Okay I will start by saying hi, I'm new here but have been lurking. You seem like a nice bunch, and not sure where else to go. I've spoken to my friends, but they are understandably wary to advise me, or else so excited on my behalf that it's difficult to speak to them.
I am very newly pregnant, took a home test and have had it confirmed by my doctor. Am not quite a month gone yet so very early days. Apart from a select few close friends, am being careful who I tell since so much can go wrong early on. Very mixed feelings. Had a (very reluctant) abortion with a previous partner and swore to myself that will never happen again. So there is no question about keeping it.
My problem is the father. I don't know him. or rather, I know who he is, but we met, had a few nights together...and then he just ceased contact. I know this person is afraid of commitment, it's something we spoke in depth about. So I'm not really surprised at the sudden silent treatment.
I realise I need to tell him, and am absolutely terrified. I feel like I'm going to ruin his life, as silly as that sounds. I have no idea how he'll react, or whether it's too early. Initially wanted to wait until after first scan but am finding it is all I can think about. Don't want to do something I might regret though, or do something for the wrong reasons.
Anyway thanks for reading. Not expecting anyone to magically solve this, but any thoughts would be very greatly appreciated.