Silent miscarriage/ blighted ovum

[Coraltee123]

I found out 2 days ago at my ten week scan that my baby had sadly disappeared. Basically it didn't form at the start and my body thought I was still pregnant so the sac continued to grow. It was such a shock as I had no bleeding or cramps or anything!. I now am going to have to get the sac removed. Has anybody any experience with this? I Suffer from bad anxiety so waiting for the baby to leave itself isn't an option as I'm so scared. I'm also terrified of getting it vacuumed out! It's eating away at me as I still have a week to wait to get even booked it to have it done "incase anything changes" but it's obviously not going too! Just looking for some reassurance that it is gonna be ok. Thanks so much xx

Hi Coral I had a blighted ovum last year, discovered at 8 weeks. I had medical management (where they give you pessaries to dilate your cervix), for which I stayed in hospital so I could have pain killers and didn't have to deal with it at home. There is lots of practical advice on the MC boards here. Some women choose to have a ERPC which what used to be called a D&C. You would likely be put to sleep for that and generally hormones etc return to normal quicker than with natural and medical management, however does carry the risks associated with gynae surgery and general anaestetic (sp?) etc. Until then try and not be alone, it could start happening at any time. If you are scared or in pain at any point call your GP/111/A&E

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage

Be kind to yourself, you will be ok. I fell pregnant 6 weeks after my MC and I am now 27 weeks. Just let yourself feel whatever you feel xxxxx

I don't have any advice or experience but just wanted to say that you are not alone, I am 8 weeks 4 days and in the same position, the doctor scanned on Monday and couldn't see the baby. I have also had no bleeding or cramps. This is my second pregnancy. I have to get it all confirmed for certain on Monday at a further scan but it seems likely that I will also have to have it removed and am worried.

This is my second pregnancy and I am quite relieved it didn't happen first time around. I still can't believe it at the moment and feel in limbo.

Sending nice thoughts your way

Hi coral I'm so sorry for you loss. This happened to me last November so I understand how you are feeling. Like happy I had medical management as I didn't feel I wanted to go under so this may be an option you wish to talk to your doctor about.

The only advice I can give is to give yourself time to grieve if you need to and surround yourself with a good support team. Afterwards I thought that I would never get back to normal again but thankfully after a couple of months of my hormones and cycles being a bit crazy I fell pregnant and am now currently 14 weeks pregnant so there is light at the end of all this.

There are many threads on here which offer a lot of support and there may be a local support group for you as well.

I also experienced a blighted ovum that was discovered at 10 weeks. It was such a shock and I really struggled with anxiety between the time of its discovery and having an erpc about a week later.

I opted for the surgery and am glad I did. I'd never had a ga before and was terribly worried about it, but I felt this option gave me more 'control' than the medical or natural options. I had a couple of hours of stabbing pains after the op - presumably my cervix and uterus contracting back - and a couple of days of bleeding afterwards, but it was all manageable.

Take care of yourself over the next couple of weeks.

P.S. I am also pregnant again now (and fell pregnant quickly) after waiting six months after the erpc to try again and everything is fine this time around.

Thank you all! So sorry for your loses
I got ruled out of getting pessaries or tablets and as I don't want to wait for it to happen my only options are to get it removed surgically with just gas and air or surgically sleeping. I've decided is rather not be awake because of the speculum having to be used as I got really hurt by one when I was pregnant with my daughter and was hurt again while in labour so I have an awful fear of them ( only allow one doctor to do it and she won't be there) hopefully it will all be done soon just til Tuesday to wait.

Beejena hope all goes well for you! Sending my prayers your way xxx

Ps I'm so glad that people seem to be able to get pregnant again without it happening a second time! I've been through a normal miscarriage but don't think I could go through this again xxx

So sorry to hear about your blighted ovum. I suffer from recurrent miscarriages, so had a couple of natural ones and then had a blighted ovum too. It was very surreal as the pregnancy was going so much better than all the other times with no bleeding, high hormone levels (which I've now learned is a sign of blighted ovum or twins), etc.
it was discovered at 7 weeks and I decided to have a D&C the same day as I knew all too well the processes of m/cs. I just wanted it out and to be able to move on.
Unfortunately, it took about a month for my hormones to go back to normal and then my periods did not return for 3 months, when we found out I had a blockage due to the previous D&C. So had to go under again to deal with that.
I know it's not the best thing you want to hear right now, and my case was probably one in a million but just thought I'd put it out there so you have all kinds of experiences.
It all ended up well in the end, just not a great time to go through.

I had a daughter a little more than a year later, and am now pregnant with twins, so it all turned out ok.

Take good care of yourself, and let your body (and your mind) heal.

I had a similar experience, but had light bleeding. They scanned me weekly for nearly a month to be sure of the diagnosis before I had an erpc.

The erpc was fine, I had no complications and just needed to take it easy for a few days. I fell pregnant one or two cycles later and am now in my third trimester and all is going well.

Awk chickbabyp that awful sorry for your loss. High hormone levels usually is a sign for me that the pregnancy will stay so I was in so much shock when this happened. With my first she started as twins I didn't find out until I had her tho so it didn't bother me. I'm glad not all people have complications Sainihedgehog. I've just 2 more days to wait until they scan me again then book me in. I am so angry that they are making me wait when clearly nothing's going to change but hopefully on Tuesday they will let me get it done quick. I'm so stressed out and have had to start taking my anxiety medication again which I don't like to take but I was getting that bad I was being sick and all. Can't wait for it to be over and done with so I can deal with what's happened and try and piece my life back together it's not fair on my daughter she's feeling it too poor pet xx

Ended up in a&e on Monday with a suspected infection so they pushed the procedure forward til today. Went so much easier than I thought it would! Was so stressed and scared over nothing. The sac and left over tissues are being cremated and scattered in the memorial gardens for lost babies so I've somewhere to plant a flower/tree for it. Guess it's more peace of mind and closure than anything! Didn't know this early on they done it but think it's a lovely idea. Thanks so much for all your advice guys hopefully my next thread will be a happy one