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Giving birth alone

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cheezypeas · 09/08/2015 18:28

Is anyone else, by choice not going to have a birthing partner with them? I didn't have anyone with me last time and won't this time either. I can't bear having anyone around me fussing when I'm in pain and discomfort....I just want to be alone and manage it in my own way. Most people I say this to can't believe I don't want anyone with me, and am sure think I'm a bit odd!

Just wondered if anyone else felt like this??

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superbabysmummy · 09/08/2015 18:31

I can understand it, I'd consider it if I didn't think it would crush my hubby! He wants to be there and baby is 1/2 him too

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cheezypeas · 09/08/2015 20:22

I think DH is pretty relieved to be off the hook so to speak

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MissMuffetisin · 09/08/2015 20:25

I take it you don't mean totally alone there will be a midwife ?

Junosmum · 09/08/2015 20:25

I'm like you and can't stand fussing. Dh is adamant he's going to be there so is under strict instructions to keep at arms length and silent!

fanjodisfunction · 09/08/2015 20:26

not with my quick labours, I'm usually out of it on gas and air. if it wasn't for dh with me last time I don't think my son would be with us, as his heart rate dropped and the midwife wasn't to bothered dh insisted to get a doctor who literally pulled my son out of me at 7cm.

I can understand it though.

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cheezypeas · 09/08/2015 20:27

Oh aye, I'll let a MW in (I am hoping for a water birth) ..as long as she sits in the corner, shuts up and just gets ready to catch

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LumpyCustard69 · 09/08/2015 20:31

I have no birth partner, and am being induced this Friday. Everyone thinks I'm mad and/or gives me pitying looks when they find out.
Mine's not entirely by choice, it's just that there is no one that can do it that wouldn't stress me out to the limit rather than being a calming influence!!

MissMuffetisin · 09/08/2015 20:33

I had one birth wit DH present, two without. He was looking after the first two. To be honest it was better without - felt i could just concentrate on the labour and get on with it. But I had already been through it so knew what to expect . I quite liked the all female environment too - I feel it is something only women can truly empathise with

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cheezypeas · 09/08/2015 20:43

With having my DD this time as well, I'd much rather know DH was with her and she was being looked after....

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OMGBabyNo3 · 09/08/2015 22:42

There is a tiny chance my husband won't be back from a business trip if I was to go into labour a couple of weeks early. If that was the case I'd rather just gave midwives. I would rather no one but the person who got me into this mess saw me in that state (have done this twice before )

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