anyone else just feeling... pathetic?

[spocket2]

21 weeks and counting... I'm in the middle of the famous second trimester, so apparently should be roller-blading along beaches with teams of labrador puppies listening to euphoric music at top volume...

trouble is - I just feel increasingly exhausted, ALL the time. Nothing about pregnancy makes me laugh anymore. It's just shit (and not even enough of that). Everything is a massive effort. I work for myself and am really struggling with getting up and getting on with it, because my body feels like it's gone ten rounds with a rolled-up carpet every morning. I got told this morning, 'yes, do have a rest. It's the last chance you'll ever get'. Have completely forgotten that I ever wanted this baby, or that I ever looked forward to being a mum. Now feel that I completely don't want the baby at all, and have made a massive massive mistake that I already regret hugely (this isn't just today, I've been feeling like this for a couple of weeks now).

Did anyone else feel like this at the magic half-way stage? And more importantly - what did you do to send away the blues?!

This is normal. Just take it one day at a time. I personally find kids easier than pregnancy (except maybe babies first 6 mts which goes by so fast anyway). Just feel better knowing it's something you looked forward to even if you don't feel like that now.

Spokcket You poor thing... I completely agree with you and felt / feel exactly the same... I am 30 + 3 and on top of the fact that I haven't had a decent, satisfying poop since October, I am feeling pretty tearful today too.

No-one actually tells you what pregnancy will be like do they? It is all that BS about glowing and feeling fabulous. The only glowing I am doing is hot flushes!

I find cake is very helpful for the blues... That and sleeping as much as I can and watching box sets of cheerful lovely things like Ugly Betty.

When people start all of the patronising nonsense about parenthood too, that 'yes, do have a rest. It's the last chance you'll ever get' crap with me I usually tell them that it is inappropriate to tell horror stories to expectant mothers. Or I am just rude back depending on what they say to me. That cheers me up too.

You don't say whether this is your first baby... It is mine and I have to say that since I have started to feel him moving around that has kept me going... Even when he is kicking me in the bladder meaning a dash to the loo at a speed that would rival Usain Bolt, it always makes me smile and have a lovely rush of happy hormones.

I hope you feel better. Have a cake. x

Yep exactly how I feel, 27 weeks now and utterly exhausted. I am struggling to find the energy to do the simplest of things, take kids to school, housework etc, work is really busy at the moment too and I feel like it's an effort just being there. Hoping to pick up soon, I wasn't like this with other 2. I hope you pick up soon xx

I'm 17 weeks with DC2 and this has been a much longed-for pregnancy, with 2.5 years of trying to get us this far. But... it has been much harder than the first time, I've felt much worse, I've had more problems, some due to problems post DC1, and I've been much more nervous / anxious about things going wrong.

So am feeling a bit like you - what have we done?!! life was just getting back to normal with 4yo DC1 and we're now going to go through it all again!

I had a really stressful week at work / home last week and felt quite unwell at times. By Friday night (amidst packing for holiday - more stress than it's worth?!!) I told DH that I NEED him to be there for me at the moment because I'm really struggling emotionally. Just saying that out loud was helpful. I find I'm much more short tempered than usual, which isn't fair on DC1 (nor DH!) but I just try to keep reminding myself that this is darn hard work and that I need to give myself a break (and eat cake!).

I remember feeling a bit like this with DC1 - questioning whether I really wanted to be a mum after all, but once they arrive you just get on with it. I was quite ill after the birth and I didn't feel a natural bond immediately but after I few weeks it started to develop and when DC1 started smiling that made all the difference!

As a 4yo DC1 is very entertaining and although I have days when I just want to hand over to someone else and have a break, it is hard to imagine life without a little person around.

Personally I found it quite hard to imagine what being a mum would be like, so that may make it harder to look forward to!

But hopefully you've got a supportive DP and access to some good cake. Just give yourself a break, and don't worry that you feel like this as you're not alone!

take care

Thanks so much to all the above! I can't believe that in my gloom I had completely forgotten about cake! It is my first child and DP is away at the moment. But I'm pretty sure that cake will be an excellent crutch. Hope you all have some close at hand too! for all of you.

(runs to cupboard...)

Cake cures pretty much every pregnancy ill in my experience... If you are having a particularly bad day, have 2 helpings.

I the (extremely unlikely) event that there is no cake in my house, I have found chocolate hobnobs to be a suitable short term replacement.

I'm 18 weeks. Second child. Still vomiting, beyond exhausted and now am getting weekly migraines.
To make things worse I'm surrounded by pregnancy unicorns at work. They are all breezing through their pregnancies feeling better by the minute apparently.
I on the other hand missed 11 weeks due to Hyperemesis and now can only work half days due to low blood pressure. I'm so Focked up of it.
Oh and the bladder incontinence everytime I puke!!!

thanks You poor thing! Hope you soon start to feel better... Cake won't work for you obviously as you are feeling so poorly so I'm sending you an ice lolly instead and hope you are soon on the mend.

Yes to all of the above!
This is very much a wanted child, but it's hard to hang on to the excitement when I all I can think of/do is vomit, sleep or lie on the sofa.
23 weeks in and no sign whatsoever of the mythical second trimester glow.

I hope you feel better soon thanks. I am also surrounded by pregnancy unicorns at work. I have to fight the urge to vomit on them every day.

Thanks ladies. Good to know there are others struggling. Hard not to feel like a bit of failure sometimes

Just yes - no energy to type much more! If the first had been like this, DD would not be having a sibling.