Baby shower??????

[MumToBe2015R]

I'm 27wks with first baby. Was wondering when is baby shower done?

Who is supposed to me invited?
Games?
Is hubby supposed to be there?

Sorry not sure how this is done. Suggestions will be very much appreciated [happy]

Sorry if I've posted in the wrong group, couldn't find appropriate group.

Thank you

Shower is short for 'shower with gifts' so you never arrange your own (that really would look grabby).

No men.

The hostess would be a close friend or a DSis, who should make sure the actual event is something you'd like (can be pretty much anything, cringeful games and quizzes only if she thinks you want them).

Shower gifts are small, and the host should do a discreet bit of coordination so it doesn't end up with everyone giving you embroidered muslins.

Thank you medi
I'm not arranging it, my sister was talking to me about it today, but she was asking me about games & stuff, but I didn't have a clue. So thought I'd ask [happy]

My sister is arranging it.

I thin it would b cheeky to arrange your own as it's basically an invite asking for presents. They're not compulsory, I didn't have one and I don't think anyone I know did either.

Cross posts. Have it when you prefer, you might not feel up for socialising when too big. It's surely up to you if you want blokes there? It's your party!

My friend had one but specified children's books that are meaningful to you as the gift which I thought was a fab idea, books can be so cheap and stops anyone feeling like they can't go because they can't afford an expensive gift and stops the present grabbing feel. It was great fun and a lovely girly catch up before her baby was born ??

Bells that is a fab idea. I never had one personally...ugh all that being the centre of attention!

"It's surely up to you if you want blokes there? It's your party!"

Yes, she can have any type of party she likes. But don't call it a shower if it's not a shower.

That means giving presents between female friends, as a rite of passage marking start of motherhood as you approach the delivery of your first baby.

"and stops anyone feeling like they can't go because they can't afford an expensive gift "

Gifts for a shower should always be small, indeed 'shower-type gift' has become an idiom for a little gift.

If you think the person being showered wants big presents, better to club together and perhaps buy that for the baby once arrived. Better that than warp what happens at a shower.

We did the book idea for my friend. We all bought a copy of our favourite childhood book and wrote a message to her baby inside. Now she's got the best little book library!

Do whatever you want. Seriously. It has to fit with what's comfortable for you.

I posted about mine last week as I was worried it was getting a bit out of hand/stressful. As it happened, it was lovely. My friend organised it, we went for a meal, I was adamant I didn't want any games or faffing about. Me and DH both went, along with 7 of my friends (both male and female).

If you want to stick with tradition then that would say no men, play games, don't organise it yourself etc, but you don't have to. Do whatever is best for you

On that logic isn't an engagenent party or indeed every birthday party you throw just 'asking for presents?'

I've arranged a little get together with around 6 friends myself as i thought it would be nice to meet up together prior to baby and you've worried me now!

I was asked by a friend who moved away when I was having mine and could she come! Took me completely by surprise as I hadn't even thought about it.

Went to one organised by the mum-to-be a couple of years ago - just a nice catch up in a lovely cafe eating cake and drinking coffee... she didn't specify present preferences at all. I definitely didn't find it grabby (as a guest) - I suppose if people do then they can always say they can't come!

I love the idea of the books - that's really special and I don't think baby can ever be too young for books!