MNers can you help with some advice for my lovely friend please, please........

[yeahinaminute]

Just had a call from my lovely friend D.

Basically she has just done a Preg test and it's positive !! hurrah

Now - her last period was August 28th and she suffered heavy bleeding on October 3rd - the hospital did not scan her when she went in and as far as she was concerned had suffered a m/c.

She has not had another period since then.

She phoned me for some advice and whether this could actually be the "same" pregnancy if you know what I mean.

Obviously it could be, it could be a new one but equally ( as she is a twin herself) there could be a chance that she had been expecting twins and lost one?? When I broached that as a possibility she has become incredibly anxious and as she say's she wants to be delighted but is holding back and is confused and very tearful, she also does not believe that you can lose one twin and carry on with a perfectly normal pregnancy.

I have told her to get the doc to send her to the mat unit asap for a scan so that this pregnancy can be "dated". When she had the bleeding in Oct all the pregnancy feelings stopped too - her boobs weren't sore, she felt less tired etc -these feelings have all returned.

So - off to the hospital pronto for a scan is my advice ( and why the hell didn't they scan her when she "m/c" the last time??

Thanks girls - can you assure me that I may not be wrong in my assumption that there may have been twins??

That happens all the time apparently, it could very well be that it is the same pregnancy. But she should have a dating scan to sort it out.

Hi yeahinaminute...congratulations to your friend!

A good friend of mine tried for many years to get pregnant, early scan showed twins.. then had a massive bleed....and carried the remaining baby to term and had a healthy baby boy!!

and yes she should have a scan..is she around 9 -10 weeks ? my calculations might be out! if so, then a scan would certainly be helpful, to confirm ( or not! ) this is the origional pregnancy.....all the best to her!

Also had a friend who was carrying twins (unknowingly) and had a bleed, though it was a mis but went on to have healthy baby.

I'm so delighted for her and her partner (they're getting married in DEC - no wine for her then !!)
Thanks for setting my mind ( and ultimately her's) at rest and the twin scenario is a possibility - she's calling me back after she has spoken to the docs and if they can arrange a scan today I'm on standby to meet her there as her DP away working - !!

Could have been twins could also have just beena heavy bledd..have had one in 2 out of 3 of my pregnancies at around 7-9wks. She needs to get to GP and request a dating scan.

I'm just so surprised thay did not scan her when she had the heavy bleed - I was scanned for both my miscarriages at the same hospital ... very odd ?!!

it is odd that they never scanned as with my mcs aswell as the pregnancies I was scanned just to check everything was cleared for risk of infection.

Ok - an update - she has called the surgery and the locum doc has said he won't refer her to the hospital for a dating scan as it's too early !

She explained that due to not having had a period and the last "bleed" was her possible m/c in Oct she was unsure whether this was a continuation of the same preg; a new one or had she maybe lost a twin.

No - he said to make an appointment for 3 weeks time to see the doc and midwife from the surgery and take it from there.

It appears that he has decided that this is a "new" pregnancy and whilst I agree that if this is the case it may be too early to date but I'm he has not taken on board the other scenario's and the fact thet D is really quite emotional and nervous.

So - Our hospital runs an early pregnancy clinic as a drop in from 8am - I have advised her to get herself down there tomorrow and to make an appointment with the surgery's midwife team this week .... that's not going overboard is it ??

I dont think you are going overboard, Any reassurance is a good thing and if she then knows how far gone she is she will then be able to enjoy the pregnancy.

Thanks Lexie - I want to be helpful to her and to re-assure her without sounding too angry at the "professional" advice she has been given - I'm pretty sure our normal doc would have had her down for a scan as soon as you could say knife!!

Hi

Is she in a postition to pay for a private scan, think they are about £100, might put her mind at rest

Lisa x

I'm just writing to second those people that said you can have twins and lose one and carry the other one to a healthy term. That is what I have been told, and maybe what happened with me - I had a bleed eight weeks into pg and I had a scan that said everything was fine. When I went for my 12 week scan, the sonographer (is that the right word?) said that there was a membrane there that is usually associated with twins but there is only one baby, so maybe I had lost one with the bleed. Also think a private scan is a good idea.

Brilliant - thankyou - I hadn't thought of a private scan - not sure if she and her DP can afford it at the mo as they are moving house and getting married in the next 6 weeks - but hey - I can so I'll offer her the option.

Still at the docs recommendation however !