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Getting myself worked up!!

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Samcj · 30/04/2004 20:30

Hi I'm new!And I'm getting myself rather worked up! I am about 10 and a half weeks pregnant with an unplanned pregnancy which has taken an awful lot of getting used to, especially for my partner. Anyway, we are now happy and looking forward to the new arrival.
The part I am getting worried about is my 12 week scan. I am worried that something is going to be wrong with my baby. No real reason to suspect this, have had the occaisional pain when I do too much, but no bleeding, or anything else to make me worried really! What am I like?!
I think the problem has been that I found out so early on that I was pregnant, literally the day my period was due, and now I'm off on holiday for two weeks, so the scan isn't booked till the 20th May.
There has been so much to overcome with everything, and i so much want everything to be ok. I know everyone worries about this but I was just wondered if anyone else could offer any of their own experiences or thoughts on this!
Hope no one thinks I am a complete nutter!
Sam

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twiglett · 30/04/2004 20:34

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tammybear · 30/04/2004 20:38

Aww bless u samcj. I was like you, unplanned pregnancy, and when my period was 5 days later, I knew instantly. I remember the scan of my dd (darling daughter), I was worried. You're bound to be because you cant tell if theres anything wrong because all you can see is your tummy. But you have to remember that this is going to be the first time you will see your baby, and it'll be one of the most happiest days of your life If you dont think you have nothing to worry about then try not to worry so much. Hard to do I know.

Welcome to mumsnet by the way! You'll be addicted in no time!

grumpyzebra · 30/04/2004 20:40

Well, I think it's better you go to the scan prepared for the small chance they'll find something wrong, rather than go in naiively thinking "of course it will all be ok.". But the main thing is, there is NOTHING you can do about it, either way. So you have to put the worries out of your mind and just wait and see.

Do you worry more because it was unplanned? My kids were unplanned, and they're ok... I think most are, tbh, and most are ok, anyway.

libb · 30/04/2004 20:41

You'll be fine, aches and odd pains are normal at that point - just your body doing its thang. My pregnancy wasn't planned either and it tooks lots of chats between DP and I to get used to it all! I am glad you and your DP have managed to get past that - it is very hard. We both found out very early on and it took god knows how many weeks to get over the shellshock! Even up until the 2nd scan we had odd moments where we needed reminding! (I have no doubt that we are just muppets though!)

Take it easy and enjoy your holiday - make the most of times like that together with just the two of you, the time flies by faster than you realise! I am due next Sunday - where did that time go?!

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Samcj · 30/04/2004 21:11

Thank you all so much for your answers and support, bless you all! I know I am being over the top, I need to ring my mum and have a good talking too!!
I think that it is partly to do with the fact that I have gone through quite a lot of heartache with my partner to keep this baby, I was about to move out only a couple of weeks ago. Now he is being so good, he has been reading all up about it and telling ME what is supposed to be happening!!
The other part of the problem is that I am a nurse, get to see all the wrong side of health! Also I spoke to a radiographer who painted a bit of a negative picture! Should of kept my mouth shut! I am looking forward to it so much, but it just seems to have been such a long time coming!
Libb, good luck with the birth when it happens! I hope you have a lovely experience!
God thats seems like such a long time away!

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libb · 30/04/2004 21:21

Thank you Samcj, I think Twiglett might be beating me to it tonight though!

DP and I had the same arguments, and I also started to pack my things to go - it took a little while for the dust to settle but it has obviously all blown over (although when I let my hormones get the better of me DP gets reminded of "that" weekend)! the poor man. We had only been together 3 months at the time DS-to-be was conceived (plus there was also a whole load of other stuff happening but that is another story for another time!). He is ace now just as your DP sounds like he is being.

I am sure you will both be fine, try not to think about the time - it will go quickly! And if my maths is correct you will be able to eat/drink whatever you like at Christmas?New Years! you lucky thing!

beansprout · 30/04/2004 21:53

Samcj, best of luck with the scan. Mine was only last month. I was really anxious, I couldn't get the "what if?" out of my mind but as soon as you see that fuzzy blob, ask anxiously, "is it ok?" and get that yes back, it all feels a million times better. I think it is compulsory to feel anxious though.

I was very anxious for the first few weeks. My mum instilled it in me that you are very likely to lose the first (not actually true), and it was very hard. I've found that as the weeks pass I feel more confident in the pregnancy, on all levels.
Hope you have a fab holiday and look forward to hearing how the scan went.

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Samcj · 30/04/2004 21:57

My EDD is the 26th of Nov, so I really hope it is out before xmas! It will be the same horoscope and chinese horoscope sign as me! That upset my boyfriend even more to start off with!!!
Plan to breastfeed I think, so you still have to be careful what you eat drink I think don't you? But I think any post pregnancy diet will have to wait untill the new year!
Me and my partner have been together for over 2 and a half years, we planned to have a baby in a year or so, I always thought I would have problems concieving, I have had Pelvic Inflammatory disease several times. My argument with him was always that you can't always plan your like exactly as you want it, and we were lucky to have managed to create this baby in the first place and we have to view it as an opportunity!
My god, your baby due so soon, do you feel ready? Are you all organised with you bag packed? You found out the sex of your baby, DP wants to I'm not so sure, what was your viewpoint?
x

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libb · 30/04/2004 22:37

A lady at work said to me once that our baby obviously meant to be here (after it being a one off thingy if you catch my drift . . .) and for some reason that answer made the best sense to me at the time.

Also I worked with another lady who had been trying for years and she just couldn't conceive - she is 10 years older at 40 and every time I looked at her it really made me think about why these things happen the way they do. By the way I hope that doesn't sound like I have taken the whole thing for granted.

I am really pleased for you, and I am sure it will all work out for you. November is one of my favourite months, for no sensible reason!

(Final note, I am more than ready - just wish he was! he has decided to disengage his head! Thanks a bundle, little bean. I am not worried though as these things happen. Anyway, I don't want to hijack your thread with my ramblings!)

Get in touch if you fancy a chat - it is dead exciting and I am sure you will be fine!

Linnet · 30/04/2004 23:04

Samcj, when I was pregnant the first time I was also worried about my first scan. My biggest worry was that they would scan me and that there would be no baby and I'd been imagining it. Silly really but not uncommon. Baby was fine and she's now nearly 7 and due to become a big sister in around about 2 weeks time, if this one decides to arrive on time!

I'm sure you will be fine my first dd was also unplanned and my DH(darling husband) and I went through a lot before we got used to the idea. Hadn't planned to have a baby quite so soon.

Have a nice holiday and I hope your scan goes well it's really exciting seeing the baby on the screen for the first time. Makes it all seem more real if you know what I mean.

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Samcj · 01/05/2004 09:45

Hi there!
Can I just say I can't believe how friendly this web site is, everyone seems lovely! Not at all like some others!
Grumpyzedbra- it does seem like a lot of people don't plan for their bundle of joys! You are right and that is a reassurance!
Linnet, I think it definately will seem more real to see it 'in there', I even brought another pregnancy test last weekend on top of the five I have already had (two two packs, the first ones were cheap and I didn't believe them, and then the doc's insist you have a pharmacy test!) to check that there was definately still something in there!!
Libb, make sure you let me know how it all goes for you once he decides to get himself ready to go!
I'll come back on and let you know how everything goes with my scan for sure!
xxx

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bunny2 · 01/05/2004 12:23

Good luck with the scan. I am due the day b4 you . So far I have had 6 scans as this is considered a high risk pregnancy (last 2 miscarried towards end of first trimester). Each scan has been a real trial and I have been unable to look at the sceen until the sonographer has confirmed a heartbeat. It is just as well to prepare yourself for the small possibility of bad news, I didnt and was horrified when a 14 wk scan showed the fetus had died. But at the same time keep things in perspective, your baby has made it to 10 weeks, the chances are everything is absolutely fine.

cazzybabs · 01/05/2004 18:53

My dd was a complete surprise - had only been going out with dp for 2.5 months and he was still doing his PhD and I was about to start to 1st job. She was surprise but now she is nearly 2 and we are having another one in Sept. Dp is great with her - changes nappies. reads books and does lots of playing.

I hate the scans and love them. They are amazing but I am always really scared that I will go and they will say "don't be silly you are not pregnant at all," or , "there is a sac but no baby," but each time it has been fine. I have my 20 week scan in 2 weeks and shall be just as scared then. So I think you are normal - good luck and everything I am sure will be fine! I too have pains and no bleeding so I think its just things streaching and growing.

BIBIBOO · 11/05/2004 14:07

Samcj, I really hope your scan is a great experience for you - seeing your baby for the first time will be wonderful.
I'm glad your partner has come round to the idea - mine was a surpriseand I found out 1st day period was due but lucky for me husband was over the moon. Nothing you can do or think will take the worry away, but that's natural. As long as you keep on top of it and don't let it get you into a state of craziness, you'll be fine. Let us know how it goes. x

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