Sore "bits"

[CurrantBun]

Sorry if TMI but does anyone else feel tender 'down below'? I don't feel sore as in open wound-type sore, but my bits feel slightly tender, as though bruised (which they're not). Not tender to walk around or sit down, but notice it most when having a wee and relaxing 'down there'.

DH and I tried to have sex the other night (trust me, we've hardly done it since I fell pregnant!) and although we were both up for it, it was too uncomfortable for me and we had to stop. I don't necessarily want to go for the remainder of my pregnancy (I'm 23+3 weeks) without any sex but I could do without the discomfort.

Anyone else got tender bits, and is this normal?

Hi, I was 'sore' and tender for most of my 2nd pregnancy and the last stages of my first. It was worst when I was standing still. It felt like I needed to keep my hand there as if to hold the baby and all my bits in!!!
Midwife said is was all the pressure and weight of baby and fluid pressing down. Ouch!!

hah I have exactly that, stingy/bruised feeling when weeing only, and when climbing into bed sometimes...however I had dd 4mths ago?

I did have urine tests and they said nothing wrong with me, but get a test done to be safe in your condition!!!

Voodoo, it's definitely not an infection, and doesn't sting when I wee, just feels tender because to wee or poo involves a slight 'bearing down' in that area. Had a urine test a week ago and came back NAD so know it's all OK.

there is increased blood flow to the 'lady bits' in pregnancy...which could account to the tenderness...especially if no infection......make sure you eat well, lots of fruit, veg & fibre and lots of fluids to make sure going to the loo is easy. so you don't need to strain!

sympathies....must be horrid.....

I've had something similar for the last little while, just a normal "engorgement" that has put pressure on everything and changed the way the whole environment feels.
If you're really keen on sex, as I was after a few weeks of refusing poor dh, try and find a position that allows you to control the amount and angle of penetration. On top worked best for us. Also, definitely make sure everything is well lubricated, don't force it.
As my dh pointed out to me, everything is changing to prepare for something coming OUT, so things are bound to feel different.
Good luck.

Currantbun, i am having the exact same thing to the point where i am litteraly unable to move, i can't stand,sit, walk climb stairs pick my ds ect. I was told it was a form of Symphys Pubis Disorder (SPD) it's bloody agony feels like i should be bruised 'down below' but i am not! Im 37+2 today.

Snowpea, thanks for that. Will have to experiment with different positions !

Charlee, ouch! Mine is nothing like that. Just minor discomfort which I only really notice when I'm putting pressure on that area, e.g. when going for a No. 2 - or even a wee because the pelvic floor muscles relax. Keep forgetting to do my pelvic floors - that might actually help!

Engorgement makes sense - remember feeling shocked and horrified when I first became pregnant at all these things that were going to happen to my body, but now I'm kind of resigned to them and just accept them. I'd read that your 'lady bits' can get engorged but just wondered whether that's what I'm feeling and if others have also got/had it. If it's tender 'down there' now, I hate to think what it's going to be like once a baby has exited!

I've found that the worst part is that if your bits feel different, or not-so-good, it tends to throw the rest of you completely off, or at least it does with me.

I was really pissed off a few weeks back, because everything was changing and I swore I had a UTI, but urine came back negative, and I was really angry that there was nothing I could do about it.
Don't force it if it feels bad - it will just make you feel worse - but I can tell you that it is possible to get used to it and work your way around the changes.
The pregnant body is a wierd, wonderful and sometimes irritating thing!

Hi, just to say that I have experienced exactly the same thing since I was about 20 weeks (I'm now 38 weeks!). I have asked 2 midwives plus my GP about this as I was extremely worried - my imagination was going into overdrive - I thought I would have a prolapsed vagina after birth and all sorts of other awful things! None of them came up with anything particularly useful so I've just had to put up with it. They have merely said things like the baby is heavy and probably laying low and putting strain on your pelvic floor. It hasn't gone away - I'm just hoping that it sorts itself out when I give birth!!!