Pre partum depression. Pls help :(

[LoveLetters]

Does pre partum exist? I feel like I'm really struggling. I'm really short tempered and feel angry. I just want to be left alone all the time but I can because I have two other children. I'm really tearful a lot and I'm blowing things out of proportion. I want to enjoy this pregnancy but I'm not. I feel feel exhausted all the time. Can someone help me make sense of what is happening? I have no patience for anything

Would really appreciate any words. Struggling so much

It most definitely does exist make an appointment with your gp or midwife asap

Yes, it is definitely a thing, very common and very normal. Also called pre-natal depression. Speak to your midwife and GP who will be able to offer support and if necessary medication which is safe to take whilst pregnant. There is some evidence to suggest that those with prenatal depression are more likely to experience postnatal depression so best to get it sorted now.

What they said above, please see your GP and MW, don't struggle in silence, there is definitely help there.

I had ante-natal depression and anxiety with DS and now again in this pregnancy. It is easing a little at 17wks but not much to set me off.

fist bump you're not alone. It's hard especially with 2 little ones also to care for.

How many weeks are you?

Oh yes. And it's miserable. You try to talk sense to yourself but it doesn't work. I'm working with the mental health team for mine.
My mam had it really bad. She spent most of one of her pregnancies crying. The GP wanted to hospitalise her. This was 30 odd years ago. She says the day after she delivered she could feel a weight lift.
As PP said please talk to your midwife.
Also just to add mine has really settled since about 30 weeks. I'm 34 weeks now

I'm worried if I say something to the midwife they will take my baby away. I know that sounds extreme but it won't go away

It is common. I'd they took babies away because of this they would have a lot of babies who had been taken from loving caring parents. So they don't except where there is actually risk of harm. The vast majority of depressed mothers (like the vast majority of mothers) are good parents.
Is your partner supportive? Do you have parents and friends around you.

Yep, it absolutely does. Much better to see someone now, as apparently you can be more prone to post natal if you have pre natal, so it would be best for you and baby to see someone.

Don't worry about them taking the baby away; that's not going to happen! It will just help you to cope with it. As PP's have said, it's pretty common.

"It" being perinatal depression. Not taking babies from loving parents!!

I worried about telling people in case they took DS away. They didn't

But doesn't stop me worrying the same with this pregnancy. I cried multiple times a day until about a week ago. Now it's every other day or so.

It is incredibly hard indeed. Look after yourself

As the others said, get some help. Doc can also check your thyroid hasn't gone awol and for any other underlying problem like iron deficiency etc etc - don't struggle through alone

Thankyou. I have my midwife appt on Thirsday so I will speak to her. You've given me the confidence to say something. My partner knows something is wrong because when I have an outburst he just gives me a cuddle.

It's so common that in many areas there are specialist antenatal mental health professionals. Please don't worry about telling your midwife - they've heard it all before and can access all sorts of help for you

Loveletters. Please don't worry about them taking your baby, I've worked in social services for 10 years and never ever seen a child removed for pre or post natal depression.

I've got it too, mostly manifesting as anxiety. I'm receiving counselling. How far along are you? I've felt a lot better since I entered the 2nd trimester.