Antenatal depression

[rdjlass]

Hello,

I'm 11 weeks 3 days pregnant and really struggling emotionally. I have my 12 week scan next week and I don't know how I'm going to get through this week. Physically I'd say I'd had a medium - tough time with morning sickness and quite severe fatigue at times, but I'm relieved that this seems to be gradually fading and I'm reassured that this is normal at around this time. Emotionally though, I just can't stop worrying about mmc or blighted ovum at my scan. My tummy is still completely flat and my trousers only ever so slightly tight, and I'm not someone who's needed to urinate frequently.

I am obsessing. I need reassurance numerous times everyday, I feel for my poor husband. I am constantly googling and I don't even know what for. I feel so low and on the verge of a panic attack a lot of the time, I'm sat at my desk wanting to cry. I just want to hide away from the world in bed until my scan. I just cannot believe there is anything in there at the right size, and I'm still obsessively knicker checking always expecting to find bleeding. I did have a miscarriage last year but this was at 5 weeks.

Did anyone else feel so worried before their 12 week scan? I had my booking in appt last week and I mentioned to the midwife that I felt worried but she just said 'you need your scan don't you'. I feel even worse since then and I'm starting to wonder if it's normal to feel so obsessively worried/low.

I think the worry you feel is shared by anyone who has had a mc before. It might help if you could bounce some ideas off someone - a friend maybe? - to put it into perspective as OHs in my experience, don't seem to understand that being pregnant can make you feel ALL the emotions, including anxiety.

If you don't start to feel better, or feel any more anxious, maybe it might be a good idea to talk it through with a doctor. If it's making you feel down rather than just panicky, then it might be something that they could help you with.

Good luck with your scan - I'm sure it'll be fine and worrying isn't going to make you feel any better or change any outcomes (which is how I talk myself out of my anxieties).

Hey, I feel exactly the same, I'm 7wks - had early scan owing to some discharge and now I'm constantly wiping myself to check!!! I have another scan at 9 weeks then 12 and I'm driving myself mad already!!!

I had a mc last October so I'm really anxious. My partner is amazing - he says I'm keeping him up most of the night tossing and turning

Try to stay strong tho - I'm trying to altho it's hard - I hope all goes well for you xxxxx

I know what you mean as I feel similarly but try to remember that a lot of the feelings are likely hormone related and can lead to out of proportion thought patterns. I am 9 weeks today and still obsessively knicker checking.

The one comforting thought I am currently relying on is that when I previously had an ectopic and a mc my body told me quickly that something was wrong and that this time there has been no bleeding or severe pain and therefore everything is probably ok. Assuming that your previous mc wasn't an mmc maybe this thought might help you. too.