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41weeks and giving up

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nicnac1603 · 27/04/2015 08:55

Morning all

So I'm "still here" at 41+1 weeks, booked in for induction this Sunday (May 3rd). I've reached a point where I don't think baby is coming. Ever. Even with induction.

I have had no signs, no twinges, no sweep (cervix too high now on three tries), my bump feels like jelly.... I dont even feel pregnant anymore, just fat!

Baby is still moving around like a good one in there but just not the right direction down

Tell me this is normal. Hubby thinks it's a sign of depression but I just think of it as I've given up. In my head, I now see it as I'll go in on Sunday, they'll start induction and realise my body isn't made like everyone else's and end up cutting baby out through the sunroof......

Ps YES I have tried all the weird and wonderful aids to labour (except castor oil) but nothing has worked xx

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CaTsMaMmA · 27/04/2015 09:03

my first was two weeks late, the MW said to put a date (a couple/three days past your inductions date) in your mind and focus on that day as a day you will have your baby in your arms

don't focus on the doing...just the having.

or alternatively you could go batshit crazy when the MW suggests deferring the induction (ds2) and refuse point blank to leave the hospital without a baby , but I don't think anyone really enjoyed that tantrum.
In my defence I had been extremely unwell for about a week and the only thing that got me through was that ds2 would arrive on the date booked, so I was not for being fobbed off.

ChatEnOeuf · 27/04/2015 09:10

Book a fancy dinner for Saturday night. If you don't have to cancel because you have a baby!, you'll enjoy the evening...

PotteringAlong · 27/04/2015 09:15

My first was born at 42+1 after being induced at 42 weeks. He wasn't even engaged when I went into hospital!

But I went into spontaneous labour at 41+5 with ds2 so there's time!

Turquoiseblue · 27/04/2015 09:37

My first needed a little nudge to start labour at 41+5!
Book a few appointments like hair/ nails
Walk/ squat when you can use the ball and what will be will be, reassure yourself that in x days time you ll be at home with your lovely bundle in your arms.

My second came 5 days early!

MayfairMummy · 27/04/2015 11:37

nicnac, my DS1 showed no signs of labour until it kicked off very suddenly (i could tell you to the minute for my first contraction), and i had a baby 24 hours later (at 41+3). My DS2 tried to come out at 33 weeks, but with a bit of help stayed inside and then didn't want to do anything until he finally arrived at 41+6. I had a sweep (can't remember when), mainly because if i went to 42 they didn't want me to home birth. Had no labour signs until i went to lay down after lunch and heard a pop as my waters went. Baby arrived that night.

I know it seems forever, but they do come... eventually ..... (she says, at 38 weeks pregnant, wishing it would all kick off right now)...

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nicnac1603 · 28/04/2015 08:30

Thank you all for your kind words.

Think I have just reached a point where my mind is telling me it's never going to happen so have completely given up.on the idea that I'll ever experience labour. Few other niggles irritating me with that, namely that in the hospital (Ulster Maternity Hospital in Belfast) if you ar. induced then you cannot use their home from home suites which I really wanted as I can't bear the thought of being in hospital for any length of time without my hubby :(

Just gonna have to put the chin up and take it head on!

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MayfairMummy · 28/04/2015 11:08

Nicnac, I was reading somewhere yesterday that poster's cervix went from too high to completely ready and opening in less than 24 hours. You can always have a rummage and see if you can feel anything if it helps

Ozne · 28/04/2015 11:14

I feel for you op. I went 19 days over first time, and 12 the second. Both were induced with no sign of natural labour at any point. I gave in more quickly second time round as I, like you, had given up believing my body would do what it was meant to.

Acceptance was a substantially easier on my nerves than the fighting, yearning, grieving for a type of delivery that I wanted but didn't get one tiny scrap of.

It's ok to give up hoping for it, and accept that it may well not happen for you.

Swifey · 28/04/2015 11:20

Hi there, I had three sweeps which were so painful because I and ds were just not ready. I also had reflexology to bring labour on!! (Was brilliant by the way, if you haven't tried it yet) that was at 41+5, and went into labour at about 14:00 on 41+6, and had ds by 02:00, with gas and air. So it's possible! Try watching a long, 2-3 hour film on your hands and knees, bottom in the air, it might help.

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