Being judged just because it's my 4th baby

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Really hacked off!
Am 34 weeks pregnant with my 4th baby.
Eldest being 11, 10 then 2.
I am 34 in July. In the same relationship for 13 years, 2 successful businesses both me and my oh work hard. We live in a nice area etc yet my mum has just given me a lecture about how I will be ruining my life if I have anymore babies, how am now too old to be having babies and how much of a life I won't have after this one is born?!!
Hello? It's my choice how many kids I have and if I have another (which I am not planning on) then it's my bloody choice!
I hate being judged because I have 3 kids and pregnant with our 4th. we're not claiming benefits etc so what the hell has it got to do with anyone how many kids we have?? other people have made digs too I don't normally say anything but am going to bite if one more person says anything!!

Anyone else have this shit??

How odd! Unless it was an issue of ability to afford/care for the children, I don't see why anyone would judge you for it.

It sounds to me like your mom doesn't want to be asked to babysit or something, and is thinking about herself, not you. Is anyone else judging you for it or just her?

Too old?!!
I was 35 when I had my first and only (so far!).

Tell them all to piss off.
Honestly, when it comes to pregnancy & babies, it's as if it's open season on pregnant woman... any amount of rudeness & ridiculous comments seem to be ok.

I'm in a similar situation with people making rude and judgmental comments at the moment. I have a 23mo DS and recently found out I was pregnant with twins.

People keep congratulating me on my pregnancy when they think it's 1 baby, but when they discover I'm carrying 2 I'm a 'glutton for punishment' and 'what did you go and do that for?!'
Because you know, I chose to have twins, it was absolutely planned that I would put myself through carrying two babies at once!

This really annoys me and I only have one child ( pregnant with my second at 37) how dare people, especially family, judge.
My mum went into a complete rant even before I got pregnant telling me not to have anymore ! Also saying " you don't want anymore" she has had three children !
I'm a good mother already and no problems etc, it's just her trying to control my life. So guess what, it fuelled my need for another child, so thanks to my mum for that as it made me think more about how 'old' I am and how I'd love another child. Being pregnant is no one else's business but the two people who made the child.
I have also had some jealous comments or people not congratulating me on this pregnancy too.
I'm ignoring them all and remembering who's a real friend.

I think a lot of it is jealousy and/or denial! People wanting more children but can't for whatever reason tell themselves that it's wrong to have more so it hurts less. An ex friend of mine referred to me as a rabbit and was overheard slagging me off on the school run when this time last year she told me she wanted another but her husband had said no. Sometimes people just don't like you having more than them, it's like a competition, if they have more than you then they are more experienced, better at it etc makes them feeling powerful important but if you have more you switch rolls and no no no we can't have that, so let's pretend you've commuted some sort of crime and be all judgey and holier-than-thou hahahahahahahah

Newbian - tbh she's a very judgemental person and can be quite negative. I love her to bits obviously but she can be hard work as she has an opinion on EVERYONE!! We live 90 mile away and very very rarely ask he to have the kids as we don't really go out much anyway and if we do its usually for meals etc and the kids come with us.
With anyone else it's just the general oooooo not got a TV? Oooo that's a lot of kids to have or Oooo your brave etc etc
like today went into super drug and shop assistant was asking about pregnancy etc and asked if it was my first, told her no its my 4th and she almost dropped my items she was scanning!!
My nan had 6 children. My mum is one of 6 and she has had 3 children including me. Don't see why she feels the need to lecture!

Name this one after her maybe that will appease her ?? but seriously. When I go out with all the kids (including step) plus being pregnant I know exactly what you mean. I look young for my age so I get judged for that too. People these days just seem to want to attack everyone all the time. You could be a nature loving, charity working, advocate of world peace and they'd still find something to insult you over. Love your life, love you family, be happy, ignore morons ??

I am pregnant with number 3 and have had a few similar comments - oh you will have three children under 5/was it planned etc etc. I have a friend who has an only child by choice and she gets them too - 'when are you having another....'

It is not about number of children it is about the fact that people have a certain idea about the way you should be living your life and want to force it on others - IGNORE!!

And congratulations by the way!