dilemma

[diddybiddy]

I'm in need of girlie ! Opinion - conversation...
46 yrs single, two miscarriages - don't feel like a complete woman. Very lonely in a strange town, away from what is left of family.
I'm pregnant from a first date, should have used contraceptive, should have done the morning after, but I didn't...question myself have I done this on purpose ? how do I handle this ? Anyone got personnel experience from a similar situation ...

hi diddybiddy and congratulations - if that is what you want to hear. I am not sure from your post whether you are asking opinions on whether you can do this on your own or whether you have decided you will but want advice on how to cope.

I am not in a similar situation so can't offer advice from that perspective I'm afraid but just wanted to ask what your gut feeling is. If you want to go ahead then I am sure that you will find a way to manage. Is there any possibility of moving closer to family again?

Good luck and I'm sure someone more helpful will be along soon!

You chose not to take the morning after pill so somewhere in the back of your mind getting pregnant wasn't the worst thing that could have happened. I thought the same about the first time I got preg, I didn't take the map and although I didn't plan it I think somewhere my body was telling me it was time. I was in a relationship but it was a shitty one and looking back I know I would have been much happier on my own. I loved preg and having my baby, she was the best thing that ever happened to me. I would take the baby as a sign that it is your time.

You might well need to consider moving near what remains of family if you think they are supportive as you do need the extra support in preg/when baby is born to give you some breaks, being realistic. Otherwise, congratulations and time to get a bit excited.

Not to bring you down, but I'd be prioritising a full std check up if I were you. Pregnant isn't all you can get from a one night stand.