Sex during pregnanc

[Moominy12]

I've tried twice to have sex in the last few weeks and it is just too painful to do!

I'm 33 weeks and hope this is normal, I asked my midwife and she says just use lube but it didn't help. It's as if I'm so tight and swollen down there.

Can anyone tell me if this is normal? Otherwise I'm worried! I just feel sorry for my other half

I find it a little tighter than usual, but I think part of that may be because we have sex so rarely now and my body isn't used to it? If lube doesn't help, and it's still painful, then I'd suggest don't do it. Try alternative means of giving each other pleasure without penetrative sex maybe?

It's painful for me too. I can't remember the last time we had sex. We tried with lube last week but with my massive bump and severe spd it was near impossible. I feel sorry for my oh too. All you can do is try and if you can't you can't. Your not gonna be pregnant forever

Were exactly the same but mine feels like my lady bits are falling out, certain positions are worse, ie me on top. My dh won't touch me anyway as my spd is bad but i really miss it. We're still affectionate etc but I can't wait to just dtd without it being such a mission x

It's a big no-no for me and I'm 27 weeks and I don't see that changing any time soon...I just feel too big, too tired and it seems like such an effort. DH seems to be understanding.

You have my sympathies, OP! Still, at least you're closer to giving birth, the weeks are flying by.

I also have PGP which is one of the main reasons I don't want sex. It's painful enough just turning in bed, never mind DTD!

I didn't notice extra tightness but when we did at the weekend, 30wks, i felt like i was being prodded in the cervix. Might be because it was (TMI
......) from behind. Easier with the bump and all.

I read something years ago from a gay sex therapist about how straight people (of both genders) seem to think that only PIV sex 'counts' and everything else is a poor second. They said that you don't ever get gay bloke thinking 'Bof, only a BJ! How rubbish' and that all sexual closeness 'counts'.

Now I don't know how true that is, but it has really helped change my thinking about sex and what 'counts' and I now refuse to feel hard done by for accepting or offering non-penetrative alternatives.

To the end of my last pregnancy PIV sex was too much of a gymnastic feat, but I was (to put it bluntly) horny, so had to think of other things to do. This time things feel very different so I'm having to learn a whole new way of being touched, which is interesting, I'd second pp and suggest either new positions or explore all the other things your sexual bodies can enjoy!

OP - Why on earth do you feel sorry for your other half?

The "inconvenience" of not being able to have penetrative sex for a few weeks is absolutely nothing compared to the "inconvenience" of...

1. Morning sickness
2. Having to buy new clothes to fit your expanding body
3. Having blood tests on a regular basis
4. Having your boobs swell up like melons
5. Having to waddle due to the massive bump in front of you
6. Not being able to see your feet
7. Not being able to DRINK FOR AN ENTIRE NINE MONTHS
8. Not to mention....that tiny issue of giving birth.

Me n my DH haven't had any problems with sex. Still do 3/4 times a week and I'm 38+5.
I must be one of the lucky ones lol.

abbie you mustn't have PGP then, otherwise there's no way you'd manage it at all. Thank yourself lucky!

Yes and thank you for letting us all know you are a lucky one!

I've not had an issue having sex.. We do it twice a week.. I'm 40+2 days. His very supportive.. He even cuts my toe nails for me.. Lol

Yes like I said I know I'm lucky. No I don't have PGP. Many other problems but not that.