Pregnant for first time and terrified

[Gingergrump]

Am only 5 weeks but am feeling very emotional. Pregnancy planned but still felt shocked and scared since I found out, and annoyed with myself for feeling like this and wondering if that's normal? Felt even worse this morning when tried to make a Doctor's appointment - can't get one for 3 and a half weeks and when I explained I was pregnant, and was it possible to get one sooner receptionist said no, I didn't even need an appointment and could just pick up an information pack! It may seem run-of-the-mill to her but it sure as hell isn't to me. Anyone else had this response - I'd really like to see a Doctor to put my mind at rest about various things, as only found out a few days ago, but it's a bit of a long wait and feel very upset by receptionist's dismissive attitude.

It's very normal to feel like this. I remember being in panic mode and very emotional! You will normally see the midwife at about 10 weeks, she will obtain medical history from you, do bloods and then refer you for 12 week scan.

Just remember to take folic acid and watch certain things you eat etc.

Congratulations too

Congratulations! Firstly I would say that pretty much anything you feel during pregnancy is normal - whether you feel excited or terrified or like you've made a mistake - don't feel bad about anything. It's pretty crap in early pregnancy that medical people don't really care that much - to us it is the biggest and scariest thing in the world but there is not much they can do in the early weeks unfortunately Hang in there, you will get over the shock at some point and you will feel better but in the meantime don't beat yourself up about the way you are feeling, all totally normal!

Hi I felt exactly the same!! Planned but was still so shocked and even tho was pleased had lots of other feelings too and took a fair while to get my head around it. I rang the docters
to make my first appointment with midwife which is suppose to be at 8 wks but was told the only appointments they had available wouldnt be until i was 10 wks!!! In the end i phoned straight through to the midwife department and they were really nice and said they would squeeze me in. It wasnt until my first scan that it all sank in lol but to reassure you even tho it took a while I am now 23 wks and feel alot more at ease with it all and am enjoying being pregnant! Give yourself chance to get used to the it all and u will be fine :)

Congrats

I can tell you that not seeing an OB or midwife until you're 8 weeks along or so is a normal thing, in the UK and here in the US. I'm pretty sure that feeling shocked and scared, even with a planned pregnancy, is normal too.

Hello. I am 8 weeks and only found week before last. I alternate between being utterly terrified and completely laid back. Mostly I'm terrified about the next 18 years, not the next few months, but that's just me! I'm really lucky in that my drs made an emergency appt available to me when I rang up (I wasn't that fussed, but they made a right song and dance) and I also had an early dating scan at a walk in hospital clinic. BUT, the drs appt was stupendously un-exciting, you're really not missing much! There's nothing they can really do at this stage. She just asked me which hospital I wanted to use, how I was feeling, and said I'd get a call to arrange the 12 week scan. I get that you feel neglected, and it's such a shame that they're so oversubscribed that they don't have an earlier appointment, but I wouldn't worry about it.

If you have questions, do they have a phone in advice session at all?

Thank you all for the support, am sure I will get used to it soon, and glad to hear that people felt the same. Think I was suprised by receptionist's attiitude, as tthe NHS website suggested contacting the Dr as soon as possible but I suppose this is is the ideal and not the norm! They don't have phone in advice, which is a shame but this place is brilliant for advice, is nice to feel you're not alone.

Hi. You're definitely not alone!

I found out at 5wks for a planned, first pregnancy and I was very frightened and emotional about it (which I didn't expect). I got a doctor's appointment pretty quickly and burst into tears when I went in! So silly. I don't even know why...just raging hormones I'm told. Dr was super nice about it and said lots of women do that when they just find out as it's a bit of a life changing event. It didn't help that I'd been suffering with horrible sinusitis for weeks so that dragged me down too.

Over the next few weeks I was a bit panicky but gradually became more relaxed as I got used to the idea. It does get better. Promise.

I'm now 11wks and have my scan next week. Feeling quite chilled about it all but looking forward to being able to tell people, all being well, fingers crossed.

Please let me tell my story about a late mw appointment: when i got pg it took a few weeks to be refered to the mw since in the area we lived the wait for appointments is a few weeks. ok, no problem. We had to move when i was in my third trimester, that means waiting to have a bill as proof of address, get appointment with nurse, then get appointment with the gp a finally a booking appointment with the mw.

My baby was a premie born 3 days before the booking appointment.

So im 13 weeks pregnant now and I think look about 18-20 weeks. I just cant stopeating! In general I eat healthily but the volume of food getting chawed down is, well, a lot. If I didnt know any better id say I was eating for 3(00). The constant tirredness and nausea is only being stopped by the eating and then I look in the mirror at my new kardashian ass and protruding tum and want to weep. Having been quite slim before and never really having a big appetite, this is actually proving quite difficult for me. I feel as though it is out of my control and although I am holding myself back from sticking my face in a box full of custard filled krispy kremes followed by a trip to kfc for a zinger tower burger, im concerned at how much im putting on so early. Apparently you need 0 extra calories at this stage.......is anyone else like this? Any tips at all? Id love to just nap instead of munching but my long commute and working day wont allow. Help ladies! P.s. im also feeling terrified about EVERYTHING! I mean, why is breast feeding still allowed in this day and age? Ouch!

Hi I'm 13 weeks and half and I've only gained 2lb . What I've decided to do is have a supply of all sorts of fruits and just snack on that . Gaining too much weight can cause more exhaustion that's what I've been told and you can end up having a little baby. My bag before I go out is just full of fruits - so though I'm still eating I'm not really gaining unnecessary weight . Hope that helps. Have some fire stuff as well maybe porridge early in the morning before work and that fills you up :-)

Hi Gingergrump.
I feel exactly the same! We planned this baby but it is still scary! At only 5-6 weeks it's all a waiting game! I'm just trying to be patient without going crazy over all the little things! Where I live you have to see your gp then they refer you which makes everything feel even more delayed! I'm tempted to pay for an early scan? Does anyone think they are worth it?

I had an early scan. They checked that there is a heartbeat, that the bean is where it is supposed to be and if there appears to be one or more beans.

In hindsight i dont think there was a huge benefit from it tbh.

waist - you just have to try and find alternatives. I find hard boiled sweets (sugar free ones) really help with nausea. When it's not too bad, drinking water or quite weak squash helps as well.