After advice (possibly TMI post)

[fhdl34]

I am 6/7 weeks pregnant, third pregnancy and today I have had some brown (old blood) discharge in my knickers and when I wipe. When I wiped there was also a faint line of fresh blood. I now have some mild period type cramping in my lower abdomen. I figured I would ring out of hours in the morning if it hadn't stopped or had gotten worse but in the meantime, to stop me going crazy, would anyone care to share if they have had similar around this stage and the outcome (good or bad).
I was saying to my husband yesterday that I didn't feel as pregnant as I usually do at this stage; the only noticeable symptoms are more peeing and a bit of tiredness (but I have two small children and youngest still doesn't sleep through), but nothing like the exhaustion of my first two pregnancies.

I'm so sorry for your loss op. is your husband with you?

So sorry to hear this, but I'm glad for you that it has all cleared out so quickly, and I'm impressed by your ability to see the good side in it.

I feel desperately sad. I was scared that if it was a miscarriage and it hadn't gone it would take ages as a friend went through a very rough time last year where it took 2-3 weeks to leave her, I guess I felt relieved that it had all gone and I don't have to wait for another scan or a procedure. I just can't believe I am not pregnant anymore, even though I had stopped feeling pregnant, and I knew, it just seems unreal.
My mum came with me and was rabbiting away the whole time, probably through nerves, and then I had to tell DH when I got home, which wasn't easy with the kids being noisy and my mum there. He feels very sad too.
It's hard to know where to go from here, we were already in two minds about whether we wanted a third child, my instant feeling is that I want to be pregnant again because I wish I still was but I don't know if that means it's the right thing for us, I think we need to give it some time if we can (I'm a bit hopeless at that). DH was referred for the snip just as we found out we were pregnant this time as we had sort of agreed that he should have it done and we leave it to fate if we got pregnant but now we think it is probably prudent to wait until we have a more definite idea of what we want.
It's silly really but when I sat and read the miscarriage leaflet this evening it said 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage and I thought that means I am going to be pregnant again.
I just don't know, my head is all in a whirl. DH is now off work till Monday anyway so that gives us both some time to think outside of our usual routines.
Sorry, I am just writing whatever is in my head, good to get it out.

Sian we haven't had much luck in some respects this year but I found it best for me to find some positive things where I can, and I am so very glad it has come away naturally and quickly. I would have hated waiting another 10 days for confirmation, these last few days have been just awful

My miscarriage was a lot like your friends, over a month from beginning to end. I'm glad you didn't have to go through that.

I know just what you mean about not quite believing you aren't pregnant anymore - I felt the same, a real sense of having been so excited and then it just being gone.

Because mine was our first pregnancy and planned, I charged straight back into getting pregnant again, which was right for me, but a lot of women do wait for a while to sort out their feelings. I hope you and your husband sort out what you want to do next.

Oh fhdl I'm so sorry . Be kind to yourself.

My husband was really low about it yesterday. On Wednesday (the day after) I was on a pre-arranged trip to London and then yesterday I had promised my DD to a day just me and her. I feel like I've barely seen my DH, and I wonder if he is feeling isolated, we haven't had much time to talk properly. I thought about asking mil to have the kids this weekend for a couple of hours so we can go for a meal. I want to try again ASAP but that is my heart talking, it would stretch our finances to the limit for the next couple of years, we'd manage but only just. My heart doesn't care, I just want to feel happy again. And then I feel guilty that the life we just lost could be "replaced" so easily. It wouldn't be of course but I don't want to feel this grief. In the last few months my DH and I have rediscovered each other and joy in our lives, that was intoxicating and I want that joy back. A baby would bring that joy but also a lot of stresses. And we are so fortunate with already having 2 beautiful and healthy children. It's a tough decision