any single mums currently pregnant?

[cath28]

i'm 18+ weeks pregnant with baby 2; dd will be 4 in jan. just wondering if there are any single mums currently pregnant with 2nd baby; i split with dd's dad 2 yrs ago and got together with dp soon after but he isn't around now either would be so nice to find someone else currently in this situation, i'm finding the pregnancy quite lonely!!

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im not pregnant now but ex p left when i was pregnant so i know how you feel when you say you are lonely! i missed all the stuff you are meant to share with someone. If you need to chat im around

thanks it would be nice to chat sometime. i feel resentful of everyone who's got a nice supportive partner and i hate feeling that way! pregnancy yoga, which i started as a 'be nice to myself' thing, is turning into a nightmare because everyone is talking about their dh massaging their feet and how they're wearing dh's clothes etc etc sometimes i just want to scream, which kind of defeats the point of yoga doesn't it anyway catch up later

I'm in the same boat... I had 3 boys before i met my xpartner, obviously i fell pregnant while we were together, but as he cheated, i am now alone and pregnant with baby number 4, so i know how you feel. It can be a very lonely experience when you have no-one to share the kicks with, no-one to help you choose names, clothes and all the rest.

But not to worry, we'll get through it if you need a chat, yell :O

take care
huggles chelle

I'm now 35 weeks by the way lol, are you going to find out the sex of your baby at the 20 week scan?

Hi I', also 35 weeks pregnant today with my first child. Its an awful feeling not having anyone to share all this pregnancy stuff with when I go home at night! The father is still wanting to be involved but he doesn't seem to think that how I feel or whats happening now is anything for him to bother about until the baby is actually here. This really makes me resent him and sometimes I think I may be better with no contact at all so I can get on with my life. It really helps when you can talk to others on here, possibly makes it a bit less lonely and scary. Hope whatever situation you're in you have supportive friends and family who are always there for you x

awwwww thanks girls... i was having trouble finding people on MN in the same boat but there are a few! ... yes i had my scan on fri and it's a boy. i'm dead pleased. but have had a tough weekend as no contact from my dp whatsoever, he hasn't even bothered to ask how the scan went or anything. i had a card from his sister saying she wanted to be 'involved' but didn't want to play 'mind games' i was like, whatever.. most of the time i just feel so fed up, i'm really trying to motivate myself but i'm trying to deal with my dd, work, moving house, plus all the pregnancy stuff, all a bit on top of me right now i've got a thread in lone parents ('does anyone predict a happy ending'?) if you want to read about my situation, but it ain't a very happy one! LOL. really nice to meet you both anyway

awww great news about baby being a boy, i bet your really excited! I have no contact with my unborns father too, but that is through my choice, he will be involved once baby is here, but not until then. I'm sure whatever happens, you'll be fine, I know i hate the loneliness, but i know i'll cope once baby arrives, wether i have my x partners help or not!

chin up, and know that there are others in the same position as yourself, we can do it

hugs chelle

chelle do you know whether you're having a boy or a girl this time? what kind of rel'ship do you want with your baby's dad after the birth?

chockybikkie is your partner still living with you or are you separated? i sometimes think these men are living in a dreamworld. pregnancy is tough! i know i could do with a bit more support than 'i love you but my head's in a mess right now'

but yes, we can do it! lol

Hi cath

Only just seen this thread and thought I'd join the club! I'm 36 and due in December with my third child. I have two daughters aged 15 and 13 from my marriage which ended 11 years ago. This pregnancy was unplanned and the relationship I was in wasn't serious. The father decided not to be involved at all and it's only in the last couple of months that I've got used to the fact that I'm on my own.

In fact, I feel a bit possessive about the baby now and I'm not sure I would want the father around at all even if he were to show up!

You will be fine, just concentrate on the new life inside you and try to enjoy the experience. Gather as much support from friends and family as you can. You'll get through it and you're not alone.

thanx baconbaps, it would be sooooo much easier if i weren't in love with the dad still and pining for him ...... good luck with the rest of your pregnancy, not long to go huh? i'm due in march ..

hi cath, i found out at 20 weeks that this baby is a girl, i have 3 boys already lol

as for the relationship with this baby's father once she's here, i would rather not have one with him, although i know he has to see his daughter. I would prefer if he just left me to get on with it myself, but I know he wants to be a part of her life, and I wont stop him being involved. just because i dont want a relationship with him, that doesnt mean i will stop him having a relationship with his daughter.

Hopefully you and your partner will be able to sort things out hun, I will keep my fingers crossed for you