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Anxiety?

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dillydollydarling · 30/04/2015 13:38

My OH has bipolar and anxiety but is currently on medication for both and has been pretty stable for a couple of years now.

Last night I got upset at something completely trivial and was in tears over nothing. TBH I'd been feeling pretty emotional all day. We then had a discussion about how OH is worried that he's going to lose me to the baby when it arrives and that he knows he won't be the most important person in my life any more. He knows that I won't love him any less and that he's just a little bit jealous that he won't have me to himself any more. He also said that he doesn't always feel like that and he doesn't regret out decision to have a child and that he knows its going to be the best thing that ever happened to us.

How can I reassure him?

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lemon101 · 30/04/2015 14:09

Hi there dillydolly,

It is tough because he has no 'direct contact' with your developing bump and partners can feel distinctly disconnected an unsettled by the whole thing. And it is a big deal - there kind of is no denying your lives will change.

I would just try the argument that you chose to have a baby not because you wanted to change your situation but because you want to build on something already wonderful. As far as you're concerned it is just as important to maintain your relationship with him after the child's birth as incorporating this new soul into your life - precisely because you don't want anything to change. It might not be a 100% true (pretty sure you are going to actually be fairly engrossed in your baby), but when he sees this tangible child that is his it will probably change completely for him. This is just to tide him over in this tricky period.

Good luck! Does he have a therapist that he could bob in and see as well to touch base?

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dillydollydarling · 30/04/2015 14:51

Thank you for your reply. We both know that things are going to change massively but I honestly don't see it as a bad thing. Like you said, its just adding something extra to our already amazing lives. I'm sure once the baby is here, we will wonder what we did without them! Smile

He doesn't have a therapist but I do believe he has been seeking some sort of help.

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