Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Finding it hard. 34w5d.

1 reply

Rebecca1608 · 27/05/2015 21:30

So as above almost 35 weeks pregnant with twins and i'm finding it really difficult. Emotionally more than anything. Little support from OH is tough. The pregnancy was unplanned but he seemed to get his head around it and months back "couldn't wait to be a Dad" even though he has only been to 1 scan (my 12 week one) despite me getting scanned fortnightly from 14 weeks ish. He hasn't attended any consultant or midwife appointments which didn't bother me at first but does now. I haven't had a penny towards anything for the babies. I bought everything myself even my family chipped in and bought me some bedroom furniture and helped paint their nursery. He doesn't hold my belly which maybe a lot of men don't do but even if we spoon in bed he's careful not to reach round and will just rest his hand on my leg. If i ask about a pram he'll talk over me or pretend he hasn't heard and say stuff like "i wonder who will get evicted tonight" (big brother) or gives me a "not interested" look. His mum came around the other day and commented on how lovely their room looked to which he spoke over her about our "new sky package" he asked if i had a hospital appointment tomorrow which i have a last scan before my section at 36 weeks i said yes happy he remembered but he just went "oh there's traffic up there"

I understand it's scary (i'm bricking it) but he never talks about the babies. He's done a complete u-turn and since this i've noticed my excitement has disappeared and where as i'm not dreading their arrival i feel nothing. I don't touch my belly anymore and i'm scared i'll end up with PND as i have no one to share my excitement with and with this being probably my only pregnancy i can't enjoy it.
Unless i'm with mum sister or even my dad but when i'm home i feel i can't say nothing.

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
bugoven · 28/05/2015 09:10

I think you're right to say he is scared, especially with twins on the way. It is still a poor excuse for making you feel bad but it sounds like he's more interested in distracting himself than you. Enjoy everything for you and your little ones.
Have you tried talking openly and honestly to him about how his behaviour is making you feel? My OH was quite emotionally unpredictable during my pregnancy despite us trying 3 years to conceive. Afterwards when our little one was here he was able to say he was scared and sorry for how he had been. Now number 2 is on the way and I think I'm the scared one!
Hope all works out.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread