I'm 31 and been married for 8 months. We decided to try for a baby thinking it would take months for me to conceive as I'd been on the pill since I was 18.
I came off the pill, had one normal period, had sex once, about cycle day 11. That day we went to visit some friends who have a one year old. I realised that I wasn't ready to have kids, had a mega panic and OH and I decided to defer trying for 6 months, book a trip to Peru and Cambodia and have a bit of fun until we settle down. Sounded great, started planning. I started spotting and expected to get my period the next day, I went out for cocktails with friends twice in a row, danced till dawn. Three days later, no aunt flow and still had a weird hangover, very unlike me, felt dizzy, sick and just weird. Then it dawned on me. My plans had been for nothing. I rushed out to tesco and bought a pregnancy test. Peed on said stick, and there was a very faint, but very definite line. I was elated! Totally surprised myself with how happy I was, and terrified.
I instantly started to panic about miscarrying, I was obsessed with every twinge, every symptom. I googled miscarriage risk, symptoms and missed miscarriages. It was all consuming. Until one day I realised that if God wanted me to have the baby would, and if it wasn't meant to be I would cope and that was Gods plan. From then, until 14 weeks I was calm. I tried not to get too excited but was very happy and content. I also felt nauseated practically constantly, though was only sick twice. I went off sweet stuff, particularly chocolate and also off coffee, though I only drank decaf anyway. My appetite reduced and I lost 9lbs. I was also tired too, but not excessively so. My cervical mucus tripled in quantity and went a whole host of colours from creamy to green- no infection though. I also got a nose full of boogies and an itchy bum! weird, but true. My boobs got fuller and heavier but haven't actually grown, I just better fill my bras now.
At 12 weeks I went for my scan, all appeared good. I was pleased, we then told my parents and OHs parents, every one was really happy. We opted for the combined nuchal fold and blood test to check for the risk of chromosomal disorders such as downs syndrome. We were told they'd write to us if the risk was low, and make an appointment with the consultant if the risk of was high. A week later I got a letter with an appointment. I was instantly terrified, I cried and cried, I googled and was distraught. I work with adults with learning disabilities including downs syndrome and I know what happens when parents are unable to look after them and I didn't want to think that may happen to my child. I started to disengage with the pregnancy unconsciously- stopped rubbing my belly, stopped talking to bump. About this time I stopped feeling nauseated, though my appetite remained reduced. At the consultant appointment he didn't mention the combined test but asked about my medical history and referred me to a cardiologist due to mitral valve prolapse and an endocrinologist due to an under active thyroid. At the end of the appointment I explained about the combined test and the letter, the Dr said he knew nothing about that but could understand my panic and so went to see if the test results were back. They were- a one in 27000 chance of a chromosomal disorder. Phew! Panic over.
We then went and bought a pram. I'm now 15+3, very excited and trying to calm myself! My energy is starting to rise and I'm getting a bump.