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17 weeks & constantly arguing with DH

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Fatty12 · 29/04/2015 11:54

Thee title says it all really!

We generally have a good understanding, and barerly ever argued before I became pregnant (first child). I was wondering if this is normal during pregnancy? Or is it just us lol

Last night we were having a discussion about something and I got really carried away resulting in winding myself up and getting angry for no reason. DH didn't get a chance to utter a word. Feeling bad now.
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scarednoob · 29/04/2015 12:25

to quote my OH, "you've been a nightmare since we DTD. we are never having another."

so nope..... not just you!! pregnancy hormones make us do all sorts of things.

gaggiagirl · 29/04/2015 12:28

Ive been fucking horrible to dp. I'm nearly 17 weeks and now he wont marry me Sad

cathpip · 29/04/2015 12:29

I Irrationally hate my dh for my entire pregnancy, it's his fault he's turned me into a fat hormonal blob and nothing todo with me :). Luckily he's used to it by now so just puts up with it as I really don't mean to be quite so horrid. (Pregnant with baby no4)!!

applecore0317 · 29/04/2015 13:01

I have my irrational moments where I can here myself being way too over sensitive but can't seem to put on the breaks... Sent him an email this morning thanking him for putting up with my hormones and for being amazingly patient since we got the positive 32 weeks ago Smile

applecore0317 · 29/04/2015 13:01

*hear

PannaDoll · 29/04/2015 13:28

It's so utterly normal during pregnancy that the 16 week midwife visit they'll gently quiz you about DV. This happens to me each time even though I don't have a partner at all Grin.

The latter stages of pregnancy are worse for me and I must be giving off some rich old hormones and find myself arguing with random men on the street so I would probably be pushing my partnership (if I had one) to breaking point during pregnancy heh heh.

sophiaslullaby · 29/04/2015 19:04

Had to call my sister (who has a toddler) to ask if irritional hatred of, in my case, everyone was normal. DH was getting the brunt of it and she said when she was pregnant she called her husband one day and told him not to come home as couldn't stand him!
I think he knew it was hormones and took it as permission to stay at the pub until she'd gone to bed!

So its apparently normal. Maybe try damage limitation and when you start to feel blood boiling remove yourself from the situation. Go for a walk, stop what you're talking about. Tell you OH that you're feeling ratty and need to take 5.

LorelaiVictoriaGilmore · 29/04/2015 19:06

Totally normal. I think it's worse if you're not the kind of couple that usually fight as you don't have the mechanisms in place to deal with fighting and how to resolve fights. I spent a lot of my pregnancy feeling guilty until we figured out how to have a, ummmm, heated disagreement (?!) without it turning into a huge fight. 23 weeks and much better now!! Maybe at a time when you are both calm and happy, have a chat about how much fighting is upsetting you and what you can do in the moment to stop/resolve the fight.

gaggiagirl · 29/04/2015 21:58

I'm not even fighting with my DP I just keep sending him to his mams because I cant stand him. Poor bugger, I really love him I dont know what's wrong with me.
Last week I barely spoke to him for 3 days because he bought the wrong fish fingers.
In fact I'm still really fucked off about that Angry

gaggiagirl · 29/04/2015 21:58

I'm not even fighting with my DP I just keep sending him to his mams because I cant stand him. Poor bugger, I really love him I dont know what's wrong with me.
Last week I barely spoke to him for 3 days because he bought the wrong fish fingers.
In fact I'm still really fucked off about that Angry

Halleberry · 03/05/2015 00:32

Totally normal. I'm only 11 days away from having baby now ???? and tbh so pre occupied I don't have it in me to argue anymore ... However, right up until a few weeks ago,on and off I felt nothing but a deep hatred for my other half. Deep down I know I love him but I have been a nightmare. I have picked fights, flung things, packed his bags, packed my own bags, shouted, swore, the list is endless. I have so many "mean to my other half stories" I should write a book. And like a previous poster, my other half has also agreed NEVER AGAIN ?? I have a son already, due a girl and my partner said he could
Cope with more children .... But he couldn't possibly put up with another 9 months of me being pregnant ??. He has been astonishingly patient with me though. Lookin back over the past 9 months he deserves a medal x

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Fatty12 · 04/05/2015 21:32

Hello ladies. Thankyou for replying. Seriously, some of your stories made me giggle a little; our poor DHs lol just makes you realise how much pregnancy tests your relationship. The midwife asked me at my 12 week app if i had any domestic issues, or if i did in the future then she's always there for me to talk too! Lol I was just thinking if my DH was here, he'd be complaining about me!!

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