theyve said my baby might not be alive :( has anyone had this situarion happe

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So I found out I was pregnant on Saturday.On Monday I was really sick and then when I went to bed it feel like something exploded. I went to EPU and they said it was ectopic and sent to me to another hospital for surgery I got to the hospital was given morphine for pain and was then told I'd be in surgery the next morning. The next morning I was about to go to surgery when they said I had a ruptured ovarian cyst and not ectopic and I have lots of fluid in pelvis and uterus but they cudnt see baby due to this. I am meant to be 7 +6 and its measuring 4/5 but I already said I was earlier than 7 but they said they had to go by last period. Anyway on Tuesday my hcg levels were 280 and on Wednesday they were 450. So was discharged on Thursday and sent straight bk to EPU for more thorough scan and she said baby is defo in womb and made me come back today for another scan so today she said the baby is smaller today than it was yesterday and that it might not be alive and has asked me to return on monday. I've had 4 miscarriages previously to this and I'm not bleeding at all has anyone ever been told baby is smaller than before but all okay xx

I don't have any advice unfortunately but didn't want to leave your post unanswered. Hope you find out either way soon, waiting is terrible

At my 8 week scan I was told the baby was 2 weeks behind, and they gave us 50/50. now at almost 13 weeks all is well so far, I just ovulate late and implanted late. So depending on your cycle it is possible. But 3 weeks difference is quite a lot - do you know when you ovulated?

Really sorry you're having to go through this and keeping everything crossed for good news x

No we know I ovulated late. And know that I'm not 7 weeks but the baby was bigger on Thursday than it was yesterday she said the baby itself has gotten smaller x

Sorry to hear you're going through all this. I would say that the measurements are so small at this stage anyway that it's difficult to say whether the baby really is smaller. I think you'll just have to hang in there and hope for the best

I know everyone has been saying they could just have mismeasured on Thursday nothing I can do but wait now xx

When babies stop growing in the womb in early pregnancy, they shrink at the same rate they grow, I really don't think 1 day could make a significant difference to the size anyway, keep positive

She said at this stage in pregnancy 1 day makes all the difference but that baby was smaller than previous scan I'm so confused this has been going on all week not knowing whether I'm coming or going

I think its highly possible they have not meassurred correctly hun and it's got to mean something that your hormone levels increased. How do you feel in yourself? I remember when I had my missed miscarriage all my symtpoms disappeared over 24 hours.

I agree with what others are saying. One day different in measurements, will not give accurate idea of what is happening.

Two of my horrible experiences with early scans:

I have had two scans (confirming miscarriage) within half an hour of each other with two different machines, and two different operators. One said that I had not yet lost the lining of the uterus, it was measuring over 10mm. The other said the miscarriage was complete and the uterus was normal size!

I had a scan at 7+3 and was certain of my dates and ovulating early not late, measured as less than 5 weeks, no fetal pole. Told to return in 11 days. Where there was a normal pregnancy exactly to dates. By 12 weeks the pregnancy was measuring even further ahead, exactly to my early ovulation dating. So that first scan measured more than 3 weeks out, but produced a totally normal beautiful daughter.

The measurements in early scans are +/- 5 days even with the best equipment and most experienced sonographers. Even at 12 weeks the "accurate time" for dating a pregnancy, is +/- 3days. It is irresponsible of a sonographer to firstly do scans so close together once the pregnancy is confirmed at inter-uterine, and secondly to not be more careful over how the warning that the pregnancy might or might not be ok because of the measurements she has taken vary over 1 days difference. I have had 13 first trimester miscarriages, and I do know how stressful early scans can be. I know that you probably won't take my advice (I know I wouldn't in your situation!), but I would suggest requesting moving the next scan forward to the end of next week, so you get a more accurate picture, rather than test-retest variability.

Please please, try to take one day at a time, "today you are pregnant".

Have you thought about paying for a private scan to put your mind at rest?

I don't really know if I had symptoms as was really sick with the cyst bursting and am still very sore. So I can't say what symptoms I had and didn't have. I'm just so confused. She's gave me note and it says the gestational sac is 2.3mm and that I have a lot of gynae problems and just asked me to return on Monday but I don't know how to feel I'm driving myself crazy trying to find things to do to help baby but there's nothing more I can do. Willitbe I'm so sorry to hear of your losses and bad experiences its very stressful and dp has his head in the sand and is refusing to discuss it I think its just getting too much for him at this stage. Morgans mummy 24 I have considered a private scan and rang to find out but they said that they wouldn't be able to tell me any different as far to early going by the notes

From both your hcg levels and the measurement of the gestational sac, it looks like you are clearly only between 4 and 5 weeks. At this stage you are not likely to have much in the way of pregnancy symptoms at all.

Regarding your husband not understanding your need to talk about it, is not unusual. Men don't get all the hormones and they just can't comprehend it really, how significant early pregnancy is to a woman.

There really is nothing you can do right now. The best you can do is to try to distract yourself when you can, and try not to fret about it (easier said than done). Try to just keep the mantra "today I am pregnant", and try not to think the what if's.

The sac grows at only around 1mm a day. If they rescan you on Monday, then you could be expecting a sac of around 5mm, but this is so inaccurate to measure, as it depends on the tilt of the womb, the quality of ultrasound machine and sonographer skill. You will not get a clear picture of what is happening for a good few days yet. A private scan will not help at this stage.

I will stay here to hold your hand through the next few days.

Hi hope you had good news today x