one confused hopeful mummy to be!

[shannonb94x]

I have recently gone to hell and back with this pregnancy. In my other thread labelled 'early pregnancy scare' I explain. But I am just so confused as I got told I had miscarried at what I thought was 8 weeks. Went for a scan a week later to see a baby, only measuring 4 weeks 6 days but there was definitely something there, so I must of got my dates wrong (probably down to irregular periods). But now I have been told my pregnancy 'doesn't look good' .. After everything that has happened (severe bleeding, clots & cramps) my baby still grew, but now all my hope has been taken away. Can anyone shed some insight? Any similar experiences? Good or bad I just need some advice. I have a scan booked in for Friday the 15th but Ive got a gut feeling I wont be coming away with the answers im hoping for. I am only 20 years old & knew this could happen, but I suppose no one expects It to happen to them. This is my first pregnancy. PLEASE can someone share anything to help me cope, im going out of my mind :( .. I am now 5 weeks 3 days with no bleeding, cramps or anything. So have been put on bedrest until my scan.

Unfortunately we can't tell you what's happening. It could be that you got your dates wrong or you ovulated much later than you thought you did.

I hope everything is okay and that baby is developing. Such a stressful time for you. Feet up and rest and keep us updated. Sorry I can't offer any more advice

Oh god, you poor thing.

It is pretty hard to see anything definitive from a very early scan.

Cramping and bleeding are generally bad signs, but not always.

Unfortunately, I think you are just going to have to sit it out until your next scan.

Good luck.

Good luck OP, I hope everything is ok xx

I'm 19, currently 30 weeks with my first!
I had bad cramps and bright red blood early on, was given a scan which showed three viable sacs, but that's all.
Went back 10 days later to reveal two tiny little heartbeats. 2 weeks later everything was going great, both foetus' growing fine (roughly 8-9 weeks).
Went for my 12 week scan to be told that one foetus had sadly passed which was a shock but not uncommon so I knew it could happen.
But yeah, I'm now 30 weeks with my surviving twin and everything is fine.
Just keep positive and don't run yourself down. Just remember to tell yourself everyday that you are pregnant and try not to dwell on the negatives (I know its hard!)
Good luck x

Im trying to stay positive but i just dont 'feel' pregnant that much. if it wasnt for nausea every now & again & the slight sore spot on my boobs i would 100% think the worst. but i just cant help but cling on to the small bit of hope i have left..
Wow heatherxo you definitely havent had an easy ride! Im sorry for your losses but congratulations on your healthy baby arriving soon xx

Pregnancy symptons typically don't start until around six weeks so don't worry about not feeling as though you are. Also, cramping isn't a bad sign as it can be your uterus stretching and changing - also lots of pregnancies have some bleeding early on. I did and i read that it could have been the implantation bleed or old blood from where the uterus is changing shape, for example. Try to relax and good luck for your scan.

Thank you ejclementine :)

Just an update, just found out this morning i have had a miscarriage :( hoping next time i have a sticky bean.

Really sorry to hear this Shannon, please be good to yourself. I also experienced something similar to this with my first pregnancy and it was horrid, I just cried and cried. It wasn't until I miscarried that I found out how common it was. After the miscarriage I thought it would just happen again and we'd never have a child but now I'm 37 weeks pregnant so please don't be as negative as I was. As it was such an early loss it doesn't increase your chances of miscarriage.

How long until after your miscarriage did you TTC? Thank you for replying. its hard to speak to people about it, i find MN really easy as people are experiencing the same thing, where as friends & family are sometimes not as understanding xx