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what would you do reduced movement 28 weeks midwife tried to make me feel stupid

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hopefull2424 · 30/04/2015 08:49

Hi. I had a consultant visit Tuesday and midwife appointment yesterday. Both said my babies tummy measurement has dropped and needs monitoring. They asked about movement and I told them it was moving but not as much as before. My midwife yesterday told me of I wasnt happy by morning then to call hospital for advice. Caled them at 8 as still not alot of movement and she was so rude, told me I wouldn't get a scan (I didn't ask for one ... just advice) she then said at 28 weeks is very hard to get accurate reading on trace and would be there hours also she said how could I possibly say I have reduced movement when my babies not big enough to have a routine yet. I only called as advised by my midwife and now I feel stupid for doing so. She told me to eat lots of sugar and monitor it for an hour. This is my third baby so I'm not a novice at this. I really disliked the way she spoke to me and now don't feel comfortable calling back.
Whilst on she also said she didn't know why my consultant said baby had dropped measurement and it was normal. The consultant had booked to see me again in 3 weeks as my 2 previous babies were born small and my last had very little fluI'd and they think it may happen again.
What would you do? I'm supposed to call Hospital back in an hour bit don't really feel like it

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applecore0317 · 30/04/2015 08:55

Call them back and insist on being seen! She has no right to speak to you like that. People go in for monitoring before 28 weeks and as you said you are going by what your midwife told you.

Are you able to get hold of your midwife this morning? If not, call back and say thay you want to get checked out. Don't let them make you feel bad, your baby is your number one priority

princessvikki · 30/04/2015 08:57

Does your local hospital have a fetal well-being dept and if so ring them directly you should get put on a monitor and a scan,
don't worry about midwife in my experience they're all a bit harsh and rude. Your the mum you know your baby best do what you feel is right.

seaoflove · 30/04/2015 08:59

she then said at 28 weeks is very hard to get accurate reading on trace and would be there hours also she said how could I possibly say I have reduced movement when my babies not big enough to have a routine yet

That all sounds like BS to me

Call back. Be firm. Tell them you're coming in to be monitored.

If the MW gets shirty (hopefully you'll speak to a different person) ask them whether they'll have a clear conscience if there turns out to be something wrong with the baby.

OutsSelf · 30/04/2015 09:00

Call the hospital back. Rehearse saying, "I was told to call by my midwife and consultant. Perhaps you could ask them if you have any questions." Have you got a number for your own midwife? If the mw on the phone is dismissive, ask to speak to someone else. Or, if you are still worried OP, just turn up instead of calling and make sure you pick up the PALS info - get in touch with them today and make a complaint? Rehearse saying, "I'm not going to apologise for worrying about my baby" and "Do you think I am making this up?" and, "can I speak to someone else please?"

PisforPeter · 30/04/2015 09:01

Just arrive at Labour Ward & tell them you are concerned about your baby. They can send you away without seeing you as you are 28 weeks.

PisforPeter · 30/04/2015 09:01

Cant

MustBeLoopy390 · 30/04/2015 09:04

Insist on being seen! The whole 'hard to get a reading' thing IS bs, as my sil has been in the antenatal ward since last night and has had several very clear traces at 25 weeks gestation. Hope this all gets sorted for you xx

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hopefull2424 · 30/04/2015 09:17

Times come to call them back and I really don't know what to do. I've followed there advice and had sugary food and felt a few movements but nothing to strong. Called my midwife for advice but she's out of office until 9.30. I know it will still be the same midwife as she told me it's her all day at hospital so that puts me off to. She's made me feel really paranoid

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PisforPeter · 30/04/2015 09:21

Just turn up at the ward. It's your instinct & if you think something is genuinely wrong then you should be checked. All they have to do is put you on a monitor. Your baby is 28 weeks & 'viable' which sounds very clinical but is important. Stand your ground!

avocadotoast · 30/04/2015 09:22

She sounds like a dick. Please call them back. I went in around 28 weeks due to reduced movement and they couldn't have been nicer, monitored baby's heartbeat etc. You need to have your mind at ease!

seaoflove · 30/04/2015 09:34

Take a deep breath and call back. You need to be assertive for your baby's sake.

lemon101 · 30/04/2015 09:37

Don't feel like you are on the back foot here - the consultant and midwife both said this is an issue and some eejit on the phone has call to over-rule them.

I'd call again as people suggest and be firm - I suspect that it won't be an issue but if it is contact the PALS at the hospital and complain. They will react pretty promptly. Or if you can get hold of the consultant, let him/her know the unit are being obstructive.

good luck!

lemon101 · 30/04/2015 09:38

...has no call to over-rule them

(sorry fat fingers)

Bex174 · 30/04/2015 10:17

Absolute rubbish what that MW said! Can't believe she would be so rude to you OP

I had my GTT test last week at 28wks with twins, first babies. I was asked by the maternity phlebotomy nurse in passing about movements etc. I said as I'd had a very active weekend and this was the Tuesday after I think I had worn them out and they're having a snooze as very little movement since the weekend.

Before I knew it I was strapped up to a fetal heart trace for an hour (found heart beats x 2 within 30 seconds), had a scan and a consultant review all the results before they even let me leave the department! All was fine, they were both yawning away in there so think I had literally just worn them out in the end.

But reduced movement, especially when it's not your first so you know what you're looking for, you should definitely be seen if the glucose and ice water tricks haven't worked.

And no routine at 28wks? Again rubbish! Mine I can set my watch by if I'm on a typical day :)

Ihavealwaysbeenastorm · 30/04/2015 10:20

If something happens to your baby you will never forgive yourself for not putting your foot down about this, please go and insist on being seen by a competent midwife not this jobsworth!!

PisforPeter · 30/04/2015 10:22

Do you have somebody to go with you??

Oscarandelliesmum · 30/04/2015 10:34

Just adding my voice!
Midwife is being a dick . Baby could have just moved position so you might not be feeling all their movements but it is definitely worth checking. You are just being vigilant about your baby's health and following your own midwife and consultants advice ffs. Think assertive thoughts and good luck.

ToriB34 · 30/04/2015 10:47

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ChangingTiming · 30/04/2015 10:59

I hope you've called back and are going in. Your own midwife will know what the consultant said and will help you get seen

TimeforaDietCoke · 30/04/2015 11:16

You poor thing I went into hospital last week for reduced movement at 24 weeks and they checked the baby's heartbeat with a handheld monitor over a few minutes and said I'd done the right thing and to come straight back if I was worried. The midwife you spoke to was being unreasonable IMO

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