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How to hide it???

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kelman13 · 04/04/2015 10:28

hi
I've just found out im pregnant! so happy! I'm about 4 weeks so don't want people knowing till 12 weeks! trouble is I have got a hen party to go to on Sunday! I've stopped smoking and drinking as soon as I found out! thing is friends knew we were ttc so would guess!! how can I keep it a secret do I go or do I make up stomach bug? help??

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Hellohellohowareyou · 04/04/2015 10:34

Can u just pretend you are drinking? So go to the bar and order say a diet coke but pretend it's got vodka in it? Don't use the antibiotics trick, everyone will see right through that. Eventually they will all be pissed and won't notice you aren't

With regards to the smoking can u just say u have given up for health and financial reasons? Or that you've had a bad chest and don't want to aggrevate it by smoking again?

SunbathingCat · 04/04/2015 10:39

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Swannykazoo · 04/04/2015 10:43

Yep - you need a partner in crime ie chief bridesmaid or volunteer to do the kitty/ordering of drinks yourself. You get tonic+ lemon, everybody else thinks its gin and tonic and lemon. Easy to keep losing your drink if you sit it down somewhere while talking to people and moving around. If its a more than 1 day thing you can easily be "too rough" to have anything more than a tomato juice! (I found people believed the too rough after last night excuse v well as I was somewhat peaky at the time too with bad morning sickness - perhaps I am a lush)

BeforeIChangeMyMind · 04/04/2015 10:47

I saw a good excuse on here the other day.

Say you are giving up smoking but you are wobbling and you know if you drink then you will smoke - so you need to stay sober so not to sabotage your efforts to quit smoking.

Chimchar · 04/04/2015 10:52

Can you say you're not drinking because you're on a crash diet to fit into your wedding outfit?

or go with the ttc health thing...

or lie.

I don't drink and get a lot of flack for it. just tell them to bugger off...you're happy not drinking, and its not affecting anyone else!

Annabanana1812 · 04/04/2015 10:53

Just tell them your pregnant... I don't see the big deal about waiting until your 12 weeks, if your pregnant then your pregnant !

madreloco · 04/04/2015 10:57

not everyone says pregnant for long, you know, so thats a prettty daft comment.

Elledouble · 04/04/2015 10:59

I made up an unpleasant stomach condition, I'd begin to explain and then say "oh, I'll spare you the details!" to explain why I wasn't drinking. I did have quite a bad tummy in my early pregnancy so it wasn't a total lie It also covered me if I was a bit sicky, too.

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kelman13 · 04/04/2015 11:00

trouble is I'm usually the party animal!!lol so they will know immediately!! its also a bus tour so no way of driving!! The hen isn't one of my closest friends so tempted to stay away!! oooo I don't know!?!?!

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Annabanana1812 · 04/04/2015 11:00

But why wouldn't you tell them, you need their support either way so I would let them know. Plus if anything was to happen on the night out you would want them to know you where pregnant

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kelman13 · 04/04/2015 11:17

Because my partner and myself decided we would keep it quiet! We have told my parents and his! that's all that need to know for now! I just wanted a bit off advise from people that don't know me!

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g0ldie · 04/04/2015 11:21

When I stopped smoking I knew drinking would make it harder so didn't do either for a while!

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

happygojo · 04/04/2015 11:26

Long drive the next day? That's the excuse I used at Christmas and even my SIL didn't clock that i didn't even have a sip of wine! The not wanting to give into smoking is a good one. I went to my works Xmas do the day I found out I was preg and I kept topping up everyone else's wine. Nobody noticed I wasn't drinking until 11pm and by then I could say 'yeah I was getting a bit pissed so wanted to slow down'

batfish · 04/04/2015 11:30

You could try saying you're too hungover from the night before? You could order a drink to 'try to get over it' and take one sip and pretend it's turning your stomach and you've got to go back onto soft drinks.

Otherwise the excuse about not drinking so you are not tempted to smoke is a good one.

Congratulations on your pregnancy and totally understandable that you don't want to tell everyone, I was the same and I think most people are.

popalot · 04/04/2015 11:31

detoxing

NeedABumChange · 04/04/2015 11:34

Just say you are TTC. You're supposed to stop drinking and smoking when trying not just after you get a +ve

Gemerama · 04/04/2015 12:37

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hippymama1 · 04/04/2015 14:33

If everyone knows you are ttc, just say you are not drinking because you are ovulating. No-one is going to try to force a smoke or a drink in your mouth after that... ;-)

MissTwister · 04/04/2015 18:29

I'd just call in sick if its not a close friend and as you don't seem that bothered. A Sober hen do trying to hide pregnancy doesn't sound much fun!! You can do a proper apology in 8 weeks!!

MorgansMummy24 · 04/04/2015 20:54

Annabanana some people are private and like to make sure all is well with their baby before broadcasting to other people

sianihedgehog · 04/04/2015 21:18

I told everyone I was giving up drinking as we were ttc. Mostly worked, although several had suspicions.

hestialou · 05/04/2015 11:49

Hangover from night before, friend/family having alcohol issues so supporting them. I worried about it, esp as drank often before pregnancy, but people didn't notice, when I told people I was expecting I thought they'd say I know
so don't worry to much.

wowiesis111 · 05/04/2015 13:08

I had a wedding to go to in the early stages & me and my partner were fab at the 'white lie' Drinking charade.
He would go to the bar and ask for a fizzy water and lime but pour in a little bit if water ( looking like enough for a 'shot or vodka') then when with everyone would pour the rest of the water in. Ta-da. A 'vodka' lime and soda.
We laughed about it when I told my friends after. It's only time small white lies are acceptable

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