People commenting on bump size :(

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Hi ladies
Is anyone else fed up of people thinking they have the right to comment on your weight/bump?
I'm 33+4 and so far maintained fairly low weight gain. Although pound ku because I'm very tall and the baby positioning. So I'm managing to keep in some of my normal clothes. Even though I'm eating more than ever I'm still walking 30 mins a day so nice and healthy overall.
But recently I've noticed how many women feel like they can comment on the way I look. Sometimes I get "omg your that far gone where are you hiding the baby?" And others I get "ooh don't eat too many mars bars you'll really suffer for it after!"

Take today. I had standard size 10 leggings on with a long non maternity size 10 dress on to
a birthday lunch. I walked in and my 'friend' told me my bump was HUGE. I felt so uncomfortable and suddenly didn't feel as confident as I did when I left the house.

So now I'm sick of people talking about how long it's gonna take me to lose the weight after or just 'snap' back into shape!

Fed up now of all the bloody comments ???? thanks for letting me rant!!!

Ohhh I hate this and have commented on other threads about my experience of people and their 'opinions'.

I'm 26+6. Recently has a gtt which confirmed I don't have gestational diabetes. I'm measuring right on target in terms of weeks. And still I've had "is it twins?", "fuck me, you look huge!" "check you out fatty!", mil cack-handedly saying "your face is much thinner this time, not as much weight to you" and my favourite "don't go to the beach love!"

I think people see a pregnant woman and think it's ok to take the piss out of you because having to get rounder and heavier is inevitable and makes you fair game.

I haven't had the "are you sure you're only having one?" comment yet, but it'll annoy the hell out of me if I do get it....do they think they know better than the sonographers?! I think the next time someone says to me "wow, you look big", I'll just reply with "wow, you're a rude person"....I'm not brave enough to say anything else!!

I am literally 12 weeks pregnant, slim but always had a bit of a belly due to bloating and someone I told keeps telling me how big I am already and I am just like 'no - that's just fat!' Sometimes I just let it go, but my midwife felt my tummy and couldn't feel my uterus yet! Lol. Awkward!!

OMG this is one of the things that has driven me MAD! Im nearly at the end now but it is as if the minute you get a bump you are public property for everyone to comment on your size. If I just got fat I doubt people would say - O wow your stomach is soooo massive! I've been told am "so neat, all bump, I've kept my figure well, to you have just exploded overnight, you are sprouting, are you sure there aren't 2 in there". I swear it is hard not to swing for people who get on like that!!! Aghhhhhh!!!!

Yes!! I'm 37 weeks and even my mum thinks I'm big. I'm measuring 36 cm so perfect size. I've not put weight on anywhere else at all. Most other people comment on how neat I am. Xx

So WTF....u cant win? Ur bump is urs and no one else should be allowed to comment......xx

I think many women are probably jealous. I am the complete opposite to you. I am short and stout and I get a huge low carrying bump and gain weight rapidly. I tend to develop a waddle in the second trimester and when I had my daughter people constantly asked if it was twins which annoyed me to no end. I would be very happy to be in your position and these women probably would be too. They probably just can't admit to themselves that they feel inadequate when they are around you. It's sad really because no one should bring down anyone else in an attempt to make themselves feel better.

Grrrrrr. My pet peeve.

I've had it both ways. In my first pregnancy I had an enormous bump and retained a lot of fluid. I had a noticeable bump by 13 weeks. I had people commenting on how huge I was all the time, telling me I'd never lose the weight (I did, plus two more stone mwahaha) and that id 'never last til due date' (I did, 4 days over).

With my second pregnancy it was possible even more irritating. I didn't show at all until over 20 weeks (partly because baby was transverse for ages) and had people making stupid comments about whether the baby was ok and I should get a scan at 18 weeks as it looked like baby wasn't growing.
Then all through I got comments about how I wasn't 'eating enough' (I ate constantly, but just made healthier choices this time), that I wasn't 'looking after the baby properly' and that it 'wasn't right'.

My favourite was at 39 weeks when I was at soft play with my older daughter and an old dear asked when I was due. I said next week and she exclaimed in a patronising voice 'aw pet , you must have your dates mixed up there. You certainly aren't due just yet'. I almost smacked her in the face. I was tempted to say 'well hubby and I only had sex once in the two months surrounding conception so if I have my dates wrong then it must be the next messiah!'

Baby arrived 6 days later lol.

People always have to say 'something'. My favourite of mil's during my first pregnancy was ' it's only going to get worse' when i mentioned any kind of pregnancy ailment. I was also told I looked 'stout and hippy' but a fellow mum at 14 weeks. Beggars belief lol.

Oh this annoys the crap out of me!! I have an incredibly fat colleague, no idea on her size/rights but she must be well into 20's stone wise. Maybe 24? You literally couldn't tell she was pregnant, at any stage, not even the week before she gave birth. Did I comment? Nope. It would have been RUDE!

She has made almost daily comments about my size, what i eat, am i having twins, what a HUGE bump i have, that my baby will be massive, THAT'S gonna hurt!! And this week that I am clearly giving birth to an elephant. Everyone else has been lovely. Bump is very neat, and high, am 36wks and put 2 stone on and still wearing some pre preg stretch clothing. Whatever i or other people have said in response, she has carried on. Passes me right off.

I am 5'7 and was size 12/14 pre preg having put a bit of weight on.

I think some people think you could actually have twins and don't know, especially men...