Feeling bad for not being excited at 32 weeks

[amandalk91]

Hi all, just wanted to talk about this because I can understand people who find out that they're pregnant early on to not be excited.. But I havent even got long to go and I'm just not excited about having a baby and it's worrying me.

Maybe it's because I've never really been around many babies or been broody but I'm just more scared than anything. I'm just really hoping this will all change once she comes, but what if it doesn't? Please help, is this normal? :( I was excited when I first found out and it's just gone the further along I've gotten.

If you didn't feel scared and worried, I would suggest you had not considered what lies ahead! It is a nervous time, too. Can you try to write down all your worries in a (really long) list and then consider each one? You can do this with a partner or a friend or family member if you need perspective. And then try to write down the good stuff... even if it is shopping for cute clothes or fun little toys. Don't add worrying about your excitement level to the list of worries and fears! You are probably uncomfortable and not sleeping well and there IS a lot to worry about, so give yourself a break. You will be plenty happy when you're ready to be and this does not mean you are a bad mum or you won't love the baby or anything like that! Do you know anyone who has dc and enjoys them (more or less!) who can cheer you up a bit?

My situation with my third pregnancy was wholly different to yours but my feelings were very much the same. My ex left me for the majority of the pregnancy, he was very emotionally abusive. We hadn't found out the sex of the baby at his insistence and I felt it was really hard to bond with the baby, I couldn't choose a name, I found it really hard. I already had 2 dc, both toddlers, and was very overwhelmed that I was so alone and would have to give birth. I was also very ill with low blood pressure.

Anyway, the most important part of the story is that when I did give birth singlehandedly, I felt utterly superhuman! I looked down at this little thing that was all mine, I'd made her and given birth to her, it made me feel so strong and I adored her the moment she was in my arms.

I think these feelings are normal. It's nerves. It is scary to make a new person, give birth and know that you are responsible for them for a very long time. But it is so rewarding. You're going to be fantastic.

Sounds totally normal to me. I remember looking forward to it first time but not being excited as such because I wasn't particularly looking forward to giving birth. I'm also not really a baby person tbh!

Now I'm pregnant again and feeling more excited this time around because I know what to expect. It's a bit less daunting!

Thank you for all of your replies :) it's my first baby so it probably is just nerves, I feel like I know nothing about babies what so ever, seriously. And my boyfriend doesn't know much either haha Its a bit late now but obviously I probably should have prepared myself a bit more before getting pregnant. I can just see myself being scared about everything like every cry etc, she hasn't even come yet haha. Sorry I'm being silly x

My first too. Excited at times. But tbh I'm more excited about the decorating that's getting done/finished.

I think I'm slightly in denial.
And when baby kicks lumps outta me it just feels weird. (And sore!)

Think I'm probably more relieved that pregnancy progress well more than anything!

I didn't feel excited during my pregnancy - maybe abit in the beginning but not during the end. I mainly felt nervous and uncomfortable!!

Also I found the more people asked/told me how excited I must be feeling the more I felt the opposite!

I think it must be quite normal amanda !

Initially I wouldn't let myself get too excited as I knew how many things could go wrong (we're talking until probably after 24 weeks here ..), and I was poorly with hyperemesis as well which didn't help.

I frequently read people saying things like "It's amazing how in love you can be with someone you haven't even met yet" and have to admit I don't really get that :/
Don't get me wrong, I do love the baby, and talk to it etc. but I wouldn't say it was the strongest love ever because it still feels a bit unreal to me!

I'm its more nerves than anything (we do afterall have to give birth before meeting the little one!), and once that bit is over it will be amazing :) x