3rd trimester, feeling depressed.

[Shasha123]

30 weeks and I have turned from happy pregnant woman to depressed one. No matter how hard I tried I couldn't stop all those horrible stretch marks all over my bump. It burns and feels itchy all day and night and keep on increasing each time I check. My enormous tummy doesn't let me do things easily. Also, have been suffering from UTI - thrush since last month. Have been given antibiotics, cream, pessaries but keeps coming back again and again. But the main thing that upset me most is I can't even make love with my husband. After months, I tried to make love with my husband but it was so painful I couldn't carry on. I just keep on thinking of the early days (up to before 2nd trimester) the sweet sweet love we used to make. It breaks my heart that I can't love my own sweet husband. I don't enjoy anything anymore. I feel so upset, feels like my life has come to an end and now its replaced by new unhappy, ugly, fat person. I like kids a lot and we both were so happy with this child (1st one) but now I am just not sure how am I going to cope with my mental health. I feel so sad about all the changes and I worry if my negative emotional feeling might affect my unborn child. I am sure many women have overcome this sort of problem. Any advice please :(

Ah you poor thing. Pregnancy is an up and down roller coaster and I know that I, too have found the third trimester dramatically harder than the first two, for similar reasons. I'm 35 weeks now and I'm starting to feel a little better than I did (the end is in sight), so let's hope it's the same for you. However, it may be that it's worth speaking to your GP or midwife if it's impacting on your day to day life. Also, have you been speaking to your husband about how you feel? If sex is painful, maybe together you can think about other ways of being close and loving.
Good news is, you're near the end, so please keep that final goal in sight. It will be worth it! And I'm assured that stretch marks fade away after pregnancy too. You'll get your body back soon and the end result will be a child to hold in your arms. That's what I keep telling myself! Sending you lots of good wishes.