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Third trimester with a toddler = hell!

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Coastingit · 30/04/2015 20:45

Oh my word I am struggling.

I have a 3yo, he is super demanding and takes all my energy and time. I'm in so much discomfort now at 35 weeks I can't cope! I need to lie down most of the time, struggle to play on the floor, can't run around at the park any more or all of his favourite things to do with mummy.

Anyone else in the same boat? Just had the bedtime hour from hell and then he cried himself to sleep and told me to go away when I went back in to comfort him I rushed through his bedtime stories as I was so uncomfy and just wanted to get to my own bed.

DH is trying to reassure me saying all older siblings have to go through this, but I feel so guilty.

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imnotproud · 03/05/2015 19:24

Even the sweetest 3 year olds are too much at the end of pregnancy, I have never felt so shattered. The good news is I also found that newborn and toddler are 1000x easier. Hang in there

imnotproud · 03/05/2015 19:25

Rachyg, more teeth? Back molars are a bitch

3rdtimelucky73 · 03/05/2015 20:05

Thank you to all who have said it will be easier after the birth. I'm 35 weeks and have an active 2yr old DS and terrible SPD. As of yesterday I can't walk at all. Feeling totally miserable as have at least two weeks before induction.

I don't feel ready at all either. Big hugs everyone x

longestlurkerever · 03/05/2015 20:12

Thanks all. She came and apologised hands gave me a hug and is in bed now and I am feeling better. At least when the baby's here I will be able to have a glass of wine on nights like tonight!

3rd time Hugs back. Spd sounds awful. Hope the next two weeks pass quickly.

ChatEnOeuf · 03/05/2015 20:33

Hell yeah! DD is 3.5 and has always been hard work, now at 33w I'm struggling...adding that to the boundary pushing and I'm wrecked!

Hoodedmoron · 03/05/2015 20:45

Great thread, thank you!

I'm 26 weeks with a very active 21 month old, already knackered and running a pub as well so not sure how I'll cope towards the end, hoping it won't be too hot this summer!

Racheyg · 03/05/2015 20:47

3rd time....feel for you SPD sounds awful. Im just so big that I am out of breath at the smallest of walks.

proud....he does appear to be teething but refuses calpol and nurofen. He is a gluton for punishment :) i have heard horror stories about the back teeth :(

Big....its not just my little man then?? I just feel at a loss and esp when his little bro will be along soon we will not end up eating dinner till midnight.......saying that might do my weight a bit of good :)

Hope you are all enjoying the bank holiday off to london zoo tomorrow xx

Luciferbox · 03/05/2015 20:53

I'm so glad I've read this. I've been struggling recently and have been dreading the first few weeks with a newborn and a 3 y/o.

Bigbadgeorge · 03/05/2015 21:23

Racheyg, that was a good point mentioned about the teeth -dd definitely getting top molars at the minute the poor thing.

London zoo sounds fab! Have fun

muddylettuce · 04/05/2015 09:36

I totally feel your pain. I am 37+3 and am struggling with my two year old. I have bad spd and struggle to walk far/pick her up. So far my strategy has been play groups where I can mostly sit down as our previous haunts (park/farm/ zoo/country park) are not possible on my own due to aforementioned struggle to walk and pick her up. On the days play groups aren't running we have the garden which thanks to her recent birthday is now full of outdoor toys that she can mostly play with on her own (slide, sand pit, rocker, pavement chalk) and if it's rainy we have fuzzy felt, paint, crayons and play doh. A lot of the time I resort to peppa pig though and feel massively guilty about it. I keep trying to reason with myself and remember its not forever. Glad I am not the only one who feels this way. X

reallywittyname · 04/05/2015 09:56

Yes, it's hellish. Am 31 weeks, have a 2yo Dd who is a little star but does have her moments as they all do. PGP and rib flare and being in the 14th week of a post-viral cough are adding to my misery. Can't wait to finish work in 2 weeks. Currently trying to think of things to do with dd that mean I can stay on the sofa, any ideas other than Peppa Pig? And like other posters I am hugely reassured that toddler + newborn is much easier than toddler + massively pregnant. I have been wondering how I will cope and have to keep remembering that I won't be pregnant any more so will be able to move without wincing!

3rdtimelucky73 · 04/05/2015 11:16

Thanks Longest and Racheyg - head down is apparently the cause of the ramping up of pain levels.

Saw midwife today who suggested co-codamol for pain, but I'm off my head in it - not going to help with a lively toddler. I'm going to have to call for reinforcements aren't I?

imnotproud · 04/05/2015 13:13

I prescribe a continuous drip of CBeebies for the toddler today!

rastamam · 04/05/2015 13:32

O Im so pleased to find this thread-good to know Im not the only one finding it had, i was worried it was just me being lazy as most pregnant people seem to find it so easy! Im only 26 weeks so a long way to go but already finding it hard to sit on the floor and play for long, Im so huge already. Have definitely been watching too much cebeebies especially when weve so long to go yet!

geekymommy · 04/05/2015 15:31

Right now, I'm feeling a little sick, and was up a lot of last night with a sick toddler. I'm 28+4, and have put in my notice at work and am trying to get stuff finished up before I go. DPs were here this weekend to help us paint some doors in our house, then DD was sick on Sunday, so didn't really get to relax this weekend.

Jackieharris · 04/05/2015 15:34

Go to soft plays every day to wear him out!

geekymommy · 07/05/2015 17:24

Last night, my toddler said my tummy is very big. (I'm 29 weeks) Maybe I shouldn't have let her watch Peppa Pig.

Artandco · 07/05/2015 18:37

This is why in glad we have such a small gap tbh! ( just over a year) Ds1 only learnt to walk a few weeks before ds2 was born and even when born toddled rather than ran the first few weeks

longestlurkerever · 15/05/2015 09:02

How is everyone doing? I am on maternity leave now and feeling lots better. I think it was the combination of everything that was too much. Today dd is even at nursery until 3 so I am lying on the sofa contemplating getting up for a coffee and a shower. Bliss!

LittleBearPad · 15/05/2015 09:13

This was me 6 months ago. It is easier with a newborn and toddler, even when the toddler decides she wants to potty train when baby is four weeks old! Hang in there. And don't worry about CBeebies.

Jackiebrambles · 15/05/2015 09:13

Can I join you?

I'm 34 weeks and SO tired. My DS is 2.3 and very lively and I'm exhausted!

I've got just one more week at work and then I'm using up holiday before maternity leave starts. I can't wait to be able to lounge around and rest a bit whilst he's in nursery.

Although I'll need to do some preparation for the baby coming, I have done nothing!! Has anyone else found it impossible to do anything useful preparation-wise due to having a toddler?!

Racheyg · 15/05/2015 12:25

Longest......in jealous wish I was on the sofa. At the mo I am freezing in the park while my ds2 climbs about.

Have really struggled these past few days so have decided to put ds1 in nursery for 2 days instead of 1. Will be tight money wise as mat pay won't cover much (thank god oh has good job) but I think it's good for him as he loves nursery xx

longestlurkerever · 17/05/2015 11:02

Gosh I take it back. Weekends are haaaard and I have caught a dreadful cold. Feel rubbish and am counting the minutes until bedtime.

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