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All the positives about childbirth up to and including meeting dc obviously.

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coneywonder · 31/05/2015 19:20

Just that really.

35 weeks and wanting to focus on the positives after hearing a lot of negatives.

Might be nice to share our stories?

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peacefuleasyfeeling · 01/06/2015 05:44

At about 39 weeks (with DD2 ) I decided to read a hypno-birthing book. I watched a few youtube clips. The effect those simple exercises had on my birthing experience was remarkable. I was able to "ride" the contractions much more effectively and when it came to it, actually just "breathe" DD2 out without a shadow of pushing (or pain relief). I am still amazed, a couple of years down the line, and wish I hadn't dismissed it as "too much like hard work" the first time around, because it really wasn't. I now get why people are a bit evangelical about it. That, and birthing upright on my knees, totally revelatory. Good luck, OP.

5YearsTime · 01/06/2015 05:55

I did hypnobirthing before hand and during labour I was in boatloads of pain and did push for ages.... I thought I'd forgotten everything and failed completely.

Then the next day I realised that I gave birth with no pain relief and breathed it all through and did labour in the dark, in the pool.

It may not have felt like the twinkly lights crap you see on YouTube but I bloody did it. Now I feel like superwoman and am so proud of my body and what it can do. Fuck the stretch marks and wobbly bum that I'm left with....I made a new human.

5YearsTime · 01/06/2015 05:57

Oh and if you haven't done it already try some perineal massage....that is something you can control about labour and delivery!

BreeVDKamp · 01/06/2015 06:03

Facing/overcoming your fears, for me it was forceps, injection in back (both of which I was scared of), and tearing (which no-one wants!). Feel I can do anything now I've done that!

BreeVDKamp · 01/06/2015 06:05

Oh yes I also did hypnobirthing. Not much chance to use it as my labour was 40 mins (DC1) but didn't have any pain relief so maybe it helped! Was enjoyable and relaxing in pregnancy in any case.

meringue33 · 01/06/2015 06:08

Gas and air is fun

I totally lost my cool both times but the mad stuff I shouted was hilarious looking back, and provided DH some good anecdotes for his groom's speech at our wedding!

The feeling at end when baby pops out - I felt pain didn't matter at that point because you know it's all over - one more push and they're here!

Hearing that first cry

coneywonder · 01/06/2015 10:41

Eeek thanks ladies. So glad I did and am doing hypnobirthing!! Also the perineum massage I was a bit wary of but may give that a go now too xx

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DandelionWishes88 · 02/06/2015 09:12

Your stories are so empowering! This is my first pregnancy and im wanting to focus on the good not all the bad. I know that things can go wrong and not to plan but I need to think positive and all you ladies are a huge help.
I CAN DO THIS!

loveulotslikejellytots · 02/06/2015 09:28

I'm 8 weeks with my first dc.this thread has me in tears! Can anyone recommend some hypnobirthing books? I've looked at local courses but they are £££ I really can't afford that at the moment. I'd love to get a few books and have a read and see what I think. If I still don't feel confident I'll look at the courses again but it sounds like a lot of you had good results just from reading books.

coneywonder · 02/06/2015 11:24

The marie mongan book I have found is the best and the rainbow relaxation that goes with it :) just listen to that every night xx

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loveulotslikejellytots · 02/06/2015 14:31

Thanks coney. Will keep a note of that until after my scan.

coneywonder · 03/06/2015 16:47

Let's get some more stories going+!

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WhatToDoWithMy2 · 03/06/2015 17:05

I've had two babies- one long, slightly complicated delivery, and one quick, easy waterbirth.

Positives about both: it was exciting; it was exhilarating; it was bonding for me, DP, and also my Mum who was there; it was sort of trance-like and magical. Gas and air made me feel delightfully wasted. It was interesting, too- a totally unique experience.

Additional positives about second birth: It was just bloody amazing, to be honest. I'd do it again every day. I felt empowered, strong- and probably totally high on hormones (powerful things). Giving birth in water was beautiful. Feeling in control of the great force of my contractions was ace (I did Maggie Howell hypno-birthing CD, would reccomend highly).

Best of all, of course, you meet your baby at the end!

Good luck!

WhatToDoWithMy2 · 03/06/2015 17:06

I've had two babies- one long, slightly complicated delivery, and one quick, easy waterbirth.

Positives about both: it was exciting; it was exhilarating; it was bonding for me, DP, and also my Mum who was there; it was sort of trance-like and magical. Gas and air made me feel delightfully wasted. It was interesting, too- a totally unique experience.

Additional positives about second birth: It was just bloody amazing, to be honest. I'd do it again every day. I felt empowered, strong- and probably totally high on hormones (powerful things). Giving birth in water was beautiful. Feeling in control of the great force of my contractions was ace (I did Maggie Howell hypno-birthing CD, would reccomend highly).

Best of all, of course, you meet your baby at the end!

Good luck!

WhatToDoWithMy2 · 03/06/2015 17:06

I've had two babies- one long, slightly complicated delivery, and one quick, easy waterbirth.

Positives about both: it was exciting; it was exhilarating; it was bonding for me, DP, and also my Mum who was there; it was sort of trance-like and magical. Gas and air made me feel delightfully wasted. It was interesting, too- a totally unique experience.

Additional positives about second birth: It was just bloody amazing, to be honest. I'd do it again every day. I felt empowered, strong- and probably totally high on hormones (powerful things). Giving birth in water was beautiful. Feeling in control of the great force of my contractions was ace (I did Maggie Howell hypno-birthing CD, would reccomend highly).

Best of all, of course, you meet your baby at the end!

Good luck!

coneywonder · 03/06/2015 17:59

Beautiful. Thank you :)

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BadIdeaBear · 03/06/2015 21:01

Brilliant thread coneywonder thank you. ftm - I've done a hypnobirthing course and we've been practising relaxations and scripts at night but need to step up a bit I think at 34+3. Great stories - I've been wavering in confidence and calmness recently - why do people continue to tell you crap stories as you get into late pregnancy? But this thread has helped a lot!

5YearsTime · 03/06/2015 22:13

BadIdeaBear I found the scripts useless but the Rose visualisation and surge breathing was helpful.

The thermometer script has actually been good for helping me to sleep when I'm too alert listening to my PFB breathe!

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