Possible placenta praevia, and a toddler. Kind of freaking out. Anyone else had this?

[geekymommy]

I'm 22+1, going back on Monday for a follow-up scan after my anatomy scan. My placenta was low, near the cervix, so they want to look at it again. I had a low placenta last time, but it moved up enough so it wasn't placenta praevia (last time was anterior, this time it's posterior). I haven't had any bleeding, either this time or last time.

This time, however, I have a DD who is 2.5. I'm the one who gives her breakfast and takes her to preschool (DH has delayed sleep phase syndrome and has trouble with mornings) and usually the one who brings her home- DH isn't so comfortable with driving. I'm the one who does most of the diaper changes at home, who gives her baths, and who gets her to sleep at night and at nap time when she's home. DH does not feel comfortable with his abilities in doing those jobs, so they fall to me. DD regularly asks me to pick her up (she's small, so this isn't really that bad). DH works long hours, so he can't really watch DD on weekends (fortunately, he generally is working from home).

From what I've been reading online about placenta praevia, it sounds like I might not be able to do those jobs if I do have it. I might even get put on bedrest. How on earth do you take care of a toddler if you're on bedrest?!

I'm going to be having this baby by C section, just like I did with DD. We're planning to have my ILs here to help with DD while I'm recovering from the C section. But I don't think having them come here for an extended period of time before the baby arrives is feasible.

Has anyone dealt with placenta praevia, with or without bedrest, while caring for other young kids? How did you do it?

with respect, your husband needs to get "comfortable" with caring for his child and quickly.

I don't know anything about his sleep condition, but can't see why he can't change nappies or put her to bed, if it is not so debilitating that he can work long hours

Your husband sounds quite useless in regard to parenting?? Can't he even do basic tasks like changing a nappy???

If it moved last time it might move this time too no? I have a posterior low lying placenta too but they're not going to look at mine again until 32 weeks - do you know why you're going back in at 22? X

Your DH seeing to use being uncomfortable to be a poor excuse of a father and husband.

I had praevia with my last pregnancy and there was no bed rest or advice to do anything different. I did have a complicated emcs with huge blood loss at 35 weeks and hospital stay of over a week. Of course the majority move out of the way, but if you do end up with hospital stays due to bleeding, he might have to cope on his own for a while - time to learn now I'd say!

Seems

I've been on bed rest for the majority of my pregnancy it would have been next to impossible to do so whilst caring for a toddler alone. Especially when I was hospitalised for 5 weeks.
It's been hard enough to rely on everyone else for my care never mind also needing to take care of someone else's needs.
I would start from this weekend showing him how to care for your DD so he can start contributing.

As others have already said, your husband really needs to step up. I don't know how he's managed to avoid doing basic childcare for 2.5yrs tbh. It's not exactly rocket science and anyway no one is born knowing how to change nappies, prepare food for their child, give baths etc. we ALL had to learn at some point .
Even without any additional issues, pregnancy can be pretty tough on our bodies, I would not be able to tolerate having a DH who didn't pull his weight in caring for OUR child.

Agreed with everybody regarding your DH, but it's mostly up to you to accept that situation, maybe it's time to put a limit. It's yours and your babies wellbeing that are on risk!!

If your DH won't / can't do childcare you'll need someone on standby. Long hospital stays might happen at short notice if you have a bleed. I was taken in an ambulance at 35 weeks - 1st DC so no childcare issues. I was in for 8 days so you need a planB!