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Feeling guilty about anti- emetics but I don't think I can do this anymore

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originalusernamefail · 14/05/2015 17:36

Hi everyone, I am currently coming up to 6 wks pg with DC2. I had severe nausea and vomiting with DS from approx 3 wks to 40+6. I lost nearly 2 stone in the first trimester and developed shingles as I was so run down by the vomiting. I got through the pg un medicated because I literally worked and lay in bed for the entire time - it was grim Sad.

Anyway here I am pg with DC2 (a much wanted and worked for baby due to fertility issues) and the sickness is back with a vengeance. The thought of no respite until Jan is leaving me cold and I don't have the opportunity of 'checking out' of life this time because I have. DS to consider. DH does not understand and is already feeling sorry for HIMSELF at the prospect of having to 'deal with me' for the duration of the pg. My DSis just sneered 'you chose this I have no sympathy for you' and no one else knows as it's such early days.

Sorry this is so long but I suppose my Q is,would it be so bad to go to the GP to ask for meds? I'm feeling guilty as I managed without for DS and I'm already struggling with this baby, but I know I'm only going to get worse and the thought is soul destroying.

Any advice would be gratefully received Thanks T.I .A

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CinnabarRed · 14/05/2015 17:37

Of course it wouldn't. Anti-emetics are very, very safe nowadays. I wouldn't hesitate.

MrTumblesSpottyHag · 14/05/2015 17:40

Seriously, get some meds! It's a hideous thing to go through and I have nothing but sympathy for you OP Thanks

measles64 · 14/05/2015 17:43

Please get some meds. for your own health. The sickness may not last as long this time.

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originalusernamefail · 14/05/2015 17:52

Thanks everyone. Measles I sincerely hope that it goes quicker this time. I think I'll call the doc tomorrow, it's just nice to hear other people say I'm not putting myself before the babies well being. I tried every natural 'remedy' with DS (Ginger, ice, sea bands, salty food, Rennies, eating little and often etc etc etc) and nothing worked. All being well this is likely to be my last pregnancy, is it so wrong not to want to 'suffer' it? I also don't want DS to have to put up with a half arsed mummy for 9 months.

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CinnabarRed · 14/05/2015 18:05

BTW, I write as someone who was on morphine for protracted periods while pregnant with DS1. I do understand what you're feeling, but I couldn't have survived without it.

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originalusernamefail · 14/05/2015 18:46

Thanks Cinnabar, I hope your pain is better now. I know what needs to be done, there just seems to be a blockage in my head about taking that step. I can't imagine that it's good for a baby for their mum to be in a state either due to pain or sickness.

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rhnireland · 14/05/2015 18:55

Just to say if you do end up feeling guilty for taking the medication which you absolutely shouldn't that it's just as important for the baby that you are probably hydrated, able to rest properly and can eat well for the baby to grow properly. You're taking responsible action to ensure your child is well... And you'll feel much better as well which can only be good for the pregnancy and your other child.

MadameJosephine · 14/05/2015 18:57

Sorry to hear that you are having such a dreadful time and that your family are not very supportive. I wouldn't hesitate to get anti emetics, they are very safe these days. They transformed my life when I was pg with DD. I went from constantly vomiting/retching snd spending most of my day crying on the bathroom floor to being relatively normal, able to function and to go to work and 'only' vomiting once or twice day. Don't worry if the first ones they try don't work, I had to try 3 different meds before i found the one that suited

Congratulations on your pregnancy and good luck, hope you are feeling better soon.

comeagainforbigfudge · 14/05/2015 18:58

Oh yeah gawds get the meds! I had to take cyclizine from about 10 weeks til 22-ish. Couldn't keep anything down
Not even water.

Get thee to the doctors ASAP!

Congrats on your pregnancy Flowers
Hope you feel better soon

CinnabarRed · 14/05/2015 20:02

Thank you, I'm fine now. I had a very rare complication with DS1 that made my kidneys fail, but it resolved itself as soon as he was born. Poor little chap was born with mild withdrawal symptoms, which made me feel terrible, but I've never known pain like the kidney thing - labour was a breeze in comparison! I literally couldn't have coped without the morphine.

sarkymare · 14/05/2015 22:09

Good god yes ask for some meds and don't you dare feel guilty about it!

I'm currently on cyclazine, metra-something and buccal tablets. With the occasional shot of extra cyclazine in my ass when need be. Without them I would be practically living in the hospital on a drip.

Honestly if the meds will help with the sickness even just a little bit they will be worth it. Although I'm still sick quite a lot even with the meds, they have made a huge difference. I've gone from crying all day due to being utterly fed up and exhausted from constant sickness to having more good days than bad and being able to go about my day almost as normal.

Congratulations and I hope you feel better soon Smile

AmberLav · 15/05/2015 08:57

I remember reading research recently that concluded that it can be more dangerous to the baby to not take the medication, if the mother is at risk of malnourishment. I seem to recall that bad HG that was untreated could lead to an IQ drop of a couple of points. It was making the point that GPs need to be better educated to treat HG and severe morning sickness properly, so that mothers are getting the right treatment.

I suspect that Kate was able to get hydration drips in the comfort of her own home, and this report/research recommended that a system should be brought in so that all HG women can get the same "luxury"!

And your family sound like right delights! Does your sister have any children yet? Part of me really hopes that she gets to experience the joys of morning sickness! My sister felt sick throughout hers, but she was never sick, so she totally gets how miserable ms makes you feel. And your DH needs to accept that his role in this pregnancy is looking after you and DS, not whining about how awful it is for him! I'm on my third go of ms, and DH is being fab, getting the kids dressed while I have a little rest after my shower in the morning, and things like that, and my ms is a lot milder than yours sounds! Have you tried being sick on him yet?!

Good luck!

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