Anyone online? I'm going loopy...

[JoJo32]

Just had a major row with DP and have smoked about 5 ciggies (have not been smoking whilst pregnant). I'm almost 30wks and have had some complications - stitch etc.,

My hormones are all over the place and I can't stop crying. I just gave DP a lift home from the pub and instead of bringing him home dropped him off down the lane and made him walk. When he did finally get home I poured water all over him and behaved like a banshee. He's gone out again and I feel like I'm going round the bend...

I moved to a lovely barn in the sticks at the start of the year and found out early summer I was pregnant. I know no one here properly and haven't got the release I used to have of going to the local wine bar on the high street to relax after a day of stress. Most of my friends back home are also childless thirtysomethings which helps not one bit. Probably a bit jealous of them even though I love this bump so much already.

I feel like I can't call anyone as I don't want to worry anyone (have not got the best relationship track record you see)...

Sorry for ranting - promise I'm not some loon - just a hormonal bagage!

Oh you poor thing - it's hellish being where you're at just now. Curious though as to why you poured water over DP

hormones...they do make you craaaaazy.....>! have a good scream !

Well, I'm here!

Deep breaths now. OK, you've gone a bit spare. Happens to me when I'm not pregnant!! Not the best relationship track record myself, so understand what you mean.

Try not to take it out on your partner though. Not his fault and could lead to yet another bad relationship track record.

Sorry, I'm sure that's not what you want to hear, but you need to get a grip now. Trust me. Hormones of course play a big part, but can't be blamed in their entirety. You need to try and keep yourself calm for the baby! Anything else is just superfluous.

You can let it all out at me if it helps. I'm sure I've been there too!

xxxxxx

OMG!! Are you me??? This is exactly how i am when i'm pg.
Actually, most eves i'm like this. Tired emotional and if dh dares pee me off after he's been to the pub i make him sleep in the car. Could be worse.....

On another note, what sort of stitch have you had?

Frustration I guess. I just feel like the dynamics of our relationship have changed beyond all recognition over the past couple of months.

I'm sure DP used to be more attentive/caring/loving/BEFORE I got pregnant and I'm just not sure he's ready to make all the sacrifices that are coming our way. He already has a son who is a lovely, well adjusted 12 year old considering he left his Mum when he was just months old. I know I shouldn't go by the past, just worried about history repeating itself with no real justification.

Hi Mrs Xmas...I had a cervical stitch to stop funneling...

Ah ok. I had one and have only found one other person who had a stitch.

Hi Maybe Mum, Hope everything goes OK with you. Just read your post...I'm new to this pregnancy thing so not much help. Sorry...

Thanks for your support though. Just wish I could be one of those 'chilled' people sometimes instead of a red mist neurotic!

x

i am the same with my dp, before i feel pregnant i felt more in control and had a lot more confidence in myself. i feel now he can still do whatever he likes and i am stuck at home...nothing like my old life used to be, all my friends still go out every wend enjoying themselves, but i wouldn't change it for the world!!
i know he loves me but sometimes feel he doesn't show it as much as before i was pregnant either that or its my hormornes.
My dp often says he thinks i have gone crazy or the real me has been abducted by aliens!

Maybe they put some extra madness hormones in with the stitch?!

Feeling a bit better now. Perhaps I should print your responses out minus the names in an effort to explain my behaviour...either that or I could just apologise I suppose...

Thanks Titchy - I am still over the moon that I'm having a baby...I think I resent everyone else having a good time whilst I'm at home crying at Super Vets on the gogglebox, eating mince pies and craving a night out getting v. drunk with the girls on a couple of bottles of dry white. I know my body thanks the change in lifestyle after all I'm not getting any younger...agggghhh!

x

Hey, don't mention it. I'm only 4 weeks and I've already had at least five irrational hysterical outbursts. You mean it gets worse!

It would seem so Maybe Mum...

Hi JoJo,

I too resent everyone else having a good time. All my team at work went paintballing on sunday, and obviously I couldn't go. But instead of being sympathetic on Monday morning they proceded to show me their war wounds and indulge each other in blow-by-blow accounts of what happens. So I threw a bit of a strop and stomped around in a foul mood. Plus it didn't help that one of my team muttered somthing about 'self-induced'... God I nearly whacked him!

I think it is a combination of hormones, tiredness and being fed up at how your life is changing, especially if you DP isn't changing him life so much. Can you talk to him about how you feel? It'll probably be more constructive than pouring water over him (though I expect it won't feel as good !)