Dating whilst Preggo..

[Cheshirehello79]

Found out that I was pregnant when I just finished with my ex and decided to keep the baby. Ex has not been involved at all in the pregnancy though he knows and I'm now almost 25 weeks.

As much as I have fantastic support network of family, friends and work sometimes I do feel alone and wish I could share the experience with someone close.

I decided to join specific online dating site dedicated to pregnant singles and have been chatting to a lovely guy who understands my situation but still wants to know me date and even relationship.

Question is should I date whilst pregnant or just concentrate in my upcoming child and then think about it then ?

I'm kind of torn as to why I should do

Absolutely fine to date. You don't have to be thinking serious relationship just enjoy having some fun, going out whilst you don't need a babysitter!

I'm the nicest way possible I would be running a mile in the opposite direction (or as far as my exhausted pregnant legs would take me!).

'Pregnant singles dating site' sounds awfully like a smokescreen for creepymenwithbumpfetishes.com! Of course this lovely guy wants to date you now, but when bump becomes baby who is screaming at him for milk at 2am I'm not sure he'll have the same reaction.

Concentrate on yourself and your baby, be grateful that you have a lovely family and group of friends to support you, and good luck.

Cungratulations on your pregnancy and huge kudos for going it alone.
I'm glad you have a good support network of family and friends and I do get that they no matter how great they are, can't fill the gap that a partner/ lover can.
BUT from the little I know about those specific dating sites, I've always been pretty dubious. (I think there was a Channel 4 documentary about it a while back - so very limited real life exoerience!) And felt they maybe cater for men that possibly have a borderline pregnancy fetish. As that is an actual thing!
I'd just be very cautious, especially if things get physical. As pregnancy can be a tough enough time physically and emotionally, without the addition of jittery date hormones too.
Just protect yourself and be very wary that generally it's a bit out of the norm that a man would specifically seek to date a women carrying a other man's child.

call me a cynic but I would be deeply skeptical of any man who used a dating site devoted to pregnant singles.

but as for dating in general, fine. as long as all parties know the score.

What RockerMummy said. No normal man goes looking for an already pregnant woman for a relationship

What Rocker said x100

Fine to date, but I'd be deeply suspicious of a man actively seeking out pregnant woman to date.

You're about to embark on a huge life change. I think you should be concentrating on you and your new baby first and foremost.. if someone lovely waltzes into you life, perfect.. but just let it happen naturally.. you've got enough going on right now and you two are most important.

What Rocker, sizethree, spaggybollocks, floggingmolly & smurkedsalmon said.

Dating whilst pregnant is absolutely fine - but maybe through somebody who is interested in you as a person and not because you are pregnant. Without hammering this potentially 100% normal guy, I just don't like the circumstances.

If someone in RL was interested in going for a drink with you, then fine, why not? I am dubious about this dating site.... I am dubious about dating sites in particular but that maybe just be me.

Huge credit to you for going it alone, taking it in your stride and to even have the desire to date!

4th what rocker said.
Why would a single man go seeking a pregnant woman.
Not saying there's anything wrong with it, each to their own an all but you could be talking to some right weirdos!

Have you asked him why he joined a pregnant woman dating site? Why would a man actively seek out pregnant women? The only ones I can think of are for a fetish or to target/ control vulnerable women and/or get access to their children.

Have to agree with rocker (and the other pp)here. And I say that grudgingly as he is perhaps a very nice man who I'm casting aspersions on, but its all seems a bit icky. I would be very very wary of any men who are into a certain things (and this website does seem fetish-y and weird if I'm honest just from the sound of it) can only spell trouble in the long run. As others have said a lot of the time these men are only interested in vulnerable, hormonal women... I would most definitely focus on the baby.

I would be extremely cautious. Didn't that guy from the lost prophets target pregnant women to get close to little babies?

I'm newly single and 37 weeks pregnant. Although you may not feel it at the moment, you are the most vulnerable you have been in probably your whole adult life, and your vulnerability is going to rocket very soon. This site sounds really worrying, and I think fetish may be the least of your worries, as it caters for men seeking extremely vulnerable women.

Think on this scenario: you're soon to drop, your mobility and sleep are compromised, having sex is near impossible. And then your knight in shining armour changes. You have a stark choice between keeping your abuser close or getting help from the emergency services, which will trigger ss involvement and the enormous fear that accompanies ss. That has been my situation, and it's shit. XP is the father of my baby, so he should have more of a vested interest in my wellbeing than some stranger. You will be so fucking shocked by how people might treat you when you are at your most vulnerable. Brad Pitt could knock my door and declare his undying love, but until my resilience has returned, and this could take a year, I will keep myself and my baby safe by letting my family and friends support us, and nobody else because I don't have time of energy to use my radar and instincts on someone new.

I'd be worried about a man actively seeking out someone who is soon to have a vulnerable child dependant on them. Doesn't se normal to e. Of course there is the fetish aspect of it, but following that you will have a new baby you would presumably be giving this man access to knowing that he purposely went looking for someone in this situation. Doesn't seem right to me from a child protection POV