Pregnant and petrified

[Anna2710]

I'm 8 weeks pregnant with planned baby conceived in 1st month if trying (was expecting it to take much longer) but now it's happened in scarwd about how I'm going to cope and how different my life is going to be! I have a few other ongoing health problems which probably add to this fear of how I'm going to cope but has anyone else had planned pregnancy then been petrified rather than excited?!

Yep, me! Ours wasn't planned exactly...in fact, we'd just moved house and decided to wait a bit. Then I got pregnant I can pretty much pin conception to the day haha.

It is terrifying, but I think it's totally normal, especially if it's your first. I don't know about you but I felt like I was the only person in the world going through it, which is obviously ridiculous. I felt a lot better once we started telling people.

Probably most people! Its very normal to be scared. Congrats though!

First time I fell pregnant (planned) my OH found me on the bathroom floor staring at a pregnancy test just going 'oh fuck, oh fuck, oh fuck' unfortunately that ended in early MC, this time I took it a lot more in my stride but just now sat in the bath at 21 weeks I had a bit of an 'oh fuck' moment. It happens and is completely natural

I've got 3 DCs. All planned. Each time I looked at the positive test I was . I think you're very very normal. Congratulations!

Those people who aren't scared when they find out they're pregnant- I wonder what colour the sky is on their home planet.

I think a lot of the ones who SAY they aren't or weren't scared- I think there might be some selective memory going on, or else they're lying liars who lie.

You sound a bit like me.

We were quick to conceive, month two of trying after being on the pill for 16 years. It was something we had agreed on almost two years before but decided to wait until last Sept to stop contraception as we had things planned to do before having a baby.

I think I was happy but in shock that it had happened so fast and my DP kept telling me it hadn't sunk in yet for me. I don't think it properly hit me until I had the 12w scan and saw the baby on screen and was like 'there is actually something in there, Im not tired cos I'm ill, there is actually a real baby!'

We still live in a one bed flat and don't have 'enough' savings but we will make do and give the baby the best life we can :)

Hi Pinkie, only just seen your post. You do sound a lot like me, I was so excited and looking forward to getting pregnant and now I'm in a state of shock and panic! I'm also the kind of person who likes to know what to expect and obviously this is a whole new thing...scary! We too live in a tiny house and could do with more savings to see me through maternity leave but like you and your DP will hope to give baby best life we can. I'm sure you'll be a great mummy x

Exactly me. 10 weeks pregnant. Long planned baby, conceived the very first month of trying. Have had no time to get used to the idea of TTC when got the positive test at 9 days after conception, five days before I even missed a period.

Have had plenty oh fuck moments, and it's bringing up a lot of unresolved feelings from my childhood and past. But take it in our stride and all that eh? Have just sent DH off to tescos to get Victoria sponge so I guess that will sort out today's oh fuck moment.

Congrats!