Wedding at 36 weeks - would you go?

[ginzillas]

I have a dilemma. My cousin is getting married when I'm 36 weeks pregnant. The wedding is a four hour drive or three hour train journey away from where we live.

DH can't go as it's midweek and he can't take time off work. To complicate matters, three year old DD starts nursery school that week. Her induction is the day after the wedding.

So I'd need to get her and myself back the following morning (induction is at lunchtime). My parents have said that they may be able to give is a lift back as I'm not comfortable driving long distances (I'd get the train there before the wedding). Otherwise my mum would probably come back with us on the train.

I really don't want to miss it but is it crazy to try to do this? I need to reply to the invite soon and feel so torn. My worry is that it might be hot, I already have quite a bad back which is worsened by long journeys, DH won't be there and most importantly I don't want DD to be tired and cranky for her nursery induction.

What would you do?

So

I wouldn't go. I know you said you feel sorry for your cousin as people are dropping out, but a mid week wedding is a bit trickier for people to attend, especially as it sounds like its the first week of the new school year, so anybody with children will find it clashes with return to school.

I had dc3 at 36 weeks (dc1&2 both overdue) so you never know what could happen. If it was a local wedding it would be lovely to go, but travelling that distance at 36 weeks wouldn't appeal to me.

But there again we turned down an invite to a wedding taking place on my birthday, which was a 4 hour drive away, on the basis I was pregnant, ds1 went to bed 7pm at the time, it was an afternoon ceremony and would have meant I'd have to take ds to bed before the dinner and then stay in the hotel room for the evening with DS and room service. Didn't fancy it on my birthday with morning sickness still some would call me selfish but ds wasn't the kind of baby to keep up late for a special occasion he would have become cranky and upset.

Do what you think will be the least stressful option for you.

You'd never forgive yourself if something happened - different entirely if DH was going with you x

Thanks everyone. I've made up my mind that I'm not going to go. I'll call my cousin to explain why. I'll get her a lovely present and think of her on the day. I feel better having decided and DH has now admitted he was worrying about me even attempting to go up there on my own with DD and then rushing back for her induction. Bad timing but such is life!