paying for 2nd scan. am I losing it!?

[Aberdeen3]

So I am 9 weeks along, I have been spotting since week 5. No red blood, but it's almost everyday. Rang EPU, no help, went to doctor, no help, went to midwife, again no help. So at 6 weeks had private scan and saw heatbeat and all looked good. Now I'm about to head out for another private scan, hubby thinks I'm daft, but I have NO symptoms, I literally forget I'm pregnant. I still spot all the time and that's it. I cannot wait another 3 weeks to find out if it's ok or not. Hubby wants to tell his family next wkend and I just don't want to without knowing it's ok. Am I being ridiculous, we don't have the money to waste but it's driving me mad. I find the firsr 9 weeks a terribly lonely experience from a medical side of things, just told to wait and see is not helpful, I thought because I was spotting so much NHS would least check me over. I'm petrified about today.

It's not daft to want reassurance. It's scary not knowing what's going on. So far I've had 3 early scans (the first they couldn't get a good view so had to go back) and my 12 week scan. I'm having another at 16 weeks.

Good luck today. I hope all is well

Thank you. I have tried every week to get a scan or a check up. But they have all said that if it's a miscarriage there's nothing they could do anyway. So just have to wait. The scan today costs 70 quid. I mean it's expensive but I really need to know. It's my first pregnancy and I never knew spotting even existed so completely freaked first time I saw that. I just want to know either way, terrible to wish morning sickness on myself, but some symptom would make it real at least.

Thanks Fern, I'm glad all is good for u, let's hope mine is too xx

I don't think you're daft. I paid for two in my first pregnancy with twins to put my mind at rest and each £80 was the best money I ever spent for the peace of mind it gave me

I had no symptoms when I was pregnant with the twins..none.. I felt good all the way through

With my first pregnant I felt awful for 9months....

Good luck today. I don't think your being silly at all. 22 weeks and paid for 2 private scans and have a 4d booked in, unfortunately the way nhs is at the moment many people are having to wait for reassurance. I think its a small price to pay as the weeks seem like months when your waiting anxiously. Hope it's good news

You might want to look up the causes of spotting to reassure yourself, before you spend any more.

For example, if the baby wasn't there any more you would probably have had some proper bleeding, and a lot of people do spot during pregnancy and it doesn't affect the baby at all.

I don't know what the reasons all are, but I think often it's to do with the cervix being sensitive or similar, nothing to do with the baby.

Read this page, it may put your mind at rest.

You are not daft. I have spent lots of money on private scans. The only thing is they reassure me for a little bit and then I start panicking again. They won't change the outcome hence the nhs not being able to justify them but they do help reassure you that everything is ok at the current time. Also, after seeing a good scan with a heartbeat at 9 weeks the risk of mc goes down alot.

Not at all daft.

Thanks so much everyone. I have read so much about spotting and the causes and of course Dr google sets me in a panic! I will have an NHS scan in 3 weeks so if today is ok I will be able to wait til then, my scan is at 12 so will let u all know what happens. Thanks so much for all ur advice, really does help xx

I'm sure you'll be fine today! Let us all know! I'm assuming from your name your the Scotland Aberdeen?

Paid for 6wk San and about to pay for 12 wk one as nhs isn't till 14.5 wks whole other thread and following a bout of mad food poisoning at 8 weeks the midwife terrified me, so have held to 12 so it's the 'safer' time and they can do my measurements too
I'm 10 now and never been so impatient
Have sore boobs and twinges

Well the care of early pregnancy here is not good, it is literally wait and see approach.
Not knowing can drive you crazy.
On the other side, you already had one reassuring scan and if you could hold on a bit longer you can get private nuchal scan what would be much better value.

Well I had my scan, I am 9 weeks 1 day. Saw the little cutie move, saw his little legs and arm stumps. Saw a strong heartbeat. Thrilled. She said she could see a tiny bit of blood from where the umbilical chord is forming and it is perfectly normal. I advise anyone to do a private scan, like a weight has been lifted, she couldn't believe I haven't felt any symptoms and said I may be just one of the lucky ones! Good luck to u all and thank you xx

Glad to hear it Aberdeen! What clinic did you go to? Is that the one at broomhill?

Lovely news, if you can afford it and it gives you peace of mind then I would recommend anyone to go for a private scan. I've ended up having 5 scams so far and 25 weeks although only 2 of them were private the rest were NhS ones

Congratulations :D I was the same as you! I had 3 scans before my 12 week scan as i had previously suffered a MC and became very anxious! If it gives you piece of mind then do it!!! I am glad i did, as i am now 31 weeks with a VERY active baby and i couldn't have got through those first 12 weeks without some reassurance! :D