Could I be pregnant ?

[Riri17]

Hiya I am 17 years old, I'll be 18 in July! I am working in a care home for elderly at the minute and live at home with my parents! I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend last night and let him come in me because we actually would like to have a baby he is 19 and got his own place so if I am pregnant I can always move in as there will be more room there for me and baby! I just wanted some advice and also wanted to know what the chances on being pregnant are as I am also expecting a period April 3rd so it would of been in my ovulation period I hope I am pregnant because of my job I matured very quickly I have been out drinking with mates done all that and am ready to settle down and have my own little family! Any advice would be appreciated Thankyou x

I didn't say using a fertility monitor makes you mature or responsible OP asked for advice ok whether she could be pregnant. WE don't know when she's ovulating.....

On, not ok

If you're determined with your plan to have a baby, then start taking folic acid or a suitable pregnancy multivitamin that includes it, from now. Eat healthily and exercise as well.

I would strongly suggest you move in with your boyfriend now, to get used to it before you have a newborn in the mix. You don't want to be trying to get organised in a new home with a new baby.

Start saving your money between you now, and discuss your finances generally. Will you have just a joint account, or his, hers and a joint account? Do you know what the maternity leave policy of your workplace is, and what maternity pay you would be eligible for?

If you haven't done so already, have a chat with your boyfriend about the kinds of decisions you might have to make when you are parents. Eg how will you feed your baby, sleeping arrangements, what kind of parent you want to be, how you might deal with behaviour when a child is older (smacking? Time out? Time in? Gentle parenting?) It's much better to discuss things before you get to the point of needing to decide what to do.

Thankyou everyone who have said that it doesn't matter what age you have a baby because it doesn't my auntie had a baby at 15 and she done a brilliant job at bringing up her baby it doesn't matter whether I wait till I'm 25 never gonna be any different no matter what there at responsibilities finicanal problems and relationship problems no ones perfect neither is any family! Thankyou kirinm I hope I get the result I'm looking for to I am going to wait too see if I miss my period and if I do then do a test! All the negativity doesn't bother me in the slightest I understand some people are trying to give me advice but some of the comments are a bit harsh saying I'm naive but oh well I'm pretty sure I know how the mentrual cycle works and when I'm ovulation just wanted someone to talk to because I worry about a lot of things and doubt myself, I Probally am pregnant and going to prove everyone wrong and be the best mum to my baby I will never give up my friend had her baby at 18 single parent her mum isn't here she passed away and she manages fine he is a beautiful healthy and very loved little boy and the way she is with him is amazing she said it is the best feeling in the world and also yes I have thought about going on to do nursing but I'm happy with my job at the minute I am comfortable with my work mates etc... I have plenty of time to go on and do other things I'm currently doing my NVQ level 2 got my health and social care level 2 I can get a senior Carer job is I pass my NVQ and also I can do this at home without a time limit I like to be a indepndant person and I am happy in my relationship and I know he is the one he isn't going anywhere and it was a joint decision on having a baby he is 19 and got his own flat he is ready to settle down so am I thanks for the advice anyway everyone

I don't really understand your post OP-
"I Probally am pregnant and going to prove everyone wrong "

What does that mean? You're probably not pregnant, you had unprotected sex once and don't know when you ovulated. You don't have much chance of pregnancy each month. You also can't make yourself pregnant to prove everyone wrong

I am saying I am going to prove people wrong who are being negative about it! People think you have to be 20-25 at least to have children well you don't, it doesn't matter what age you have a baby you'll always have problems somewhere along the line and I choose I have a baby at a young age because I know I am stable enough to have one and also happy

It seems as though you have it all worked out. So what sort of advice are you looking for?

No offence, but you won't prove me wrong!

I have researched so much about the chances of actually fallen pregnant and there are so many different things, I know it is a 50/50 thing but I just wanted to know is it a high chance I am?

And who would know whether there is a high chance? It's not a 50/50, it's about 20% if you have sex on or around ovulation.

Ok well you don't need to be so blunt haha I didn't come on here for everyone to go on a mad one and think it's a really bad idea I don't care what anyone thinks if I'm pregnant I'm keeping it end of this conversation now

Feck is right it's about 20% each cycle.
It sounds like you have it all figured out but just bear in mind that things don't always work out how you plan.
I had my ds at 20 with the 'one' I was going to spend my life with. We had our own home and jobs and were going to be a lovely perfect family. I'm now a single parent to a disabled child. Life has its own plans. I'm not trying to piss on your parade im just trying to show you a bit of reality.

Your attitude to this thread alone proves that you're not mature enough for children.

You had unprotected sex ten days before your period is due. Either it was after ovulation or your luteal phase is unlikely to be long enough to get pregnant. The chances you are pregnant are miniscule.

We live life backwards OP.
But you won't know this until you have lived through enough to reflect.

People here are telling you truths, lies can be nicer sometimes.
you mentioned giving a child the life you never had...the thing is, unless we learn different we are inclined to give our children exactly the life we had.

Was your mum a young mum too?

My mum fell pregnant at 18 and had him at 19 so yes still young! She Probally won't be to impressed if I am but what can she do

I think the fact you've asked our opinion is because you want someone to tell you not to do it. Clearly you're lacking anyone to tell you that in real life.

It's not about what your mum can do. It's about not repeating history, those negative patterns that travel down the line.

Where is your Dad? No mention of him.
How is your relationship with your Mum & yourself? It doesn't sound very loving. Forgive me if I'm wrong.

I'm a young mum.

So many of the phrases you're using are making me cringe inwardly. You think you're ready for the changes a baby will bring to you. You think you're mature enough to sail through. You think you're as mature as you're ever going to get.

When that baby arrives and you walk out of that hospital with the car seat, life is going to hit you like a lorry. When you're sitting there, awake at 2 in the morning, you've had maybe twenty minutes sleep in total and you've got several more night wakings to go, you'll realise you're not ready.

When you're screaming and sobbing at your boyfriend for no reason other than you're so tired it hurts to think, still bleeding, leaking milk everywhere, still in a lot of pain, but it's your turn to feed or change the baby, you'll realise your relationship isn't as ready for a baby as you think.

When you realise that people are staring at you, and judging you, and when you tell them how old you are and how old your baby is, they're making an instant judgement on who you are and what you're like as a person, and you're hearing 'That's a shame, didn't you want to have a bit of fun first?' for the twelfth time that week, you'll realise that nothing can prepare you for it, and no matter how mature you think you are, it's really hard to deal with.

The last one is probably exclusive to younger and older mothers, but the first and second aren't. I know parents in their 20s and 30s who've experienced this, and I've experienced it myself, but I'd imagine, from what I've seen, it's a hell of a lot easier to deal with when you're a bit older.

I don't say this to be a bitch, I don't say it to make you feel bad - I'm giving you my reality, and the reality of most of the parents I've met and spoken to. From the way you've spoken, you DEFINITELY aren't ready.

if I'm not then I'll go back on contraception

I really hope you're not, and you do go back on contraception. For about ten years.

^ what she said
and I was a young mum too. I had my DS a couple of months after turning 17, with the person I thought was the one. I am now 23, pregnant with my third and single as the one upped and left when my DD was ten months old, literally days before discovering I had fallen pregnant again. he couldn't cope with the stresses being a parent brings. I have no choice. I am very lucky that I have a mum who stands by my side through thick and thin and a couple of friends who are there for me to cry at. but thats it. that is the reason I joined MN.
it is hard work and also you never know the problems pregnancy could cause you. I have ended up.on crutches due to having spd/pgp and an unstable spine. I have to do the school run every day on my crutches with a pram as my DD is still.only a baby and I have to care for the two ive got plus trying to keep on top of housework. oh and i don't sleep because I can't get comfortable, and thats without the stresses of work and a partner!

Why don't you take a test OP instead of asking an Internet forum?

You're ready for a baby but the only punctuation you use is ! And even that is not used enough. It's hard for me to read your posts as they are all jumbled.

Everyone else has said it much better than me, but - I think you need a reality test before a pregnancy test. You don't live with your partner yet and you don't have an established career yet and there are so many amazing things about being so young and commitment free that you won't get to do if you rush into it . It's your decision, but you could wait years to get more settled/have fun and still have loads of time to have your baby!

(Also I wish the title of this thread didn't make me keep singing "could I be pregnant" to the tune of "could it be magic", thereby showing how much older than 17 I am!!)