Really unsure about pregnancy

[Chickenandpenguin]

Hi
I've been posting quite a lot on here recently as have just found out I'm pregnant with dc3. It was planned, happened very quickly and was a pregnancy which DH needed a bit of persuasion on. I really wanted it, and a 3rd child obviously.
But now I'm actually, actually pregnant I'm sooooo unsure. I keep wondering if i should not keep it/having awful thoughts about miscarriage etc. I just don't know what's going on but I'm so worried about everything. It ruining our life, our children's lives etc
Can anyone empathise? Should I think about looking at a termination? Argh I just don't know! Sorry if anyone finds this offensive, I don't mean it to be.

Hi. You could be me right now.

Im Preg with Dc3 but very unexpected.

Trying to put the thoughts of doom put of my mind and focus on the good things and also mainly just not really thinking about it too much.

There is just so much more worry when you already have other dc to consider.

It will all be ok.

It's nice to know we are not on own own. I've just done another digi test because on top of the doom I can't shake a feeling it's not going well, it's said 2-3 weeks for about a week now.

Not that that means much I know but I need to know that it's going ok before I can get my head around it.

Gah! I'm really hoping this is hormones kicking in and we all feel brighter in a week or so.

Those tests are rubbish so don't rely on them. You might be feeling there's something wrong as a sort of penance related to your negative thoughts, everything could be and probably is ok. When is your scan?
I've just been for a run and feel More positive after some headspace. It's such s relief to know I'm not the only one feeling like this.
I'm not normally an anxious person but pregnancy does make me a bit nuts I think. I struggled with undiagnosed PnD after dc2 so am hyper alert to negativity too.
I'm sure it'll all be ok. For all of us. It has to be...

It WILL be ok.

I struggled a bit with doom feelings with both other pregnancies but it wasn't this bad or early.

How old are your other DCs? Mine are 2 and 4, they will be almost 5 and 3 when this one comes.

I don't remember doom with my previous two, first was obviously beyond exciting and then second I was so bloody tired with caring for dc1 I didn't really focus on it! Mine are 17 mths apart and will be 3.11 and 2.6 when this one arrives if all goes ok. So at least an easier gap this time I'm hoping...!
That'll be nice having one off at school at least, we debated waiting but didn't want the gap to be too much bigger as current dc gap is quite small, didn't want dc3 being too out of it age wise.

Mine are 23 months apart, I've found things a lot easier since the eldest has been at school nursery, gives the day some structure.

I was self employed when I had DC2 and working the Monday after I got out of hospital! At least I will be able to have a proper leave this time, that's something to be cheerful about (if I wasn't bonkers)

Oh wow that's horrible having to work that early! I took a year with dc2 which was too long. Aiming for 7 mths ish with this one and hoping to keep both dc in nursery for 2 days a week if we can afford it...they're being a nightmare this morning. Not sure how I'll actually deal with 3 :/

I think keeping them in would be really important! What are your maternity benefits like? Because if your getting childcare vouchers you are entitled to keep them - they can deduct it from enhanced pay but not take them from SMP.

Ditto badly behaved children, they have been worse since I found out! Always the way.

I get 12 weeks enhanced then STat but can continue to claim vouchers. Managed to do so during mat leave 2 and banked enough to not pay any cash for two in yet...hoping to do similar this time as will have s year of double childcare costs before dc2 starts school once I return to work. Assuming I have a job to return to as this'll be my 3rd mat leave with same employer. Which I feel dreadful about :(

They will just have to cope, don't feel bad it happens.

I kept my eldest one in but I was trying to work on his days it was awful, I was typing whilst breast feeding! Never again!

How you doing terry? I'm feeling a bit more positive generally,think I'm coming to accept it. Dreading telling people and worrying about work but not feeling the gloom about our family life so much. And my stomach appears to have popped out already :/

Just bumping this as have been thinking about you terry. Have you had your scan?
I'm still feeling generally ok, up and down moments but not so unsure of being pregnant now. Still haven't told anyone so it feels very unreal and still very worried about response from work x