Godparents before the birth

[NicNak22]

Hi

I am 20 weeks and we are thinking of making cards with scan image and poem to ask godparents . We will want little one Christened pretty son after birth. Do you think it's OK to ask before the birth ?

Personally, I wouldn't, because I'm superstitious like that (and I know lots of my friends would be uncomfortable about being asked in advance too). But in the hospital when they come to visit you would be fine

No problem , I have asked and been asked. But I am not superstitious at all.

You know your friends best. I'd be uncomfortable being asked at this stage in pregnancy but you know them and perhaps they wouldn't mind?

Is there any reason why you are keen to rush it?

You're only half way through the pregnancy! Maybe just take a step back. You could always ask them after the birth and send them a picture of the actual baby.

Scans are amazing when you're the parent, but to most people they are pretty much just grainy blobs.

Hi, I got a special card saying to
Someone Special and inside put a scan picture saying 'will you be my godparents' and the two couples were so emotional and over the moon.

I wouldn't because some people are WEIRD once babies are born. Friends you think will be very supportive will suddenly disappear from your life and people you don't think you're close to suddenly become your best friends. I would wait and make a final decision once the baby has been here a while.

Thank you for the advice, I'm not in any rush however I would have my baby welcomed into my church soon after birth and I thought this gave the friends time to consider their decision before accepting the responsibility. Also allows them to be part of the planning process, make sure they are available on the day we choose. But I understand what you are saying about superstition however non of the people I would ask would even entertain that as an idea.