Utterly fed up. :(

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Is it too much to ask at 37 weeks that oh doesn't drink?!!
Ffs he asked if I would mind him going the pub tonight.....let me make this clear. It's not for 1 or 2 drinks it will be a full on drinking session til he can't walk he doesn't do 1 drink. Bearing in mind he has just been to see his nate and already had a few drinks this eve.
I said I don't want him to go tonight he was desperate and even offered to buy me a new laptop tomorrow?!! Wtf??
He's gone regardless of me telling him not too. :(
Am just scared I go into labour alone and can't get the hospital. Live rural so no neighbours or family nearby plus have 3 other children to look after.
Selfish bastard.

That's shit. Sorry hon x

Is he your birth partner? The one thing a lot of people don't realise (you'll get replies saying get a taxi) is they don't let drunk people in the hospital. They have the staff, other patients and babies to consider. A few drinks fine, but totally visibly drunk and you'll need another birth partner

Yes he is meant to be.
If I go into labour will be a quick call to his dad to come and stay with the kids then a taxi to the hospital alone.
So fucking selfish. Am so mad and upset.
What can I do other than sit here winding myself up about how stupid I am to be with someone so selfish for all these years

this is rubbish.
but try not to sit there stewing as it will only make you feel bad, not him.

take a deep breath, have some cake or chocolate, put something good on tv and try to relax for a bit. it sounds like there is nothing you can do about it tonight, so perhaps have a think about how you can approach a sober conversation with him tomorrow.

if he's not one to respond well to you putting your foot down, perhaps a less heated discussion about why you would appreciate him cutting down / cutting out his drinking for a few weeks might work better...? is there anything you can do to make him want to decide to cut the booze out himself so it doesn't feel like you telling him what to do (even though, considering the circumstances, it is perfectly reasonable that he should be doing what you ask of him!!)? the points you / others make about how you get to hospital, who will be there for you at the birth, and who will look after the kids are all pretty compelling... could you encourage him to try zero alcohol beer or get him to drive to the pub so he cant drink...?
sorry you're in this situation, hope you can bring him round.
good luck

It's very selfish of him and tou should show him this thread so he can see his behaviour is not normal. I'm also 37 weeks and At this moment in time my OH and his friend are painting my kitchen and nursing a couple of beers. I know 100% he won't go over the score and he wouldn't dare ask to go on a night out with lots of alcohol when I'm past the 37 week mark. Your other half is very being selfish. Xx

Well he's now back home after me having to ring the pub to get him. And guess what am the selfish one and apparently I have serious problems? Hello?
It's really crap having to relay on the unreliable when feeling very vulnerable :(
Will try talk to him tomorrow when everything has settled

I share your frustration OP!

My DP went out at 5pm last weekend and didn't show up until 9am the next morning, very drunk still after staying up all night to watch the boxing!

I thought my waters had began to leak that night and I was beyond scared, luckily they didn't but seeing how worried I was when he got in gave him a wake up a call. I hope your OH realises that you need him to be on form at the minute. Don't let him make you feel like you have done anything wrong because you haven't

You haven't done anything wrong, maybe at a calmer time ask him how he'd feel if he missed the birth? My DH nearly missed mine and we were 10 mins from the hospital and he was sober, it was an emcs and they weren't able to wait, it felt like DS was out within minutes

I don't think it is too much to ask at al - where I live it is zero tolerance for driving so one drink and you can't drive - when I get to 37-38 weeks I will definitely be asking hubby to stop drinking completely just in case as we sometimes have to wait quite a while for taxis - but for a couple of weeks before that would want him to not get smashed - hopefully I have a good argument as a good friend just had her baby at 35 weeks!

I think you are completely within your rights to be pissed off with him, we have to put ourselves through a lot during pregnancy and asking them to stay off the booze for a couple of weeks isn't really a big ask.