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Loss of libido in pregnancy ... Anybody who can relate?

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Toothfairy87 · 21/04/2015 17:09

Without being too in depth ... (Excuse the pun) .. Can anybody help me at all with any support that I have completely lost interest since being pregnant? It's really frustrating because sex is still a very important factor in a relationship and we are doing fine but it know DH is frustrated deep down... I know there are other ways to manage but was or is anybody else in a similar boat? I just feel like we will never have it again because I don't want it at all... Plus I'm either always tired, feel sick, bloated or gassy, ... And then after the birth it will be difficult too... Help!!

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CaspianSea · 21/04/2015 17:17

I'm in the same boat! I just don't feel interested in sex, and by evening I'm always too tired, queasy or grumpy to want it.
I'm 20weeks and we've only had sex 4x since conceiving. DH is very frustrated but the more he nags the more I resist. Other day he asked me to wear some sexy lingerie and we had a row. I just don't feel sexy, but thanks to new curves and massive boobs he finds me sexier than ever. I'm hoping he might go off it a bit once I develop a proper bump!
Ironically when we do have sex I can orgasm really easily (thanks to increased sensitivity) but it still doesn't make me want it.
I think it's normal to want to keep your body to yourself when pregnant. There's so much physical discomfort anyway, it's hard to get in the mood for sex.

scarednoob · 21/04/2015 17:28

yep, haven't been able to face it since the BFP. i feel about as sexy and interested in sex as a lump of jelly!

poor OH is very patient, but i wish i felt differently.

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Toothfairy87 · 21/04/2015 17:29

Caspian... Thankyou ... That's a relief for me to hear...
I am also 20 weeks and funnily enough we probably have done it barely 3 or 4 times but all those times I didn't really enjoy actually, it feels different down there although some of that I am aware may be mental .. However I just don't feel like it whatsoever these days! Before 4 or 5 weeks of being pregnant it was totally normal! A lot of fun whilst trying too! Poor hubby !

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Toothfairy87 · 21/04/2015 17:30

Poor husband is amazing and patient but I know he does still want it which I think is great because of my changing body , but for me I feel like my body is for the baby bean at the moment ...

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applecore0317 · 21/04/2015 18:41

Am the opposite, in that I want to but we are not allowed until 36 weeks as have been at risk of pre term labour. We haven't done it in six months, and DH finds anything else frustrating unless ahem he sorts himself out. So it's just cuddles :) he's been great about it though.

We keep reminding ourselves that its not forever, and have been doing other things instead like going out for meals, cinema, new TV series etc

sausagedogsrus · 21/04/2015 18:48

I don't fancy it at all really at 30 weeks. Yet, I've been having sexy dreams these past couple of weeks, so maybe I do on some unconscious level?

sophiaslullaby · 21/04/2015 18:57

I want to but am honestly just too exhausted. Have got in the mood couple times since BFP and as previously mentioned is good though due to extra sensitivity Blush But currently much rather take a good book and cocoa to bed for early night. DH is very understanding (what choice does he have -im going through the pain, anxiety and changes, he daren't moan about lack of nooky!).

Main thing is to keep talking and cuddling and keep the relationship strong that way.

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Toothfairy87 · 21/04/2015 22:17

Ah thanks ladies... It is really good to know in not alone on this... I mean, I know it can go either way as to how the sex drive can go but still, it makes me feel a bit crap sometimes

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Hippymama1 · 22/04/2015 10:19

My libido has been a bit up and down since I got PG and it is definitely happening less than usual... I think it is normal to be honest, and there is no need to give yourself a hard time about it.

Sometimes though, I just love DH so much and he is so completely scrumptious that I just have to jump him. It is fab, even though it happens once in a blue moon and is usually full of moments of humour as the baby moves, or I can't lay flat and end up flailing like a beetle on it's shell, or there are some gas issues, or people (me) just aren't as manoeuvrable as they used to be...

I think sometimes in a relationship it's the quality and not the quantity. I am sure the quantity will come back in time, as soon as I can stay awake for more than 6 hours in a row! That's what I am telling myself anyway.

Toothfairy7 · 22/04/2015 11:17

hippymama1 ?? thankyou that was very funny ( beetle on shell ) ... :D
You are right, it all takes time, it's just nice to know I'm not alone :) thankyou

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