How do you decide if you want another child?

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Just that really, I have financial reasons in the way of and due to my partner being a SAHD I am the only earner hence not being able to afford to go on maternity leave. How do you get past the practical stuff and go for what you really want? Or does practical all come first. I never wanted another child but I am coming round to the idea now, but can't get past all the issues in the way. Wondering how other people do it.

I think my DH and I both knew we wanted more children and that circumstances will never be ideal. So we went for it and now I'm 9 weeks pregnant with twins. Good luck!

We figured that our careless childless life was gone anyway, and we have all the stuff, so might as well have another.

I think you just know.... I always said during pregnancy each time (including this time-DC4) that is never do it again (never ever had that 'glow' everyone talks about- thinking its a myth) but as soon as they were born I knew immediately that I'd do it all over again in a heartbeat. My first 3 were 'right time' scenarios so we went for it. But this time around I just felt like I had to have another... Like everything in me kept saying: you need another baby. Never had the urge as much as I did before TTC this one. Now I'm back to saying: never again!! Lol x

And just to add... This time is probably the least practical time ever but... There are worse things in the world than a baby and yeah you might struggle by financially for a while but in years to come you'll look back and think: hey, it was tough but we go through it x

For me it was never an actual decision to have a second child as such. i had the most overwhelming feeling that i wanted another baby and told hubby that's how i felt and i was very lucky he was quite keen too. whether we could afford one or had the room wasnt even spoke about, as i had already made my mind up. xx

I think you just know when the time is right, and think 'What the hell, let's do it'. We held off from starting a family for years, because we don't own our own house, we both work and will probably struggle on one wage, we feel like we're currently both just waiting to be in the right place (ie. own house, settled in jobs, feel like we've put roots down) but finally just took the plunge. 20 weeks on Thursday, and it honestly feels right. So we may have to tighten our belts a bit once it's here, we might have to juggle moving house with a young child, but it's what we're prepared to do.

we have 2 children and hubby wanted a third. I was insure for 3 years. I'd got both kids out if nappies, into full time school and got a bit of my own life back. I hit 30 last year and for me was a case of now or never but I knew I'd never regret having my kids but would hate to hit 40/45 and regret not having another while I had the chance. so now I'm 10+2 with our third and so excited :-). my sister in law and best mate say that when you've had your last you just know. good luck! x

also to add, my hubby works offshore and I'm already a stay at home mum so me not working/bringing a wage home isn't an issue. the only practical thing is I need to start over and get absolutely everything from new again lol.

For me it wasn't a decision based on logic and reason, I just wanted another baby in the same physical way that I had wanted my first... almost like lust... maternal lust. The timing was probably because things had just got easier with my first. She was 16 months, I'd weaned her off night-boob, she was sleeping through, she was communicative, interesting and fun and I thought 'Yes, I want to do this again'. I'm an only child so I had a really strong feeling that I wanted her to feeling like her sibling had 'always been there'. I'll hopefully have DD out of nappies by the time new baby arrives and there will be a 2 yrs 4 months gap between them.

I don't think we will have 3 babies, but if I did I think I'd still have the first two at this gap and then leave a bigger gap before number 3.