Anyone else really down?

[Ladypug]

I keep feeling really down and alone. I'm normally very happy and social but I just keep feeling lonely and useless, like a failure as a mother already and like I have nobody to talk to. DH says its just hormones, is this true? I'm nearly 12 weeks, when will this feeling lift? Feeling weepy, exhausted and really down x

I'm currently in bed sobbing away for no reason but every reason if that makes sense. I don't feel myself at all and feel very emotionally fragile here have some flowers haha x

Ladypug I know exactly how you feel. I am hoping this passes as I can't seem to cheer up at all. Could cry all the slightest thing.. hope you start feelin better soon hunnie x

Hey, how far along are you both? X

I am 11 weeks ladypug, maybe something to do with a surge of hormones x

I'm 15 weeks and been going through much the same thing. I'm very tearful but don't know why

I've been feeling like this the last few days. Actually posted about it this morning and was reassured others were feeling the same way.

I feel so much better reading this, I started thinking maybe I'm depressed! I'm normally so upbeat, I don't recognise myself, I literally feel so sorry for myself about the smallest things and so isolated! It doesn't help that hardly anyone knows I'm pregnant yet so I have little support! How is everyone else managing it? X

Literally sounds just like me, i find this is a good place to talk because people do not know you and so can give non biased advice and won't judge you and also if few people know about the pregnancy it's nice to talk to other expectant mums to be. Try just taking time out for yourself, remind yourself that it is the hormones and that things will settle down. It's important to take care of yourself right now to, are you getting enough sleep and eating well? As this can make you feel so much worse! If at home and able to, have a bath when feeling very tearful, some nice comfort food and chill out with some good TV! I lost my father a year ago on Thursday and so I have suffered with depression but when I found out about the baby I came off my antidepressant and I am fighting my way through! You can too ?xxx

I cried yesterday because I saw an elderly lady walking in the rain (struggling) I couldn't help myself I just felt so sad

I'm 12 weeks too am crying all the time, I'm exhausted and bt sleeping well which I don't suppose is helping, my poor DH has me in tears every time he leaves for work!

Oh dear, at least we're all in it together I guess. It's so horrid, I hope it passes soon xxx

Ps Morgan'sMummy sorry to hear about your father :-( xxx

This was me from 7-14 weeks. I wasn't just teary l was like what have l done?! I had a terrible time with DD and never wanted to be in that situation again etc but 18 months ago l felt ready and we started ttc . After 2 mc l am now 15 weeks and finally getting excited.

it really threw me feeling this way as l was devastated after both mc. I can only think it was the hormones and they have settled now.

But rest assured you're not the only one to feel that way!

Thanks Possum, glad you're feeling better! X

I felt really down around that time. I'm 23 weeks now and still quite often weep at not much but then it was much worse, I did feel really quite depressed. It is hormones but if it doesn't get better or you feel really bad then do talk to your doctor/ midwife

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It's completely normal for your hormones to be totally haywire, especially in the first trimester, but please be wary of just blaming everything on them. I am 18 weeks and my lovely midwife has confirmed that I have a touch of antenatal depression. Apparently one in 30 pregnant women gets it so it's not uncommon. If you think your mood is not lifting please have a chat with your midwife. There are services out there to support

Thanks Dorothy, when should it start to get better if its just hormones? I will keep a keen watch x

I'm no expert at all, so I can't really give you an answer. This is my second baby and for me my emotions levelled out around 14ish weeks last time. Chat to your midwife and she will give you a questionnaire to do. That will give you an idea if it's normal mood swings, or has potential to develop into antenatal depression. And keep talking here, there are lots of MNers with a lot more knowledge and insight than me.

I'm 17 weeks, and have recently felt better, but still feel pretty awful. So up and down, tearful and happy to full of hate and hopeless in an instant. I've really lost my ability to pick myself up and dust myself off if that makes sense? Before I found out I was pregnant I was very worried about my mental health, but now I know it's because I'm pregnant, it is better. We will get there x

I'm just over 27 weeks and I'm really down, even though I'm usually a really happy person. It has been a hard pregnancy though & there have been other problems so I think when I cry in adverts or sad films I'm actually crying about the bigger things and can't stop for ages.

Wow, hormones have a lot to answer for! Thank you everyone, fingers crossed we all get out of the bad part soon! Thanks Dorothy, I didn't know there was a questionnaire, will find out more! X

I'm 11 weeks sorry only just logged back on. Xx