AIBU

[BarraMuma]

To decline the offer of having a baby shower...

YANBU.

My SIL was chomping at the bit to do a baby shower for me when I was pregnant with DS but I declined politely.

They make me feel a bit awkward.

What are baby showers actually all about?!

Apart from being another American-ism that we seem to have adopted? It seems to me like all people do is sit around eating cake and talking about how agonizing the birth is going to be and the lack of sleep you will have for the foreseeable future...or am I completely missing the point?

YANBU. I politely declined the offer also. I suggested a post baby shower (just a get together) which involves drinking and no presents/games! I hate going to baby showers so the thought of having my own fills me with dread!

abc, I've never been to one but friends have and there are presents for the mum to be as well as tea and cake and games.

Games like changing a doll's nappy that's full of melted chocolate. Who wouldn't want to spend a Saturday afternoon doing that

I had one, against my better judgement, because my mum was desperate to throw one. Whilst it was great to get together with people I could have lived without the whole baby shower part, lunch would have been preferable! Plus now a whole load of friends have been to mine so I'll have to go to theirs when the time comes, nightmare

i have declined one, my sisters one was just bizarre experience and i'm not very comfortable with the idea of people feeling obliged to buy me presents. although instead i suggested having afternoon tea with my three closest friends (im the first to have a baby and they seemed a bit disappointed i declined the offer of a shower) but in hindsight i expect it is going to turn into a mini shower.....

not at all! I don't like them, and thankfully have only had to go to a couple. just be polite and say no, better than saying yes then hating it!

I don't mind going to one, but I don't think I could have one unless it was post natal. I couldn't cope having a house full of stuff if something went wrong.

Nope, not at all. One of my friends seems desperate to organise me one so I've consented to a meal with friends, nothing fancy, no annoying games or anything. I've never even been to one and I don't have anything against people who have them, I'm just not great at being the centre of attention!

I actually don't like the idea of one either but my friends are already talking about how they can't wait to plan it and I'm only 11 weeks! I feel uncomfortable being centre of attention and sitting opening gifts in front of everyone seems so.....I don't know. ....I just don't like the idea of it. I never think anything bad of people who do have baby showers and are happy to be made a fuss of but I just feel weird about it too. I also think it pressures people into buying gifts. But I'm a people pleaser and don't want to disappoint my friends!

I just feel a bit superstitious about them - like honey said.

Maybe it's an old fashioned way of approaching things but I'd prefer gifts and things when baby is here safe and sound.

Christ, no. I can't stand the bloody things. I'm glad I'm not in the uk as I know that my DSIL, as much as I do genuinely adore her, would try and organise one. But frankly, none of my mates would go to one. Unless there was a bar and lots of wine at hand. Tbh, if I wasn't preggers, that's the only thing that would entice me to go to one.