps a tiny bit.

Physios will now be along to tell me I shouldn't do this...

I sympathise - the pain is awful. The frustration at being so immobile is awful too.

Skiptonlass · 23/08/2015 08:57

Not theory sorry, the only thing.

YouBastardSockBalls · 23/08/2015 08:58

Rest, painkillers, crutches.

Shit isn't it?

Flowers
Swannykazoo · 23/08/2015 09:00

Serola belt kept me active - from Amazon.

Every1KnowsJeffHesUsuallyACunt · 23/08/2015 09:10

I'm 34 weeks and waiting on physio. It's horrendous and I completely sympathise. I also have sciatica to boot so can't actually feel my lower leg and foot on the right side Hmm

Yes to painkillers and rest.
Get a support belt or vest.
Get a sleep pillow if you can.
Get a pilates ball. Just sitting on it for a short time everyday has helped me.
Go on YouTube and put in 'exercises for spd', there are videos that will give you some relief.

And no more walking 2 miles!! Flowers

Swannykazoo · 23/08/2015 09:47

You've probably done most of these things - plastic bag on the car seat so you can swivel in and out. Silky nightie (yes really) to make moving about in bed easier. I got up in the morning, put my Serola belt on and there it stayed (apart from loo visits) till bedtime. I was really struggling at one point and saw an osteopath who gave me some acupuncture as I had a back muscle gone into spasm due to my weird hobbling. I don't usually believe any of that but it made a huge difference. Physio just told me to imagine I'd been to finishing school and keep my knees together.
Above all its NOT YOUR FAULT! Its the stupid relaxin hormone trying to help you out later....

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RockerMummy184 · 26/08/2015 08:47

I'm back to whinge again! Thank you all for your advice and sympathy, but nothing seems to be working.

I went to see my gp on Monday and was prescribed stronger painkillers which do take the edge off, but make me sleepy.

I am following all the advice I got from my physio (keep legs together, walk slowly, sit down to get dressed, etc), and I'm trying to do the exercises she gave me, but it really hurts and I'm scared I'm doing more harm!

I have found a website for the 'pelvic society' and wondered if it's worth giving them a ring? Or should I try to get an appointment with my midwife today?

I'm so sick of not being able to sleep (apart from when I'm in a drug induced stupor), and not being able to play with my son because I'm in too much pain.

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Room101isWhereIUsedToLive · 26/08/2015 08:51

Acupuncture. In my second pregnancy, I went and had it as soon as the twinges started. I had two sessions and then no problems until after the birth, which was probably due to totally ignoring the idea of legs being close together.

ilikebaking · 26/08/2015 08:55

The only thing that helped mine was the chiropractor, and several large doses of codeine a day.
I am not having more children because I cannot stand the pain.

Every1KnowsJeffHesUsuallyACunt · 26/08/2015 08:58

I've got no experience myself having never visited one, but I've heard an Osteopath might be the next step for you Rocker.

Hopefully someone will come along and give you more information about them but it might be something to consider looking into Flowers

chandelierswinger · 26/08/2015 09:10

Your poor, poor thing Flowers I remember it only too well. The guilt about but being able to play on the floor is as painful as the pain isn't it? Sad I used to get my DC to bring things to me (on the chair/sofa/in bed) to play with. Don't beat yourself up about the Peppa pig on repeat either; you have to do whatever gets you through. I asked my eldest if he remembers my pregnancy/how poorly I was (3yo when I delivered) but it's all been forgotten, so hope that reassures you a little.

How many weeks are you?

A few things you may not have thought of/tried:

  1. Pillow between your knees in bed
  2. Shower for pain relief (bath only if you can manage it and you have help there for getting in/out... I got stuck once where my pelvis had frozen!)
  3. Regular pain relief, allowing if to build up
  4. Changing position often so you don't get stuck
  5. Contact your GP to ask whether they have the option for occupational therapist support- I was loaned a perching chair for the kitchen (so I could prepare food), a bed rail (to pull up on), an over toilet support (wasn't too far down to the loo!), a bath seat (to get in/out), some grabbers for picking things up and some chair "feet" to raise up my armchair to a "perfect" height for pelvic alignment. They were also talking about putting in a stair rail for me, but I declined. This support wasn't there when I has SPD with my eldest but it made all the difference to me with my youngest. If OTs can't help (or aren't available), the Red Cross often loan access equipment.

Brew Cake and sympathy in lieu of Gin

chandelierswinger · 26/08/2015 09:11

Forgive the typos Blush

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RockerMummy184 · 26/08/2015 09:15

Thank you chandelier that's really helpful. I'll call my gp again today.

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chandelierswinger · 26/08/2015 17:37

Pleasure. Good luck. Thinking of you Flowers

Playnicelyforfiveminutes · 26/08/2015 17:45

Owwww.... I didn't restrict painkillers. I am a pussy though, and probably selfish.. Hang in there, and take taxis :)

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RockerMummy184 · 26/08/2015 18:53

My arsehole husband has got in from work, had a go at me because I haven't been to the post office. He's cooked dinner for himself and left me and DS to fend for ourselves, and then asked me what I've been doing all day! Honest answer, my dear, sat crying for most of the afternoon, but you wouldn't care would you?!
Now I'm in the wrong because I haven't been back to the doctors today, and how dare I get upset that he's yelling at me when it's something I could help myself with! Sad
Roll on 8pm.

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chandelierswinger · 26/08/2015 20:58

Oh Rocker Flowers Do you have anyone who can help you out? Get to your GP tomorrow. Flowers

RandomMess · 26/08/2015 21:01

Osteopath made a HUGE difference for me plus frozen pea ice pack and rest, rest, rest.

simplydivine05 · 26/08/2015 21:19

Get a good physio. Mine is a specialist in spd type problems. I have to pay for her though but I found the NHS physios useless. I have hypermobility so my spd continued beyond pregnancy and 7 years on I'm still having issues while ttc no 2 (must be mad!). The pelvic partnership are worth ringing to put you in touch with a good one. ((((((Hugs)))))) x

24hourM0MMY · 26/08/2015 22:42

Um, first of all, no matter how lovely your DH may or may not be normally, he is totally in the wrong blaming you for any of this. Kudos to you for keeping up your end of the bargain taking turns with your DS. We do a similar thing and its getting hard (7 months pregnant) and I'm about to throw in the towel.

Secondly, best advice here being given to you is the to get rest. I have bad SPD as well, and if I overdo it ine day, I suffer a lot as well the next day, so best to try and and avoid too much activity in the first place.

Third, someone else has already mentioned seeing an osteopath. I've found my visits are helping a lot.

Good luck and get some rest!

Cavort · 26/08/2015 23:06

I suffered really miserably with SPD in my first pregnancy, so in my second pregnancy (currently 33 weeks) I started seeing a Chiropractor at the first hint of pain. He's been absolutely brilliant and I am not in any pain. I really regret putting up with the suffering in my first pregnancy when I could have just seen a Chiro.

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RockerMummy184 · 27/08/2015 10:28

Thanks everyone.

I have got my mum coming to collect my shopping list later today so I don't have to waddle round the supermarket pushing the trolley, which I'm super grateful for!

I have contacted the physio I went to see a few weeks back but they don't have any appointments available until September 25th! (Probably a blessing in disguse really since they were bloody useless last time!)

I'm going to get the yellow pages out later and look for a local osteo/chiropractor.

Thank you all for being so supportive and understanding. My husband still doesn't get it, despite me waking up in tears at 3am for the last 4 nights! He asked me again this morning if I'm sure I don't want to go camping in the Lake District with him and DS this weekend...Hmm

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CarrotVan · 27/08/2015 12:50

This yoga routine is good for SPD.

When you look for osteopaths or other therapists make sure they will treat pregnant women as many won't. The British School of Ostepoathy run a specialist clinic for pregnant women but it's in London

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