In-Laws indiscreet about baby news

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We are just about at 12 weeks and started to tell family the news.

Within two hours in-laws are writing on DH's Facebook page about the baby. We haven't even told most of my side due to time zones.

My main concern is that I'm interviewing for jobs and at least one potential employer and I share a mutual friend. I am OK with family knowing but I feel it is not right for extended family to blow up FB or other social media with our news before we have even share it with our own friends. And I'm scared I won't get hired because of this.

DH says I'm overreacting and says he will be very upset if I contact his relatives asking them to keep it off FB for a few weeks. I think this is a reasonable request. HELP!

Wow no you are not being unreasonable in wanting them not to post on Facebook - I mean they are his family not distant acquaintances so surely they can call him instead of writing on Facebook?! I am over 15 weeks now and nobody has written anything on Facebook about us - I would never post about someone's baby news until they had themselves.

However my sister in law has a 7 month old and is still fuming about the fact that a work colleague (and not a close one) announced her baby's birth and name on Facebook before they had chance to tell everyone! People hadn't even known the sex before then! She had found out from another colleague who is a good friend of my sister in law - how rude is that!

This is what I hate about Facebook and the older generation are probsbly less likely to know the risks.

I would tell them to keep it off it. Dh has no right to make you feel guilty gofor it.i could tell my mil anything, she is so discreet. This would bug me a lot.

Floggingmolly: i thought that you were asking an actual question not a rethorical one. I thought it was you who did not understand why the employer knowing about the pregnancy was a problem.
Apologies if i musunderstood.

batfish exactly! Call, email, text, send a private message. Posting on a timeline is crazy, do they think we have announced to every single person he knows on FB which includes colleagues, old school friends, etc.?

mrsmeerkat When they say the younger generation isn't using FB anymore, this is why. MIL and DH aunts and uncles are in their 60s and use FB daily and seem to think it's a private channel. DH has told MIL more than once that everyone can see posts that she had thought she was sending just to him. They don't seem to have any grasp of how to use the privacy settings. I guess I should have anticipated this but given MIL had 3 miscarriages between her two kids, I thought she'd wait to tell all of her siblings/cousins/friends for at least, I dunno, a few days! I'm just at 12 weeks.

It is really annoying isn't it?
We told family and friends in person as and when we saw them. I am not 20 weeks and not a mention on FB thank god. Surely to take the lead from the parents e.g. If they posted "fab news, we are going to have a baby" then you can comment but sending a public message with no sign of a previous mention is ludicrous.

I SIL's friend announced on FB before she could along the lines of "I'm so happy that X and Y are going to be parents" and tagged them both. They were fuming. DB wanted no mention of it online at all.

*now 20 weeks!