Thank God for women...

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Just got off a delayed, packed and over-heated commuter train. Packed when I got on but immediately 2 women offered me their seats whereas the overweight young man taking up 2 seats unnecessarily just looked up then down again. Of course, being 35 weeks pregnant and a bit, well, hot, I turned down the offers and made him move. So glad there are women in the world who get it!

Had to come back for a laugh. So, the woman/person who asks the man/person to move to his left - 'hi, can I sit there, please? - so all seats can be used on a busy train (which he did with no bother you'll all breathe a sigh of relief to know) is rude, arrogant and entitled? Do some of you inhabit a parallel universe? If I'd taken up either woman's/other person's offer, they'd have had to stand while a seat went unused but this is the way most of you think it should have gone. Glad I travel on Northern and not Mumsrail.

why are people so fussed about this thread? women are absolutely the backbone of society and generally are more compassionate towards pregnant women because of basic female experience.

fat guy is the one who sounds like the entitled twat.

Ooh, I'mNot, you used the F word. On here, that makes you very, very brave. Thanks for taking the dagger out of my back, though ????.

The man in question presumably paid for one ticket only, entitling him to one seat, not two.

OP I don't understand why people think you should have made one of the women stand when a rude, ignorant person was preventing a perfectly good seat being used. It's not entitled it's just common sense.

haha oh dear. I'm quite new.

I don't (and didn't) use it in a derogatory manor, and don't see fat in a negative view anyway. Perhaps i'll have a look through some archived posts and 'educate' myself otherwise.

Wow the heat is making people crabby!
Your post made perfect sense to me op. I'm also 35 weeks and with ankles like balloons I would also want to sit down. That doesn't mean we shouldn't be working like some other grump suggested.
It's nice that the women were looking out for you but better that you spoke up and everyone got to sit down.
Hopefully we'll never have to share a train with the misery guts that jumped on this for no reason!

My ankles are huge, too. So attractive! Medical advice is to take the weight off, of course, but to try to do so makes you a little bit entitled, apparently .

How is it entitled to expect one of the 2 seats someone is occupying?!

I don't see anything wrong with asking a man taking up two seats to move over so that someone can take up the extra seat he was using unnecessarily, as opposed to letting him have 2 seats (when he just needs one) and having someone else give up their seat. It makes complete sense to politely ask him to move rather than it being like musical chairs.

As long as he was asked politely I don't see anything wrong with it!

There isn't anything wrong with asking someone to move over, but that's not what the op said , if she had people wouldn't be drawing their own conclusions. And "I made him move" doesn't sound very polite to me

I agree with previous posters - nothing wrong with your post at all and certainly not entitled. If he could move over, which he obviously could, then I think it was fair enough to ask. I still remember posting about commuting when I was heavily pregnant in a heatwave with dd1 and got utterly torched for suggesting that people should move from 'non-priority' seats out of compassion if not policy. I was lucky that much of the time they did. Women and men, larger and smaller

Do some of you inhabit a parallel universe?

Yes, it's called mumsnet.

Oh for god's sake, the OP is 35 weeks pregnant - she is entitled to a seat

And in the real world OP you should be offered one. If not, then you're damn well 'entitled' to ask for one.