Found out I'm having a girl and I feel so weird......

[WinkyWinkola]

and I guess I'm going to sound so ungrateful but I was fully expecting another boy. I feel shocked, worried and sad, not excited. That in itself is a worry, right?

I had a hateful relationship with my brothers when I was growing up and I'm just worried history will repeat itself.

Oh, and the usual worries too - what if I don't love the baby? What if my first feels left out and unloved?

Someone give me a shake or at least tell me you understand and that I'm not a loony. DH thinks I'm pots.

Winkie - I had a boy first and though I wanted a girl as well I found the idea of a girl frightening 2nd time round when I discovered No2 would be a DD. I too hated pink frilly stuff (though have grown to like it ). Looking at pink baby clothes felt really alien to me after having a boy.

DS and DD get on really well and are partners in crime now at the age of 6 and 3

I'm having another boy now, having secretly yearned for DD2. I do agree that finding out the gender early can be negative, as it tells you nothing else about your baby. Its taken me a few weeks to get used to it but I'm really looking forward to having another litle boy now and can't wait to hold him.

BTW Don't worry about the pink/blue thing - girls can wear any colour they like

You are perfectly sane, don't worry!
I was absolutely convinced I was having a son when I was pregnant (as was everyone else), and secretly I was a little disappointed as I wanted a girl, turns out I was carrying a girl, and now I know it wouldn't have mattered either way!
I loved the idea of having a son first and then a daughter, it is so wonderful, but I am one of three girls and I know we all had an amazingly close childhood. It is largely down to parenting, whether you had another daughter or son they way you treat your children will impact on the way they treat one another!

As for girls, truly - they are brilliant! As someone mentioned there's all the girly stuff, but I am avoiding that, it is much more acceptable with a girl to do boyish stuff as well - my DD gets dressed in blue, green, brown, and she looks fab!

Just enjoy your pregnancy and take the time to explain to your DS what an amazing Big Brother he will be!

My dog is the centre of my sad little world. I'm still getting used to the idea of having a baby and what the hell I'm going to do with it....

When I was told I was having a girl I was pretty gutted and felt really bad about the way I felt. Now I cant understand or imagine why I really wanted a boy cause my DD is just my wee shadow and we get on like a house on fire.

Winkywinkola - I posted almost this exact same post one year ago, but reversed. I had found out at my 20 week scan that I was having a boy adnw as so shocked, I'd only imagined having another girl dd was nearly 4 when ds was born) but I'm so glad I found out, I had 20 weeks to get used to it, and I did gradually, but did not think that I would straight away bond with ds when he was born.

How wrong was I? As soon as he was born I had such an immense amount of love for him (this had taken several days with dd first time around) and I loved him straight away. I am now SO glad that I have one of each and get to experience it all. Also, dd adores ds and he her and I think there might have been a bit more rivalry if they'd both been girls, I can say she is "my best girl" and he is "my best boy".

Girls are amazing, I echo what waswondering said above, you can go shopping with them, have girl time (dd and I go to the cinema alone sometimes for girl time without the boys), have long chatty lunches with them when they are older, sit and chat while you put endless plaits in their hair etc. I wasn't particualrly girly before dd was born but it grows on you, I even wear pink myself sometimes now (unheard of before, I'm a black coloumn of colour person normally).

You will love it, you've got time to get used to it and will surprise yourself with how much love you have for her when she is born.

When it's over and she's out you'll say to yourself "oh, it's ok, you're not just a girl, you're "insert name here" you're just you"

"And everything for girls is pink" and
"Hehe whether you like it or not now, Welcome to the world of PINK. You will love it one day."

What aload of bollox. BabyDragon does not wear pink and it has, quite frankly, been a piece of p*ss to do so. pink detail I can handle, otherwise no way. Helps if you like lilac though!

You'll do fine. BabyDragon was a surprise girl after 2 boys (the pregnancy wasn't a surprise just the fact that she was a girl). Both DSs adore her (except when she trashes their games) and I love her despite finding her rather alien after 2 boys. Can't figure her out at all

Exactly Theteeniestboho III will be clad in mostly leopard print/animal print this season, lol. I don't mind a bit of bright pink but I refuse to conform, (as ever) to this motion of dressing her in "baby girlie" pink. I've been accumulating quite an alternative wardrobe for her, and my other two daughters, 12 and 17, are loving the thought of fighting over who will dress her at weekends, haha. Girls are fabulous, in all three of my pregnancies I assumed I would have a boy, but no, twas not to be. And I don't feel like I've missed out on anything not having a son. I love the notion of still being able to refer to the children as The Girls. Although all three will have, what is perceived as boy's names, which always confuses people, LMAO

Fight the power

WW I cried when I learnt I was having a boy!! I didn't think I'd be able to handle one of them (I was right, I can't but I do love him to bits)! I have two older brothers, and we couln't be better friends / siblings.

Big Hugs

Well said NotSoupy!

It really drives me mad when i see these little girls trying to play in the park, trying to climb etc dressed like the fairy off the Christmas tree, tripping over their pink frilly dresses!

When the child's old enough to decide for herself then so be it!

Even heard one mother saying "oh no petal don't climb up there it's too high for you!". Poor petal was about 2 years older than my DS who was climbing quite happily.

I started exactly the same thread, 16 weeks ago.(But have had the shock of another boy rather than the expected girl due to differant pg symptoms)

I HATE baby pink and I would have had a stripey rainbow coloured girl if Bean had ended up a girl! I also HATE baby blue though so the stripey stuff will still come in handy.

I am totally in love with DS22B now and am reading up on all the "how to bring labour on" threads cos I can't wait to meet him.

I realsied that you can't expect what you kids will turn out like,regardless of flavour. (I shuld have already realised this,having a lovely three year old who dosn't conform to stereotypes!)

At the end of the day you get CHILDREN,regardless of gender and they'll have their own personalities.

Hi Winky

I wanted a girl for my first for the simple reason that my older brother was a horrible shite when we were growing up and I really didn't want any girls that I had to have an older brother.

When I found out I was having a boy it was a little bit of a shock in that I was just expecting my baby to be a girl - I had actually convinced myself!!! I must be mad.

My boy is due any day now and I can't wait. I will just make sure that he is brought up to be kind to any little sisters that he may have.

Good luck and I'm sure you'll feel different soon

x

I have another thread going on this (grief over sex scan), as I found out that I am having a girl 2 days ago. Responses on that thread have been really supportive too, and I wondered if you might find them as helpful as I did.

God this sounds exactly like me around 10 weeks ago....all I can say is that the feelings do change and that you just need time to get used to it.
We already have a dd and with being "girly" I was made up to have a possible "mini me". DD is now 18 months and 10 weeks ago we found out that bump2 is a boy..Believe me it was a shock. Due to mc history blah de dah we thought only girls were possible BUT to be told it's a boy . Sounds mad but I cried for hours to day we found out and dh did get a bit worried, I thought I was going mad and would need counselling to help me bond with my baby boy but brilliant mner's gave me good advice and reasurred me that its normal to feel this way. I felt like I was grieving for the girl I wanted.
Good advice I was given was to buy some boy clothes and place then in your home where you look at them on a regular basis...I bought a cute bear snow suit and it sat there for around 2 weeks reminding me..I'm now excited about his arrival. Yeah sure it worries me that I don't know what to do with a boy, I worry he will be pushed to do "boys" things and have a boys" outlook on life" iykwim and I still think boys clothes are eugghhhhh but I am getting there.

I think alot of it is to do with hormones etc. BTW I still sit and think now..how can I love another the same as dd and will she hate us for having another.....But one step at a time.

You have (I guess) 20 weeks to get used to things...BTW we found a 3d scan helped us to bond even more..seeing his features and little movements made me fall in love again...

Hope all goes well. xx

BTW girls are brill..!! I love all the girly pink clothes and little glittery hair slides she can wear. I also look forward to the day when we can go out "girly" shopping and be able to have another female to talk to..!

Yeah sure like most toddlers she is demanding and can be a little madam but she is adorable and we love her.
In our group it's all boy babies and we are the only ones with a girl..dh & I love it... . Even better now as we aren't left out of "boys are brill convo's" as we will soon have one of each .!!

Hi Shhhh - congratulations on your baby boy. I'm having a boy too, in March. Boys are great fun and their toys are good fun too

Thanks hark..!! Mmm boys toys..suppose thats another hill to climb . Now then... wheres that thread about buying boys a doll.....